A woman lets her nephew and his mother stay in her home for a few weeks, hoping she is helping family through a difficult moment. But when she tries to walk through her own bedroom to use her own bathroom, that help turns into a confrontation that leaves her pushed into a dresser and calling police. Before we get into how quickly this man explains himself into an arrest, hit the like button if you think letting someone stay under your roof should not mean giving up control of your own home. >> I'm sick, first. >> Mhm. >> And they got time to be scuffling with him. >> Okay. >> And stuff. >> So you So you say So he does live here with you? >> He stay here and him and his mother stay here with me. >> Okay. >> And today find them somewhere to go. >> Okay. >> And >> How long How long have they been here? >> They've been here about two or uh three weeks now. >> Okay. All right, so um >> And he gets a bed and they understand it. But you can't be taking your sickness stuff. You can't be doing all that and you know I'm sick. And you know you're about to stay here nowhere. >> Mhm. >> And stuff. You already overstayed. >> Okay. >> And stuff. >> So they do So they've been here for about three weeks with you? >> Uh-huh. >> Okay. So um All right, so before that did they live with you anywhere else? >> Uh-uh. >> No? So only here it's been three weeks? >> Um well, they did tell So two weeks. >> Okay. >> But he They've been here uh And all my damn being here. >> Okay. >> But he he gets these bad attitudes here and thinks he can take over stuff. You can't take over nobody in your house. And stuff. >> So you You said he was laying down? >> He was on my floor in my room. I had already told him I didn't want him in my room. >> Okay, so you're in in your bedroom? >> Uh-huh. >> Okay. All right, so he's on the floor in your bedroom. >> He was on my floor in my bedroom. >> Mhm. >> And I went to go around him to go to the my bathroom cuz my bathroom in my bedroom. >> Mhm. >> And I went to go around him to go to my bathroom. >> Mhm. >> And he had jumped up and just pushed me. >> How did he push you? >> To my To my dresser. >> Okay. >> And then I told him I said, "You got to come get your son." And I did. And he came in there and he hit me. And then he How did he hit you? >> He hit me like this. >> Where at? >> Right >> That right there? Okay. >> And then he went and grabbed me and pulled me and kept on You in her bedroom. And I did. >> And he went to where? >> He coming in the bathroom and he grabbed me. >> Yeah. >> And he came in and hit me. From the living room in the bathroom. >> Mhm. >> And he was coming in the bathroom. Come on. You think You think I You got your bathroom? I want to get a butcher knife and do it. >> Mhm. >> I've been on you in the bathroom. Then he went on that Open the door. Open the door. I don't want to do this. And I did. And he kept on hitting me. I said, Go. I'm going to go. I'm going to go. I don't want to go and do this. >> Mhm. >> And I did. I went to the police station and I tell I said, "Tell them what you want to tell." I said, "You open the car. You open the car. I don't be scared. Don't be scared. Don't be scared. Don't be scared. >> Mhm. >> Right there. Don't be scared. Don't Don't be scared of what you want to do. They don't do. So I called y'all. >> Mhm. You said you wanted to grab a butcher knife? >> No. I said I thought about it. >> Oh, you Okay, you thought about it. Okay. So was he sleeping or he was just laying on the floor or what? >> He was just laying on the floor on the floor. >> In your room? >> Mhm. He was talking about all >> Okay. >> And stuff. >> And went around him and he got up and pushed you. >> Pushed me against the dresser. >> Okay. Are you hurt? >> No, I ain't hurt. >> You're not hurt? >> No, I ain't hurt like I told you. >> So he pushed He pushed you against the dresser. >> Mhm. >> Are you hurt from the dresser? >> No, I ain't hurt. >> Which part of your body hit the dresser? Your back? You say he hit you he he punched you >> Yeah. >> Is it hurting? >> No, he hit hit. >> It always hurt me so >> It's what? >> It always hurt me. >> It always hurt right there? Okay. Um but you say he hit you there. >> Mhm. >> Is it with open hand, closed fist, or what? >> No. >> Closed? Closed fist? You say his mom was in the house here? >> Mhm. >> Where was she at? >> She was in the living room. >> Living room? Was there any arguments before you went around him to go to the bathroom? >> Mhm. >> No? No arguments? Okay, so no arguments at all. Okay. What was he doing on the floor? >> He was in the I bet he was doing it. >> Doing what? >> Uh Uh painting. >> Painting? >> Mhm. >> On the floor? >> Uh-uh. He got some stuff he paint on. >> Yeah, okay. >> And stuff and I had to tell him that we doing that because that stuff get on my board. >> Did you tell him that today? >> I be telling him that all the time, but he do it anyway. >> Okay. Is Is this hurting from him punching you? >> No, it it