Oh, because dude, you have no [ __ ] You piece of [ __ ] >> Oh, yeah. >> Don't do a [ __ ] >> Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. >> On August 27th, 2025, officers responded to a domestic incident involving a man who claimed he had just been punched by his ex-wife. But within minutes, the person demanding an arrest begins yelling, threatening, interrupting witnesses, and turning the entire scene into a test of control. Before this gets as frustrating as it looks like it's about to get, this might be the safest moment to hit the like [music] button because once he starts talking, you may be too annoyed to remember. >> Hello. >> Yo, what's up? You guys got punched in the face five [ __ ] times by her. >> Okay. >> She agreed for me to come out and visit him for a second. Now, she's [ __ ] drunk, punched me in the [ __ ] face. I want her [ __ ] arrested. I want my [ __ ] son. >> Where'd she punch you at? >> Right here. >> Okay. So, she told you to come here and >> Well, no. We talked on the phone. I said, "Hey, can I Guys, like, I'm in the area. Can I please see my son?" She's like, "Yeah, of course." So, I come out here, my son comes out. She let She walks him out and I tell he's got to shower. She's like, "Give me a minute." He got to shower. He comes outside. I said, "He wants to come with me." And I said, I said, "Baby boy, it's up to your mom." It's not my day. Your mom said you can come out and see you real quick. Well, then she [ __ ] punched me four times. She needs to get the [ __ ] arrested. I'm [ __ ] Dude, this is the third time she's >> Why'd she punch you? >> Go talk to her and you'll see. She's a [ __ ] psycho. >> didn't >> Dude, I'm telling you. >> Who's this over here? >> Huh? >> Who's this over here? >> Who is this over here? >> Who's this over here? >> That's That's her daughter, probably talking to her [ __ ] dad, getting brainwashed. Yeah. >> Okay. >> Seriously, yeah, please. >> Her name's Jessica? >> I want her arrested. Like, I I have every right to get violent charges. She needs to get taken out, but let me take my son before she gets arrested. >> Okay. Hello. Are you Jessica? >> Yes. You can come in, please. >> I'm Deputy Alt with the Sheriff's Office. What's going on? >> So, um I was giving my son a bath. Clearly, he still has wet hair. Um as I was giving him a bath, I heard his car cuz his muffler is very I could hear it. So, I go outside and I'm like, "What are you doing here?" He's like, "I came to see my son." I'm like, "Okay, that's fine. Well, it's not your day. Tomorrow's your day." Go outside. Let him see him. We start arguing. He starts talking about his girlfriend and like just nothing between about him. It was still old drama about me and him. About I'm fat and blah blah blah. Anyways, he hit me here with his arm. >> Why? >> [ __ ] decked him. >> Why did he hit you there? >> Why? Because this is how close he was. >> Was he trying to get around you or what? >> No. Because I come in and he was missing two teeth cuz he's talking about how sexy his girlfriend is compared to me. I'm like, "Okay, that's fine. Whatever. You're missing two teeth. I'm not attracted to you anymore." Anyways, it was like a trigger. So, he did that and >> Yep. >> Red mark on your shin is what you're saying? >> It was right here. He went like that. And that we he broke my face 2 years ago. That's why I'm here. So, I'm tired of him putting his hands on me. So, I [ __ ] decked him back because I'm going to stick up for myself. >> Okay. >> He touched me first. I will walk and you can ask him. He watched it. He's six. >> So, did you tell him to come over then? >> Absolutely not. I was completely shocked. I'm like, "What are you doing here? Today's not your day. Tomorrow's your day." I have him blocked on email, text messages, like he knows when his days are. He's leaving. Or something. He's been out here honking. My daughter has been sitting in her car. He's been punching his car. He's been honking. He's been like out here flipping my house off. >> Does he have any weapons? >> Not that I know of. He is a felon, so I don't think he can have them. He's not supposed to have them. >> Okay. >> Um But like my daughter's 17 years old. She's like, "Mom, I don't want to come in. He's in our driveway." I'm like, "Just stay