best of body cam I look like this today because I'm sick okay also if you didn't know all these videos on YouTube I'm always live we're over at twitch.tv/ bigboss BOS streams are kind of sporadic in December because I'm depressed but usually we stream on Mondays at 400 p.m. Pacific Standard Time come hang out with us on December 30th 2022 deputies responded to a call from a mother regarding a man who was stalking her daughter were you like invited here understand I don't understand what if I was a mom this would scare me so much that if I had to I will uproot our whole lives to protect my child somebody like this being attached to your kids is not something that you ever prepare for or expect um especially when it's just some random person and you don't know their motives what they're thinking or feeling God I a lot of things come up for parents that they think they do everything right and then here's the exter etal world coming in and you're like oh my God like I just can't I'm just thinking about this cuz they said the mom called the police and like this would be a nightmare I thought that this woman this girl was in and was about a girl who came to Florida for a girl okay is this over the internet and I thought that I was getting signs that to come out we come down okay so you were you listen to intuition from the Universe I was hearing signs from the univers I had thought that I found it play Oh from her about me oh because the I wrote about her okay do you know this person in New Jersey like is this somebody else from New Jersey yes okay so you said that you met this person at the gym how so like were you guys you guys just happen to work out at the same gym and then did you she worked there and I asked her for her Instagram okay so she was working at this gym you were just you go work out at this gym yes okay so then you asked her for her Instagram and then what did she say then originally I wanted to invite her to my birthday and it didn't end up happening what do you mean it didn't end up happening did you did you invite her did you ask her um I invited her until I found out that she was left old enough to go to a bar and and then how old is she I had sent her the message on Instagram I'm still on to hang if we want oh my God if you'd like I can pull up all the messages when did you guys meet uh the 15th of June I mean I don't trust him but yes pull up the messages did you guys carry on a relationship at all or no there was nothing physical or anything nothing phys did you guys ever hang out or talk in person ever wow that is really really beautiful Maga just said teach your kids to take rejection I love that so much like how many times have you gone to your parents like just just sad or depressed because some relationship or thing you really wanted or something like that like didn't work out talking to your kids through that rejection God they will carry it with them for the rest of their lives after their first breakup and I mean this 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shorter at checkout you can get 40% off of your order that's shop beam.com shorter or use the code 40% off all right so the the quick synopsis is uh the RP is the mother of the 19-year-old her daughter is 19 uh anyway her 19-year-old daughter worked at a gym where he was a member of and that's how they knew each other only speaking to the mother I haven't uh I haven't confirmed this with the 19-year-old but speaking with the mother there was no relationship it was just you know business he's sick and he needs help is this the mom he's telling me he got mixed signals I said from who and he said from oh my intuition people that are super delusional are are usually looking for signs that confirm their delusion and and when you're looking for things you will find them the other thing that I want to mention that has not come here up here yet that I personally believe to be true is that like if you're watching this and you're like oh my God he's just delusional or he's mentally ill he is for sure like this is like full-blown delusion I think that there's a sex component to this I think that there is an aspect of lust I think there's an aspect of sexual Obsession especially if he's essentially stalking this girl online um I'm not going to sit here and infantilize this guy because he's a little bit unwell and like say that's probably not an aspect you don't drive 20 plus hours for like like a chance at love this to me sounds like some type of sexual Obsession that was like developing online that's just what I think um it's not going to come out here it's not going to come out like he's not going to say it but that's kind of like an underlying thing and there's a lot of guys online right now that are living in their little secret sex porn dungeons they do that like I've had people that watch weird of me for years some of you just got called out that is a huge huge thing that's going on online fantasizing about people or access to certain things it's it's it's everywhere and and nobody's talking about it right but I I think that was a component in him becoming so obsessed in some way so how did you know she was in Florida want her stories on Instagram yeah was she like Tagg her location or whatever no huh no I whenever I posted a story she would post a story like a minute after few minutes after oh my God this is some of y'all what he just said that is some of y'all I just posted a story and he watched my story in 10 minutes he must have notifications on for me he likes me or tell y' I'll be like I post a story every time I post a story and then he posts a story right afterwards he must want me to see it okay you know what maybe he's not crazy I'm just kidding uh but people that you know the girles that are dulu like that you guys are looking for signs that he likes you and signs