always hurt. >> Okay, it always hurts. Okay, but not from today. No? Was it a hard hit or is this >> He don't He don't try to hit me hard. He did it like He don't try to break me. He just like this. He did it. He hit me, but he don't try to hurt me. He still He did >> So he was not trying to hurt you? No? >> All right. >> Okay. So when he hit you you said he didn't hit hard. And you don't think he was trying to hurt you? And so why do you think he hit hit you, then? >> I think he He pushed me into the dresser. >> The dresser? Okay. Like he hit me Was it one hand push? Was it two hand? Or how did he push you? >> He pushed me with with both of >> Both hands. Okay. Was it hard? >> Yeah. >> It was hard? And you hit the dresser? Okay. Tell me about what happened in your your aunt's room, because >> My aunt >> You were in there drawing? >> My aunt, yeah. I was drawing. >> Okay. >> And my >> on the floor? >> Huh? >> Were you on the floor or something? >> Yeah, I was on the floor. >> Okay. And then tell me what happened. >> I I mean, you know, I think You know what I'm saying? I think that, you know what I'm saying? You know Long as long as I, you know what I'm saying? Get, you know Um Long as I stay doing whatever >> Mhm. >> You know what I'm saying? Um you know, I'm pretty much quiet. You know, I'm not thinking about nothing else too much. >> Mhm. >> You know what I'm saying? I'm trying to get this done so I can take it to where and ever it needs go. >> Mhm. >> Um throughout the day. And so that's my that's my mission out. That's my goal. >> Mhm. >> Provide provide good pieces of art for people those who who want to buy it. >> Mhm. >> You know what I'm saying? I mean, that's my that's my goal. I benefit from that. You know what I'm saying? Both physically, you know what I'm saying? How was that how was that as what look like? You know what I'm saying? I feel like this is what how I should do. You know what I'm saying? I don't have nothing else well she bumped into me. You know what I'm saying? I mean she bumps into me every morning which you know I don't have nothing to do with you know what I'm saying? Bible say be slow be not so quick to speak and be slow to anger how the Lord is. You know what I'm saying? You know what I'm saying? So you know I'm that all that matter piece of matter and peace peace is within the law just that word alone. So you know I had a little reaction. I said what are you doing like that right? You know she keep bumping into me. You know I you know so you know all that like and the being being able to afford you know what I'm saying? You know what I'm saying? um being able to afford um place to stay. It is something that I'm always focusing on. I would love to have my own place. So you know I think I think pretty much you know what I'm saying? You know long as I have that place you know what I'm saying? People you know what I'm saying? You know like man well my art reaching out to them like-minded like that. But I think pretty much you know what I'm saying? When I get to when you know I I get to something I get up to our course you know what I'm saying? A light of those myself being able to afford my own place. >> All right. >> You know what I'm saying? That's that's my space. That's my right to I mean that's my >> I get that. So she bumped into you. >> Yeah. >> And then what? What else happened? >> I get up and I push her. >> You push her, okay. >> I'm like, "What are you doing?" You know what I'm saying? Because, you know, in that matter right there, I have, you know what I'm saying? a a right to do that. But it I'm saying, [clears throat] you know what I'm saying? Um oh, it's only weeks. I'm telling you that he got more. You know what I'm saying? I'm like, "Are you okay?" You know what I'm saying? I heard about things like her falling and stuff like that, which I don't like. It's my I don't want her in a something where she affected and she falling and that that that that doesn't make sense to me. >> Mhm. >> And so, pretty much I think I pretty much I think that, you know what I'm saying? You know, you know, I you know, I'm going to be doing that like that, you know what I'm saying? So, >> So, after you push her, then what else happened? >> I'm saying, you know, I'm thinking pretty much you know, I do that >> Mhm. >> and and and I'm making sure that I'm making sure that, you know what I'm saying? You know, that I'm going to you know, um be, you know, somebody who's, you know, um uh state stating by uh stating by my my by my um >> [clears throat] >> my attitude, you know what I'm saying? Which is pretty clean. >> Mhm. >> You know what I'm saying? Yeah, I mean my my attitude is pretty clean. I you know what I'm saying? I don't come out >> All right. >> on you unless you really done something to me, you know what I'm saying? That you that you shouldn't have. >> Yeah. So, you So, she bumped into you, where did she bump into you at? Cuz I know you're laying down, right? >> Yeah. Yeah, so