in the car until the cops get here." She's like, "Mom, he's flipping the house off." >> here when this all happened or >> Um Not for this cuz she was at volleyball and cheerleading at Westlake High, but she she wants to talk to you. She will talk to you and tell you what she witnessed. >> Okay. Well, just hang tight for me, okay? >> You got handcuffs for what reason? >> What's that? >> Got handcuffs for no what for what reason? >> Well, I need to get all the information. How do you spell your last name? >> know. I'm sorry, dude. Like this is this is like five times she just like came out and punched me. >> Okay. Well, she's got a red mark here saying you hit her. >> Oh, for dude, this can break out from [ __ ] drinking. Are you serious? Her daughter's been sitting right here. Ask her. Have I hit her? Hey, have I hit your mom? >> No. >> I did? Roll down your [ __ ] window. Did I hit your [ __ ] mom? No, I No, so not tonight. Did I hit your [ __ ] mom tonight? Right. That's what >> first name? >> Steve, yeah. >> What's your address? >> It doesn't matter. Like I'm here for this. Like I did did all this [ __ ] is irrelevant. >> Okay, well it's going to be in a report, so I need >> I don't give a [ __ ] You guys always make a report. That you guys No, you don't need my driver's license. >> Okay. >> I'm [ __ ] cold. You here cuz I got [ __ ] attacked five [ __ ] times. Why the [ __ ] did she brought out handcuffs? You seen my >> Cuz she's saying that you hit her too. >> Oh, did did Are you serious, bro? >> Yeah, that's what she's saying. >> So you're going to go by that, then? >> What's that? >> Then >> No, then. >> The straight up >> You said she's been drinking? Have you been drinking? >> I'm What the [ __ ] is it to you? >> Well, are you going to drive away in this car? >> Are you going to Are you going to Are you going to Are you going to [ __ ] arrest her for [ __ ] punching me? >> drunk, I do >> You're not You're not going to arrest her for [ __ ] punching me. >> the story. You're the only one yelling, okay? So you need to calm down. >> I'm not going to calm him I'm not going to calm him down. I'm not I'm not going to calm him the [ __ ] down. >> Yelling at me is not going to help you at all. >> Listen, this is the fourth >> Honey. Calm down, honey. Were you here for this? >> I was here. >> I was not here for what happened. I was with my friend. >> No, you're okay. >> You're looking at >> Why are you so agitated? >> You're looking at me. >> Why are you so agitated? >> You're looking at me. How about that? I >> Didn't you call me here? >> called you, me or her? >> Well, I think it says Jessica Klein. >> Then why the [ __ ] are you on me? >> She's saying she hit you too. >> Are you Oh, bro. >> Okay. >> Cuz he's talking before. >> Do you feel safe just being out here? Do you want to go somewhere else? >> I'm fine with you here. I'm glad you're >> Why the [ __ ] did you just talk to her? She just pulled in two minutes before you. That's why I'm asking. >> Can you roll the window up then and just hang out in here? >> I've been here for since 7:00. I pulled up at 7:00. I can show you my >> you see any of this happen? >> I I've been seeing him out here. He's been flipping off the house. He's been >> He just pulled >> I'm talking to her. I'm not talking to you. >> I can't hear you though, mother >> Why can't you stand over there? Okay, stand over there. Okay, and I'm dealing with this. So stand over there. Yeah. Stand over there. I'm talking to somebody here, okay? Okay? What are you pointing at me for? Okay, stand over there. Why don't you stand over there? Yelling at me ain't going to do nothing, okay? Okay. Then stand over there while I'm talking to her. YOU'RE NOT GOING TO YELL AT ME. Stand over there. Then stand over You go stand over there then, mother You're going to call me and then yell at me and [ __ ] Okay, well you demanding me to do [ __ ] doesn't mean I'm going to do [ __ ] okay? You're not in charge. You're not in charge. Okay. You don't understand you're going to jail for battery. You better back the [ __ ] up. I told you to call your car. Go to Your car. You don't follow a lawful order. If you don't obey a lawful order, you're going to jail. Why don't you stand by your car? You're not listening to me. >> I'm not. >> I'm