that maybe you should you know check in a little bit more say hi right that's what you're doing he he took that sign and drove down there okay we there are levels to the dulu okay are you a level one or are you a level 10 so you just decided to get in your car and drugs for them I don't want to I don't know if he asked you this already but are you guys friends on social media we were you were she unfollowed she blocked you or did you block her she blocked what was that so he she blocked him he took it as a test like oh she doesn't really mean this um it was a block and now you're not did she block you or did you block her she BL when was that um a while ago how did you see her stories um he was viewing hers that it felt to me like she was watching my stories oh my so so you have like fake accounts your your friends were uh Anonymous she had made her she had switched her account from private to public okay so you're you're still using your own account so now you went through the process of creating another account under name I would open up I would open up is that the web page my guy you open up social media what's that uh there's a lot of online websites that you can easily watch other people's stories without an account oh okay that I yeah I've never heard that either the first that we want to do is the court order if uh if we can get that and we're going to check and I'll just wait for your your daughter to come here with her information uh but we'll check both of you's information make sure that there's a uh a court order on file we'll check with uh his information in the system see if there's a court order on file there here's her license is your your daughter getting her license yeah I'm going to here I would feel a little bit more comfortable if we were out of eyesight of him yeah we were over there if I showed you some of the messages he sent to my daughter you I'm s Bo right now oh my God oh my God oh that breaks my heart oh my God that breaks my heart they told me the police department told me I reached out to them we went there on Monday they said they brought him in for fingerprinting and took all the information down and everything and they were charging him with cyber harassment cybering so they arrested him yes and and harassment and against her and then against me they charged with cyber stalking and cyber harassment and they said that guy right there it's that guy right there he came I went to the bath and my daughter said came in screaming I'm like what happened and she said Will's here and I said what oh my God also also this makes me so upset it is so traumatizing it is so traumatizing for that young girl to be at the beach and thinking she is safe and at peace with her family and she turns around and she sees the man that has been stalking her I would lose sleep I would be screaming at the police I would oh my God yeah just just hearing that she came out screaming it breaks my heart man it breaks my heart did you guys ever carry on any type of messaging relationship where you guys were talking back and full no no no so you just met her at the gym one day she worked at the gym that you went to you met her you asked her for your for her Instagram oh my God and she works at the gym and she's getting harassed by dud and she works there and you just developed this relationship in your mind not really there was never one in real life basically and you wanted to invite her to your birthday but you never did or you didn't when I was at the gym there well was my fav stream okay so you just like she was being nice to you she was she was a nice person she was attractive is what you're saying you were attracted to let me just ask you a few quick questions and and the other officer is going to talk to you as well but your mom was telling us but I want to be able to also hear from you your what's your relationship with him no relationship I worked at a gym in New Jersey and he went to the gym and the only really conversations we would had like a paid membership the only conversations we would have is hello have a good workout he came to the gym and he started getting obsessed with her I think I bet you the first time he saw her he started stalking he's a stalker he is like a straightup stalker this is not a guy that was just getting mix signals or didn't know or like maybe like he you know sometimes some people they they get it wrong right like no this is not a development thing he is a stalker he and this girl was just trying to work he found like my other social media started messaging me really weird things telling me for um my sority that I'm in we have an Alzheimer's philanthropy and we had a walk going on rested and fingerprinted yes and he was saying that he was going to come to my school to participate in the walk he has like reached out to my friend at school to ask him a good place to stay where my school is at so he could go to the walk oh my God he like messages her he was posting pictures of us yeah posting pictures of me me saying I was his Muse never had any relationship with him I just saw him at the gym I thought you guys didn't really have like conversation it was through conversations through messages like through pictures images art okay so like her stories your stories but you guys never actually communicated anything nothing verbal nothing verbal just like you're just thinking in your mind obsessing and maybe I don't know but you guys were posting similar things to the get started getting weirder and weirder and like confessing his love for me and then I would block him on one account you'd find the other one I would block him on that he would find like my friends so you're using some back Channel website to look at her Instagram and you see a story that she's in keyword okay you know how some of y'all find a fictional character in like