I was laying down and she, you know, she I was saying, "What What What are you doing?" You know what I'm saying? >> Like she's walking beside you, around you, or what what's what's the >> Yeah, she she, you know, I I'll her up against the the dresser, you know what I'm saying? I'm you know what I'm saying? I'm squaring up with her. >> Mhm. >> You know what I'm saying? And so I'm like, you know, you know, hey, you know, um don't you see me right here? You bump into me every morning. I'm stating the fact that, you know what I'm saying? I'm I'm remaining quiet. >> Mhm. >> what I'm saying? I'm remaining on my thing. Not trying to lose focus on my thing. >> Mhm. >> You know what I'm saying? You know, you like the uh um you like yours to be like that. You know what I'm saying? I do the same thing. Anything that is needed, you know what I'm saying? Anything that was wanted of me. You know what I'm saying? >> So, after you So, after you pushed her against the dresser, you squared away with her there? >> Um >> That's what you told me. >> Well, you I mean >> And then what else happened from there? >> Um I think I think pretty much, you know, as long as, you know what I'm saying? Uh I keep that you know, like that. >> Mhm. >> You know what I'm saying? I feel like you know what I'm saying? It you know, it's going to be you know what I'm saying? It's going to be something that, you know, um you know, something that makes me, you know, accordingly. >> Mhm. >> You know what I'm saying? It's my right to do that. >> Okay. So, after you did that >> It feel It makes me feel like you know what I'm saying? It makes me feel like you're trying to touch on me in the wrong way. >> Mhm. >> You know what I'm saying? Don't do that to me. >> So, after he So, after he you did that or you pushed her, you squared away with her, and then what happened from there? >> Well, I'm I'm saying I did that because, you know what I'm saying? You know, it was something that I did out of out of discomfort. >> Right. Right. Right. >> You know what I'm saying? I don't I don't come out on you, you know what I'm saying? Anything. >> Yeah. >> That That alone That alone is something that I can do >> Mhm. >> out of the fact that you is showing is showing me discomfort to me. You know what I'm saying? So why should I go through the discomfort? >> So after you push her, you scold her with her, right? Right there at the dresser. And then what else happened? Now what else happened? >> I'm saying, you know, they she was walking by, you know what I'm saying? I I pushed her. That was it. You know what I'm saying? And so you know what I mean? >> Did you push her with like two hands? Like like that? >> I pushed her with two hands. And so, you know what I'm saying? You know you know what I mean? >> Was it a hard push? Was it a hard push? >> Oh, well, it wasn't a hard push, you know. I mean, it was, but, you know, it was like, you know what I'm saying? It was trying to I'm test I'm saying you got your balance here, you know what I'm saying? Obviously, I have nothing against my aunt. >> And then she after that, did she go to the bathroom? Like was she going to the bathroom? >> To bathroom? >> Yeah. Was she like on her way to the bathroom or >> Um, I mean, I'm thinking she is headed to, you know, fix her coffee every morning. You know, I enjoy being here, you know, I love being here. >> Now >> You know what I'm saying? I love being here. >> Now let me ask you this. After you push her, right? Did you hit her anywhere? >> No, I didn't hit her. >> You didn't hit her? Like not even like a tap on the shoulder or, you know, hitting on the shoulder or anything like that? >> No, it was it was it, you know. >> it, just a push? >> Yeah. I mean, you know, like like I said, um >> Now, tell me about the pillow. Cuz it looks like the pillow was being thrown somewhere or >> I mean, I >> Cuz your mom saw it. Your mom saw the the pillow. Flying across the room. >> Yeah, I don't I don't remember that. >> remember that? >> I I was I grabbed the pillow while I was putting it back down so I can get back to my artist buddy. >> Okay. >> You know >> But your mom saw the pillow flying across the room hitting the dresser next to the bathroom. What was that about? >> Um you know Well, I don't I don't know too much about that. Oh, what No, she she had she she has to be mistaken because I feel like, you know what I'm saying? Um >> Cuz at that point your aunt was like about to go into the bathroom. Right? >> Mhm. >> And you were still over here looks like where you were at. Uh where you were laying down. I think that's where you were at. And then you as you your aunt call Did your aunt call your mom to come get you? >> Call me to come get me? >> No, no, your mom. She called your mom, right? >> Yeah, she called my mom. So, you know, I think I think pretty much, you know Um Um I'm thinking, you know, she called me she called me >> Mhm. >> and and, you know what I'm saying? You know, I'm thinking