not you. Okay. She's saying you hit her IN THE FACE. SHE'S BEING NORMAL AND YOU'RE YELLING AND CURSING. OKAY. OH, YEAH? You're not helping your case. Yeah, I why >> don't you stand up? >> I don't have a [ __ ] case. She just punched me in the [ __ ] face five times. She just pulled up two minutes before you. You're a witness, [ __ ] Are you serious? >> Let me talk to her. >> Grow the [ __ ] up, [ __ ] >> I'm grown up. >> Oh, you are. Yeah, I'm a I wish. >> Yeah, me too. >> Yeah, yeah, you you just [ __ ] threatened me. You just [ __ ] threatened me. Badge number one. What's your badge? What's your badge? I'm going to jail. What's your badge? I'm No, I'm in >> Charles 25. >> What's that? >> Three Charles 25. If you don't stand over there, you're going to jail. >> Take a Tic Tac. >> If you don't stand over there, you're going to jail. >> Going to jail for what? For what, [ __ ] Cuz I got punched in the butt. >> You're going to jail if you don't go over there. >> FOR WHAT [ __ ] REASON? Why am I going to jail? I'll She just [ __ ] pulled up >> Go there. Go over there. Okay, so when did you get here? >> 7:02. >> When did this take place? >> I see called you. >> I told you stand over there. >> I don't [ __ ] have to. >> Yes, you do. I told you to. >> Yes, >> Turn around, put your hands behind your back. Turn around, put your hands Put your hands on the Turn around and put your hands behind your back. Put your hands on the car. >> You're going to take I have >> Put your hands on the car or you're going to get tased. Put your hands on the car. Put your hands on the car. Okay, put your hands on the car or you're going to get tased. >> You're not [ __ ] putting me in [ __ ] handcuffs. >> Yes, I am. >> [ __ ] [ __ ] you, [ __ ] You [ __ ] Dude, you [ __ ] tased me. >> I'm telling you, put your hands on the car. >> You, I'm not >> Put your hands on the car. >> Dude, I'm not I'm not You're not putting >> Steven, you're going to I am putting you in handcuffs. >> handcuffs. I got called you. It look Feel it. >> I'm going >> to put you in handcuffs. >> Feel my jaw >> Okay, keep your hands behind your back. >> Feel my jaw >> Put your hands behind your back. >> Feel my >> You're going to get [ __ ] tased. >> I'm going to get tased for what? I'm asking you to feel my jaw for evidence. >> get resisting, okay? >> Resisting? Dude, don't [ __ ] do this. I have I want a reason why I'm being detained. Why am I being tased? >> you you're under arrest FOR OBSTRUCTING. OH, NOW I'M UNDER ARREST. >> You mother >> Put your hands behind your back. You're going to get tased. >> I'm going to get tased, dude? Really? You're an idiot, mother >> Put your hands behind your back. >> Dude, I'm asking you feel my jaw for this evidence. I'm asking you nicely, please. >> resisting now. Put your hands behind your >> dropped here. Please feel my jaw. >> your jaw. Put your hands behind your back. I've asked you so many times. Put your hands behind your back. >> You're really Dude, I'm not putting my hands behind >> Hey, you're going to get tased. >> You [ __ ] tase me, mother really? >> don't put your hands behind your back, you're going to get tased. Okay? Put your hands >> You tase me, bro. You're going to have >> You're going to get tased. >> We're going to go resisting, bro. Why am I being tased? >> Because you're UNDER ARREST. >> I'M FOR WHAT NOW? >> OBSTRUCTING. >> OH, MY GOD. OBSTRUCTING IS [ __ ] LYING to >> And if this is going to go hands-on, you're going to get resisting, which is another >> Dude, you don't want hands-on. I'm going to tell you right now. You're not telling me I'm getting for obstructing. She's [ __ ] lying to police officers. You you. >> Okay, put your hands behind your back. >> No. No. >> If you're going to go hands-on, you're getting tased. >> I'm going to get tased. She just hit me down then. [ __ ] it. >> Okay, put your >> Take me down. Take me down. >> hands behind your back. >> Let's go. Let's [ __ ] go. Take me Take me down. >> Take me down. Put your hands behind your back. >> You, dude, I'm the one who called the >> No, and I've asked you twice to put >> You tell me I'm getting arrested, bro. >> You are under arrest for obstruction, okay? >> Obstructing? It's like he She just [ __ ] lies. >> And now you're getting You're getting