He's in my car. >> Can you step back, miss? Can you just step back? Okay, I understand. I understand that. And now I can't get my phone to work. He won't give me the word. >> On September 7th, 2024, officers were dispatched following a report of a heated dispute between an ex couple. The woman had gone to her ex's workplace demanding access to her phone account, which he controlled. After refusing to help, he left. But she followed him to her mother's residence. There, the argument quickly escalated into a physical altercation. When officers arrived, they found the woman blocking the man's car window, locked in a tense shouting match with him. >> Ma'am, Ma'am, Miss, can you step back? Miss, can you just step back? I can't. I don't know what to do. >> Can you just hang out for a second? >> I am not hanging out. >> I need you, sir. I need you to I need you to >> Ma'am, can you step out over here, please? Can you just change my No, sir. >> My man, you have to stay. Okay, I understand that. I understand that. No, I need you to stay to talk to me to figure out what's going on, bro. >> Come here. Come here. Come here. >> No. She just punched me in the face. >> And we're going to figure that out, sir. >> We're going to figure that out, sir. >> We're going to get away. >> My man, can you please stop? Can you please stop? >> By my counting 101 for the He's leaving. >> That's not called cheating. And now I can't get in my phone to work. He won't give me the [ __ ] password. >> So I haven't been up to work in a week because he changed all the passwords and I can't get into my phone. >> What's your name? >> Courtney. >> Courtney. All right, Courtney, can you just do me a favor? I know you're a little worked up right now. Can we try and just take a deep breath and calm down, relax real quick? >> I know it's hectic. >> Is she okay? >> Does she need first aid? >> Do you need first aid or anything? >> No. >> Are you injured at all? >> No. >> No. No pain, no injury, no >> cuts, bruises, anything like that? No. >> All right. So, you caught him cheating. >> Yeah. >> And then >> and I had to get a new phone >> and I went to log in all my stuff and I can't log in because he's the primary on the account and he changed all the password. >> So then an argument ensued from that. >> He won't put in the he won't type the password in my phone. >> Okay. So then was it ever physical at any point? >> Oh yeah. >> How so? >> We just punched each other. I punched him. He kicked me in the mouth. >> All right. Do you have ID on you? >> No. >> Not on you. >> Inside. >> Do you mind grabbing that for me? >> Thank you. And it's just been >> I tried to park there so he couldn't pull off like >> Yeah. I don't know. I came around this way. >> He didn't he didn't want to talk. He just rolled the window up. He's like >> cuz he's he's lunatic. >> Yeah. I've met him, >> you know. >> It's um react. >> Uh she's going after him. >> Don't even know. West on East Main. Where does Where does he work? >> West on East Main. from there. >> Sec Chevy. Where's that? >> Okay. >> What if come back to? >> We rolled the windows up and sped off >> and I went followed him and he went here. >> Why? Why? I mean, why was he annoyed? >> Cuz he's an [ __ ] We've been arguing for months since I found him in. >> Listen, I we understand you're upset, >> but we're trying we're trying to help you >> and I we need a little more to the story than he just rolled away. Did something occur like last night that fell into a >> For months we've been going back and forth. >> Back and forth. >> Yeah, it's been >> officers arrived at a scene straight out of a daytime drama turned disaster. Courtney was in full meltdown mode, flipping between heartbreak and rage like a DJ spinning chaos. She painted the man as the villain of her story, every word dripping with betrayal. Meanwhile, the guy fled the scene, refusing to talk to cops like a fugitive from accountability. >> Ongoing battle since what? March. What's been going on over the these two months? >> I mean, just overex >> just it's just all together like, you know, he wants the kids and then he drops them off and then he doesn't want her kids. He wants >> to give his rights up and she's, you know, >> to be I mean, she's my daughter, so I take her side, but he expected, you know, she's overwhelmed for kids and he just >> Where else is he where else is he living? about wanting to sign his rights. We don't know where he lives. I don't know if he stays in hotels or he goes to Atlantic City. We don't know. >> Okay. So, we don't know any his address is in Long Branch, but >> yeah, they they have they have his information. >> That's his grandparents house. >> His grandparents? >> I think they I'm pretty sure they have his information. If not, we have officers out with him right around the corner. >> You guys have been here plenty of times for him. >> Yeah, I've met him before. Yeah. >> I believe we had him out here like sleeping in the car or something. >> Yeah, we did. Drunk. So when you after you left your after you left his job, he rolled up the window. You just what? Left. >> He left. So to get her out of his way out of his job, he came here. >> And then you followed him here. >> And then the argument continued here. >> Yeah. So I argue at his job. We argued here. >> I was up because he I I get it. He