You know, soon as I um get in there, she said, "What's going on with you?" like that, right? >> Mhm. >> And I'm like, you know, she bumped into me this morning. >> Where did she bump into you at? >> I mean, she bumped into me right here. You know what I'm saying? Like, I have a problem with that, you know, um I didn't I'm saying, I didn't been in jail where I didn't seen some things and >> Do you go into her room every day? >> Huh? >> Do you normally go into your aunt's room every day? >> Um I I sleep in there on the floor. >> On the floor? >> I'm saying because, you know, um I find it comfortable. My aunt know I My aunt used to babysit me. >> Yeah. >> Um when I was younger. >> Right. All right. Just put your hands behind your back for me, okay? You're getting charged with simple battery and disorderly >> The clearest part of this case is also the simplest. He had no right to put his hands on her. Everything else he says is just decoration around that fact. This woman gave her nephew and his mother a place to stay. Not forever, not as owners, not as people with authority over the house, but as guests. And according to her, within just a few weeks that arrangement had already started turning into something much more uncomfortable. He was sleeping on the floor in her bedroom. She had told him she did not want him in that room. He was using her personal space as if the boundaries of the house no longer belonged to her. That alone tells you a lot before anyone even mentions the push. A bedroom is not just another room in a house. It is the private space inside the private space. If someone lets you stay with them, especially an older relative with health issues, the absolute minimum expectation is that you do not take over the most personal part of their home. You do not lie on the floor of their bedroom after being told not to. You do not make them step around you to get to their own bathroom. And you definitely do not treat their movement through their own room like some kind of disrespect towards you. But that is exactly how he frames it. He says she bumped into him. He says it happens every morning. He talks about discomfort. He talks about peace. He talks about art, space, money, his goals, and his right to do what he did. But the more he talks, the less helpful it becomes for him. Because eventually, through all the rambling, he says the part that matters. He pushed her. Then he says it again in different words. He pushed her up against the dresser. >> [music] >> He squared up with her. He did it because he felt she had caused him discomfort. That is not a defense. That is an admission. In a simple battery case, the legal issue is not whether the person gave a long explanation afterward. It is not whether he felt annoyed. It is not whether he thought the contact was justified in his own mind. The core question is whether he intentionally made unlawful physical contact with another person. And by his own description, he did. He may not see it that way because he keeps trying to turn inconvenience into permission. She bumped into me, therefore I pushed her. She made me uncomfortable, therefore I had a right to react. She walked too close to where I was lying, therefore I squared up. But none of that works when you remember where he was. He was on her floor, in her room, inside her house. That is the part that makes his entitlement so obvious. He is not describing a stranger invading his personal space in a public place. He is describing an elderly sick woman trying to move through her own bedroom while he is lying on her floor, even though she says she did not want him there in the first place. If there was any person who needed to move, it was him. And that is why the she bumped into me explanation collapses so quickly. Even if she brushed against him while passing, that does not give him the right to shove her into furniture. A minor accidental contact does not become permission to use force, especially against someone older, physically vulnerable, and living in the home you are depending on. The officer does a good job by not getting distracted by the man's long, winding speeches. He lets him talk, but he keeps returning to the concrete facts. Were you on the floor? Did she walk around you? Did you push her? Did you push her with two hands? Did she hit the dresser? Did you hit her afterward? That is exactly how you handle someone who is trying to bury the key facts under a mountain of explanation. The suspect talks like he believes volume of words can create innocence. He keeps filling the air with phrases about peace, the Bible, art, goals, discomfort, personal space, and his future. But the officer is not asking for a philosophy. He is asking what happened in the room. And every time the conversation returns to what happened, the answer hurts him. He pushed her with two hands. And he pushed her against the dresser. He believed he had a right to do it. That belief is one of the most disturbing