resisting. >> Please feel my jaw where she punched me, please. Then I'll put my hands back. >> jaw. >> You're a [ __ ] dude. >> I'm not a >> You're a whole ass >> Put your hands behind >> you. >> Put your hands behind your back. >> FEEL MY [ __ ] JAW. >> HANDS BEHIND YOUR BACK, STEVEN. >> You don't want to >> Okay. >> I promise you. >> Steven, you're going to get tased. >> You [ __ ] tase me, I'm going to knock you the [ __ ] out. I promise. You [ __ ] tase me, I have a heart condition. I have a heart condition. I'm telling you right now. >> I've told you to put your hands behind your back. >> Shut the [ __ ] up. Bro, you tase me >> You need to put your hands behind your back. This is going to go a lot easier if you put your hands behind your back. >> to ask you is nicely feel my jaw where I got [ __ ] punched, and I'll put my hands behind my back. Feel my case is on. >> I'm going to take pictures, but you haven't let me do my investigation. >> [ __ ] I'm asking you to feel my jaw. >> I'm telling you to put your hands behind your back. >> I'm saying [ __ ] you. >> Okay. >> And I'm for real saying I'm standing on that. [ __ ] you. >> So, you're probably going to get tased if you don't. >> you up, dude. I promise you. You [ __ ] tase me, I have a heart condition, dude, and I >> You're the one >> Don't be doing that. >> You're the one. You're the one. >> I'm not the what? I'm the one who called the cops, dude. Why am I up so upset? This is the fourth time this has happened, and you guys have done nothing, dude. Nothing. >> many orders, and now you're under arrest for obstruction. I've told you that. >> Dude, you can suck my [ __ ] Dead ass. I hope I see you at a local bar, bro. Where you from? You from here? >> Huh? >> You from around here? Good [ __ ] luck, [ __ ] Dead ass. Hey, pull up one of these days. >> Okay. You're going to jail. >> You You can suck my [ __ ] >> Okay. >> 10-4. >> You pull your [ __ ] taser out, dude, something's going to happen. Like, stop. >> you you need to stop. >> I'm asking you to feel my jaw. I'm asking you nicely. My hands are on my head, behind my back. WHY, [ __ ] I'M THE ONE THAT CALLED THE [ __ ] COPS. >> that something happened. >> But like she you you know, I hit her. Where's her [ __ ] face at? She [ __ ] breaks out from >> Good mark. >> She [ __ ] breaks out from drinking alcohol. No, dude. Don't do this. I'm telling you >> you not to do this. >> Dude. >> You're the one doing this. >> Don't understand. >> You're the one doing this. >> I'm up I'm dude I'm my son shouldn't [ __ ] be here. I need my [ __ ] son. He's there. >> one making this bad. Not me. You are. >> Cuz I called the cops, dude. >> Okay, you're the one making this bad. >> I'm asking you, sir, please just real quick feel my [ __ ] jaw. >> take a picture of it. I don't have to feel your jaw. >> Take a picture of you [ __ ] >> I'm not going >> [snorts] >> Okay. >> Okay, what? >> not going to leave. >> I'm not leaving. I was talking to my daughter on the phone. >> you're going to be under arrest for obstruction. I told you that. Okay, and you're going to be having a lot of charges. >> and what? And what? And what? >> You're going to have a lot more charges. >> I'm not bumping you. I'm not touching you. >> [ __ ] did. >> Okay, turn around and put your hands behind your back. >> [ __ ] you, dude. >> Turn around and put your hands behind your back. >> reason? >> Obstruction. I told you that. >> Obstruction of what? What did I do obstruct? >> Give me your hand. >> What the [ __ ] did I do to >> Give me your hand. >> Dude, what did I do to obstruct? >> your hand. >> What did I do to obstruct? >> I told you to walk over here. >> YOU CAN'T TELL me what the >> I'M TALKING TO A WITNESS. >> OF COURSE >> TURN AROUND AND PUT YOUR HANDS ON >> pulled in. >> Turn around and put your hands behind your back. You're the one making this bad. >> You can huff and puff here. We can go. >> one making this bad, okay? You're going to jail. That's >> You can suck my [ __ ] on the way to >> You're going to end up getting tased. You're going to end up getting tased. >> You can tase me? >> I'm trying to avoid that. >> Oh, yeah, mother [ __ ] All you [ __ ] done is taze me. Yeah, tell 20 to shut the [ __ ] >> Okay, you're going to end up getting tased cuz you're going to