a book or a movie or a TV show and you get obsessed with them and you create a little fantasy world with that fictional character but it's okay because it's a fictional character I was expecting a couple yeses the first one I see is somebody say yeah mine is you bro no basically he did that to her but she's a real person okay like that is like what's happening and it and it was it's not consensual okay when you guys do that with like a a a TV thing or something that's not real or something like that and as long as you don't encroach into their real life and try to make this fantasy real okay live live live in the little world okay for the most part I'm always like okay sometimes that can be very damaging to you uh you know know once it's damaging but for some people they're emulating what they're missing in their life but you cannot just pick a real life person and try to make your fantasy real how did you know that they were coming on vacation your location from um post stories on Facebook so you're friends with her mom also on Facebook she keeps her she made the stories public wow that's good she made the stories public it's her fault dude a lot of people have public profiles it's not for you I've messaged from Mom in Facebook but nothing ever really like crazy like she is well aware of my account your M her mom knows who you are you guys you guys talk she's messaged you back she's talked to you no we've just kept it to like story watching okay so you just holy that's crazy yeah we haven't really moved to the next level we just kind of keep it to watching each other's stories okay okay all right okay so maybe it's the mom watching his stories trying to monitor him because I sure the would I sure would but that sucks too because if that were true she's trying to protect her daughter but then he's seeing this random name and assuming it's her my annual reminder I say this all the time I know you guys have heard it before but I try to put it in as many videos as possible if you're dealing deing with a stalker or if a friend is or somebody close to you don't say their stalker or don't say my stalker in fact in this video she even said will called him by name this implies a relationship with somebody that desperately wants a relationship with you and stalkers don't care if that relationship is good or bad ideally they want to be a good force in your life they probably want to be your partner but then that there's a point that they become so obsessed with you that they don't care if they're a good force in your life or a negative Force they just want to be a part of it so when you say my stalker it claims a little bit of ownership of them and it gives them purpose in a person that doesn't really know where they're supposed to be in the world we're going to do everything in our power within the within the laws to do what we can to make sure that he gets held accountable for this if we can so basically when it boils down to it you knew they were coming to us so and then you sit at home up in Jersey it's cold you just decided to jump in your car that is around the corner and you drove 25 hours to Q West you know what else is such a bummer they went to Key West they they traveled down there this was probably a little vacation it's like okay scary guy mom's going to get us away from this and they go to Key West and that is where he shows up it defines stalking as a a repeated thing multiple times and although I'm sure there has been multiple repeated things back in New Jersey I'm not sure that legally we can use any of those things in conjunction with this one thing MH um again mine's not the final say or the interpretation of the law uh the sergeant onene who used to be a major crimes detective so she'll be able to interpret that and see what we can do I hope we can but I think that the way the law is worded might work against us and then he he sent her a picture he had her P her face on his uh phone screen saber and send her a picture of it oh boy this crazy movie shirt this is my crazy movie shirt yeah so they start shpping it up and and let us know what's up said this is some crazy movie okay we're taking them yeah and then after I just got off the phone with our um assistant State Attorney she's on the same page as me that if just based upon his statement along the fact that he's here we're going to go ahead and we're going to take him for stalking and then we're going to dig and see if we can get him for some type of violation and that's when I'll I'll call um your chief of police up there okay okay I do not feel comfortable which is why I called her I can't say that he's not going to follow you like I have chill bumps just thinking about it like this as a female is scary yeah am I under arrest yes yeah you can't I'm taking up here watching people and people uncomforable dude he literally even looks like one of those people that just does like aad of psychedelics or their brains are just always on psychedelics I think that I'm harmless I know I'm harmless do you think that perception people think you they perceive you as harm that's unfortunate if you if you drove across the Eastern Seaboard I would not think you like you literally almost can't get higher than New Jersey there's maybe what three states higher than New Jersey and you drove all the way you got about 40 Mi to the end of the road that means you drove the entire Eastern Seaboard of the United States to come see a girl that blocked you 6 months ago goodbye a lot of men that stalk women either have some kind of relational or perceived ownership of them from like maybe they're an ex or something or it's like a sexual Obsession you do not drive 22 hours um down just for some mixed signals like no he had a Rich delusional inner world that all centered around this 19-year-old little girl that he saw at the gym