parts of the encounter. He does not sound like someone who is saying, "I made a mistake." He sounds like someone who thinks the push was a reasonable response to being bothered. That matters because it shows a boundary problem, not just an anger problem. An anger problem is when someone loses control and later recognizes that they crossed a line. A boundary problem is when someone crosses the line and then tries to explain why the line should not have existed for them in the first place. Here, the line was very basic. Do not put your hands on the woman who is letting you stay in her home. He still tries to negotiate it. The aunt's statement is also important because she is not exaggerating in a way that sounds strategic. She is upset, but she also minimizes parts of what happened. She says she is not hurt. She says the area already hurts. She says he did not try to hurt her like that. She seems to be trying to describe the event honestly without making it bigger than it was. That actually makes her more believable, not less. People who are trying to exaggerate usually do not soften the accusation. They do not say, "He hit me, but he wasn't trying to hurt me that badly." They do not admit uncertainty. They do not carefully separate what hurt before from what happened today. Her account sounds like someone who is tired, sick, and frustrated, but still trying to be fair. And even with that fairness, the facts are serious. She says he pushed her into a dresser. She says he hit her. She says he grabbed her. She says he gets into spells and acts like he can take over. She says he and his mother need to find somewhere else to go. That is the bigger picture. This is not just about one shove. It is about a guest slowly turning into a threat inside someone else's home. The mother being there complicates the emotional picture, but it does not excuse him. If he and his mother needed help, then the aunt was doing something generous. But needing help does not give an adult man the right to occupy another person's bedroom, ignore requests to leave that room, and respond physically when the homeowner tries to pass. There is a harsh truth here. Some people receive kindness and then start treating it like weakness. They are given a couch, then they take the room. They are given temporary shelter, then they act like residents with equal authority. They are asked to respect a boundary, then they react as if the boundary is an attack. That is what this looks like. And the comments people would naturally have watching this are obvious. He is grown. He needs to move out. He has no business sleeping in her bedroom. He is on probation living in an elderly relative's home and somehow still acting like he is the one being wronged because she walked near him. The lack of self-awareness is almost unbelievable. He also tries to make his art and personal goals part of the explanation, but that only makes the situation more frustrating. Wanting to create art is fine. Trying to make money from it is fine. Wanting your own place is fine. But none of that gives you authority over someone else's bedroom floor. If his art requires peace, space, and quiet, then the solution is to build that life somewhere he has permission to be. Not to turn his aunt's room into a studio and then shove her when she gets too close to his work area. The officer's patience is useful here because it allows the suspect to talk himself into the arrest without feeling cornered. There is no need for the officer to argue with every strange statement. He simply lets the man keep explaining, then confirms the facts one piece at a time. That is why the arrest at the end feels so clean. The suspect is not dragged out during a chaotic struggle. He is not surprised by a hidden accusation. He is calmly told to put his hands behind his back and informed that he is being charged with simple battery. By then, the reason is obvious. He admitted enough. This is one of those cases where the legal answer and the moral answer point in the same direction. Legally, you cannot intentionally shove someone just because they brushed against you. Morally, you definitely cannot shove an older sick aunt who gave you a place to stay. The fact that he says he loves being there makes it worse. If you love being in someone's home, you protect the peace of that home. >> [music] >> You do not create the reason they need police to remove you. And for the aunt, the most important step after this is not just the arrest. It is reclaiming the house. Because once someone inside your home begins treating your bedroom, your movement, and your safety as negotiable, the problem is bigger than one police report. She should not have to step around him in her own room. She should not have to argue for access to her own bathroom. She should not have to explain why being pushed into furniture is unacceptable. He came in needing a roof over his head. He left proving exactly why she needed him out from under it.