jail. >> We're almost there. >> Yeah, we're almost there. >> Dad. >> [snorts] >> Let me talk to my daughter before I can go. >> You're not getting in the car. >> Give [ __ ] you. Hey, look. >> You're not getting in THE CAR. >> SAY I'M GETTING IN THE [ __ ] CAR? >> I'M TELLING you you're not getting in the car. >> Dude, I'm about to push you. Like, bro, please. >> You're going to jail. You're getting more charges. >> Oh, now I'm getting more charges now, of course. >> exactly. >> Dude, all I've asked your little [ __ ] ass is to [ __ ] feel my [ __ ] face. Feel my [ __ ] face. That's why to feel >> face. >> But you [ __ ] looked at her. >> Huh? I looked at you, too, and I told you I take pictures. >> I called this that little [ __ ] sergeant [ __ ] He's such a gay guy I was my neighbor. >> Okay, he's under arrest. >> I Dude, I'm going >> So, you need to turn around and put your hands behind your >> No, I'm not. Can I [ __ ] talk to someone that's not been here, please? >> But you're still under arrest for obstruction. >> You're a [ __ ] bro. Listen, I called the police. I got punched five times. Can you at least feel my face where it's like [ __ ] logged up right here? Thank you. Was that that hard, you [ __ ] [ __ ] >> Listen, now will you put your hands behind your back? You said you would. >> Listen, if he says you're under arrest, you're under arrest. There's nothing we can do about that. >> What the what the what the what? Why? Obstruction? >> Obstruction. >> That's obstruction, too. Lying about a [ __ ] crime. Go the [ __ ] arrest her. Is that right or wrong? Is that right or wrong? >> around and put your hands behind your >> your hand off your taser. >> Put your hands behind your back. >> I'm going to do this. >> I'm going to do it if you don't put your hands behind your back. >> If you That's what I had. This is all [ __ ] video. >> I'm going to tase you if you don't put your hands behind your back. >> Don't. Don't. >> Put your hands behind your back. Turn around. >> You're >> I understand. Turn around. Put your hand behind your back. >> Hey. >> Okay. >> I'm done. I'm done. No, I said you getting sued, bro. I got a heart condition. >> I've told you so many times. >> If your [ __ ] bro. >> Like I'm not resisting anymore. >> All I did was ask you to [ __ ] feel my face where she punched me. >> Hey, just calm down. >> And you [ __ ] took her [ __ ] side against me, bro. This is not This is the fifth [ __ ] time, man. >> Nobody [ __ ] gets it. >> Cut. >> Hey, can we turn this one this way, please? >> Jesse, that's [ __ ] up. You shoot me like that, for real. >> Listen, we asked you nicely a lot of times. >> Nicely? [ __ ] you didn't ask me >> Okay, but I asked you nicely. >> This dude, you really were a [ __ ] tonight, like for real. I called you out here, and all of a sudden you you just went straight inside and talked to her. Why? I asked you to feel my face five times. >> Your hand. >> This way, please. I asked you to feel my face. What did you do? I said, "I don't need to feel your face." The minute she walked up, she felt my [ __ ] face. Why the [ __ ] didn't you, you [ __ ] [ __ ] >> I said you're under arrest. That's all there is to it. >> Dude, for what? Then why isn't she under arrest? All right, all right, my bad. My bad. My bad. Why isn't she under arrest for obstructing, for lying about it? She punched me in the [ __ ] face. So, why aren't you arresting her? >> You wouldn't even let me complete an investigation. >> Cuz you're a [ __ ] dude. You didn't [ __ ] want to listen to me. You keep raising your [ __ ] eyes at me, [ __ ] I promise you I'm going to see you. >> Cut. >> I promise you I'm going to see you. >> Well, the barbs out of your ear or not? >> I [ __ ] love cops, man. Like, I'm just I'm fed the [ __ ] up, dude. I want my [ __ ] son, dude. I was trying to tell you that, bro, and you wouldn't [ __ ] listen. I No, there is this [ __ ] mother Are you a rookie or something, bro? Are you Is this your first [ __ ] year? Then learn [ __ ] something. >> You need to learn how to talk to people. >> Dude, I'll headbutt the [ __ ] out of you, [ __ ] Like I [ __ ] told you >> Hey, we're done. We're done. >> You heard the Are you don't [ __ ] push I'm walking freely. You don't have to [ __ ] push me. Y'all are getting a [ __ ] lawsuit. I promise you that. Oh, yeah. [ __ ] suck a dick. >> Let's have a conversation, okay? When we get you up to jail, we can't I can't change that right now. That's where you going. >> Dude, I want his [ __ ] cameras. >> When we We're all on camera. >> I know, sir. And I [ __ ] love police. Like, I'm friends I mean, I What will they get you up there? We're going to give you a chance to make a statement if you have something else to say in the other side of the story, okay? Listen, I'm I'm trying to accommodate you. I'm not trying to be an [ __ ] to you. Criminal. And I really apologize for talking to him that way, but he All right. I said I'm going to get you up there and get you out of them cuffs, okay? Quicker we go, quicker you get out of them. But just No, no, no, no, no, no, no. Listen, sir. Listen. My car can't be out here, please. Well, you got something that can come get it. We can have it towed for you. That's about the only option you have. I respectfully, please don't I don't want to. I'm not I'm just giving you options. All right. I'm going to shut the door and Yes, I did. I feel lump there. I don't know why it's there, though. I I have to find out why it's there. I'm saying I don't. Listen, I'm going to shut the door and get you up to jail. Watch yourself, pal. >> There [clears throat] are cases where the taser comes out too quickly. Well, this is obviously not one of them. If anything, the first thing that stands out here is how long the officer waits while this man escalates the scene in front of everyone. He insults the deputy. He interrupts witnesses. He refuses basic instructions. He threatens to see the officer outside of work. He repeatedly moves back into the investigation after being told to stay away. And after all of that, he still acts shocked when the situation becomes an arrest. That delay matters because it gives us a very clear picture of what kind of person we are watching. He is not confused. He is not simply emotional. He is trying to run the scene. He begins the call as the alleged victim. That is important. He is the one saying he got punched. He is the one demanding that Jessica be arrested. He is the one insisting that he has been wronged again, that this has happened before, that nobody ever listens, and that he needs his son. But almost immediately, his behavior starts damaging his own story. A person can be a victim and still behave badly. That is true. But in a domestic call, officers are not only listening to who called first. They are looking at injuries, witnesses, demeanor, prior history, control dynamics, and whether one person is trying to dominate everyone else's ability to speak. That is where his victim presentation begins to fall apart. Jessica's account is more specific and more consistent than his. She says he showed up when it was not his parenting day. She says he was not invited. She describes hearing his car, going outside, arguing, and then being struck near the face before hitting him back. She also mentions a much more serious history, that he broke her face 2 years earlier, that there had been previous protective orders, and that she is tired of him putting his hands on her. Those details do not automatically prove every part of her story, but they give the officer something more than a simple he said, she said. They provide a pattern. And in domestic violence investigations, patterns matter. Then there is the daughter. Her presence changes the emotional temperature of the scene. A 17-year-old sitting in a car because she does not want to go inside while this man is in the driveway tells you something before she even finishes a sentence. She is not acting like a neutral spectator watching a normal custody misunderstanding. She is acting like someone who knows what this kind of night can become. And the man proves why she may feel that way. While the deputy is trying to talk to her, he cannot stop himself. He talks over her. He curses at the officer. He demands that the officer focus on him. He points. He steps back in. He tries to control who gets questioned and how. That is not just rude. It is investigative interference. This is the part a lot of people miss. When officers respond to a domestic incident, they need to separate people and gather independent statements. They cannot safely investigate if one angry party keeps hovering over witnesses, yelling answers, [music] pressuring people, and turning every question into a confrontation. So, when the deputy tells him to stand over there, that is not some random ego command. It is a lawful attempt to secure the scene and protect the integrity of the investigation. And he refuses. He keeps saying, >> [music] >> "I called you." As if being the caller makes him the director of the investigation. But calling 911 does not make you immune from orders. It does not mean the officer works for you. It does not mean witnesses can only speak under your supervision. And it definitely does not mean you can threaten the deputy while demanding that someone else be arrested. That line, "I called you." is the center of his entire mindset. He expected the police to arrive as his weapon. Not as investigators, not as neutral decision-makers, as a tool to punish his ex-wife and possibly help him gain leverage in a custody conflict. When the officer refuses to play that role, he turns on the officer, too. That is why the yelling becomes so revealing. He is not just angry that he was allegedly hit. He is angry that the scene is no longer under his control. The deputy goes inside to hear Jessica's side. The daughter is allowed to speak. The officer does not immediately arrest the woman. And this man responds as though his authority has been personally insulted. That is exactly the kind of dynamic you often see in abusive relationships. Not because every loud person is an abuser, but because abuse is not only about physical force. It is often about control. Who gets to talk? Who gets believed? Who gets isolated? Who gets intimidated? And who gets punished for disobeying? Here, he tries to control all of it. He wants Jessica arrested before the deputy finishes asking questions. He wants the officer to physically feel his jaw instead of continuing the investigation. He wants the daughter treated as irrelevant because she just pulled up. He wants to decide when he is detained, where he stands, and whether handcuffs are acceptable. >> [music] >> And when he does not get that control, he escalates. At one point, he says he knows his rights. But the right he keeps trying to exercise is not a real right. There is no constitutional right to interfere with a domestic investigation. There is no right to stand next to a witness while she is being questioned. There is no right to refuse every placement order because you believe the officer should arrest someone else first. He can be angry. He can say he wants charges. He can ask for photos of his injury. He can request that his statement be documented. But he cannot take over the call. The deputy's patience becomes almost excessive. He warns him again and again. Stand over there. Stop yelling. Put your hands behind your back. You are under arrest for obstruction. You are going to get tased. Over and over the line is drawn, and over and over the man steps across it. This is where I think the officer waits too long. De-escalation is important, but de-escalation does not mean allowing the most aggressive person on scene to rehearse threats for 10 minutes. At some point, repeated warnings start to look like negotiation. And in a domestic violence call, that can be dangerous. The longer one person is allowed to dominate the yard, the more unsafe the witnesses may feel. And the more the officer's authority appears optional. By the time the taser is actually deployed, it does not feel sudden. It feels overdue. The man had been told he was under arrest. He refused to place his hands behind his back. He threatened the officer repeatedly. He said if he got tased, he would knock the officer out. He warned the officer that going hands-on would be a problem. He continued turning away, arguing, posturing, and refusing to comply. That is not simply asking questions. That is active resistance. His claim about a heart condition adds another layer, but it does not erase the problem he created. A medical concern is something officers should consider when choosing force. But a person cannot use a claimed condition as a shield while threatening violence and refusing arrest. The safest way for him to avoid being tased was not to announce the medical risk while continuing to resist. It was to put his hands behind his back. Instead, he treats every warning like a dare. And after the taser, the mask slips even more. He still cannot stop threatening the officer. He says he hopes to to him at a bar. He talks about lawsuits. He apologizes to one officer while continuing to insult another. He says he loves police, but only after spending the entire encounter trying to intimidate them. That contradiction is almost perfect. He does not hate police authority when he thinks it will be used against Jessica. He hates it when it turns toward him. That is an important distinction. He is not anti-police in principle. He is anti-accountability. The final conversation with the calmer officer is also revealing. Once someone actually feels his cheek, he softens for a moment. He wants that evidence acknowledged. And to be fair, the officer does the right thing by saying he can feel a lump, but does not yet know why it is there. That is the correct investigative answer. Not you are lying, not she is lying, not case closed. Just I can observe something, but I still have to investigate what caused it. That is exactly what the first deputy was trying to do before the man derailed the scene. Because the truth is, his injury did not give him permission to obstruct the investigation. If Jessica hit him, that matters. If he hit Jessica first, that matters, too. If both people use force, the order, timing, injuries, and witness statements matter. But none of that can be sorted out while he is screaming over everyone and threatening the officer. This is why domestic calls are so dangerous and complicated. The loudest person is not always the victim. The first caller is not always the truthful one. The person demanding an arrest may be trying to use the system, not cooperate with it. >> [music] >> And here, his own behavior gives officers a window into the exact control problem Jessica is describing. [music] He came to a house where it was not his parenting day. According to Jessica, he had no invitation. He allegedly honked, flipped off the house, upset the daughter, and forced a confrontation around the child. Then when deputies arrived, he tried to dictate the investigation from the driveway. That is not a man simply trying to peacefully see his son. That is a man trying to impose himself on a household that clearly does not feel safe with him there. The child custody angle makes it even more troubling. When someone says, "I want my son." that can sound sympathetic in isolation. But when it is surrounded by threats, insults, prior orders of protection, and intimidation toward the child's mother, it starts to sound less like parenting and more like leverage. The officer advising Jessica to seek an order of protection makes sense in that context. She reportedly had multiple protective orders in the past, and this encounter shows why those orders become necessary in the first place. When a person will not respect boundaries voluntarily, the legal system becomes the boundary. The irony is that he arrives demanding karma for Jessica. He wants her arrested. He wants the police to validate him. He wants everyone to see him as the wronged father. Instead, the body cam captures him becoming the clearest evidence against himself. He could have stood to the side. He could have let the daughter speak. He could have let the deputy photograph or document his injury. He could have calmly explained the parenting schedule and waited for the investigation to develop. If his story was true, patience would have helped him, but control mattered more than strategy. That is why the ending feels so inevitable. Obstruction, resisting arrest, and aggravated battery to a peace officer did not appear out of nowhere. They grew out of his refusal to accept that he was not in charge of the scene. And that is the bigger point here. Abusive people often believe they are most convincing when they are loudest. They think intensity proves honesty. They think threats prove strength. They think refusing to back down proves they are right. But on body cam, all of that often does the opposite. It shows the pattern. The man wanted officers to believe he was being bullied. Then he spent the rest of the encounter bullying everyone around him.