doesn't want to rough us at his job, which I understand, but you know, he's >> Did he put his hands on you? Did he hit you? >> We hit each other. >> I'm I'm asking, did he put his hands on you first? No. No. I put my hands on him first. >> Um >> that's what I'm just just telling you. Domestic violence. Have you ever been arrested before? >> No. >> I say >> uh we're going to find out. We're going to find out. >> Cuffed, but I mean I don't know if that really counts. >> Right. >> That was >> But like arrested and charged with anything? >> No. No. >> My elbow tried to like get in the car. She was trying to get in the car, >> right? >> And that's why I stayed in the car until I got her to her mom's. I, you know, I just kept the windows up and driving until I got her here. And I'm like, Jackie, help me. Help me get your daughter. She wouldn't even like restrain her so I can drive away. That's why I'm like, "What? What are you doing?" Like, "Grab her. Grab her. Grab her. Just restrain her so I can drive away." >> She broke. Are these glasses? She broke too when she hit you. She broke too. >> No. No. I'm just I know you told me that. I got I got So, you had those on. >> Yeah. Like this. She punched me across the face here. You snapped the leg. I don't know where the leg is. >> Keep a second pair in case. >> Just in case. My glasses. >> All right. >> So, you know, I work I can't really >> um but again, yeah, back to your whole obviously explain your domestic violence right to you. >> You can apply for restoring uh restraining order at any time. Just because you're signing off now and you want to go to work, you're saying no. It doesn't mean you're you're held to that. Like, oh, I said no now, I can't tomorrow. >> But that's up to you. >> She demanded that I sign my kids away. She drove to my job last Monday with the papers for me to sign. I signed them so she believed and I you you know what I mean? Like she she Mom chimed in like an unfiltered narrator, defending her daughter with the kind of conviction only family loyalty can fuel. Turns out this wasn't their first police cameo. They'd already had a few reruns. Still, credit to Courtney for admitting she threw the first punch while the guy played Cinderella, claiming to be trapped in a drama he swore he never auditioned for. >> No, but so what I'm saying is like I'm I'm doing everything I can do to not to not have to do something. You know what I'm saying? But that's my crazy like this. >> I get what you're saying. I computed where I could just you know that's >> No, it's right now because you know something like this goes again. You got to understand something. You get a restraining order. It is just a piece of paper, right? Most people it does work. But I'm just saying if you did get one or even if you didn't, she shows up to your job again. >> I understand what you did. Listen, I listen. I understand what you did. Like you kind of tried to avoid the whole situation. >> I avoid Hey, listen. Next time Poland's like, "Where's Sea Coast?" And uh is that true? Ocean drove over to Ocean Police Station thinking she would like I drove to turn in the police the police. I think she would just keep going cuz she be on her. >> I'm just saying it can't be you're better off going there locking and then calling the 911 and you're saying hey she's in the parking lot. >> So there's no like I never talked to her. I just drove. So it's just something like that we're trying to like >> I look listen you did good avoiding the situation by like driving away but you brought her back to her house. You know what I'm saying? Like and it didn't obviously help the situation. So, >> I get what you're saying. >> All right. Um, but again, >> more more words against mine, but exactly what you're saying. >> Um, and no, listen, she's not she's saying you guys went back and forth. She is saying that she started hitting you first, like started attacking you. So, again, with this, um, it's just saying that I explained your domestic violence rights to you that you can go for a restraining order. Okay. Um, this is just saying that I explained it to you. You'll initial here. And then down here, I know you said you don't want to. Right now, it just says I do not. Again, you'll initial. you get a copy of this. But again, it doesn't mean that you can't get one in the future. >> Um, and I gota I I gotta offer you like you you can come in. We do have experts. You can talk to the uh DRC response team. I know you said again you want to get to work. Um, but again, so you'll go ahead and see it. >> You'll initial uh right there next to the X. >> Yep. And then same thing, your val signature signature. >> Yep. >> Okay. And then again, this just has your info, her info on there. No, that's it. You get a copy of this. >> All right. But any any future issue, I mean, you guys have kids, so >> Yeah. >> Um I know. >> And I and I'm and I'm just telling you cuz I'm straight up. I'm not trying to hide anything from you. Like DCP gets contacted for this. >> They do get called and I'm not trying to let it be a surprise to you. >> Um that's just something we have to do. You know, it's in the >> That's what that's But again, I don't I don't want it to be a surprise to you in case they try to call you or something like that. Um, >> officers walked the tight rope of patience while the ex broke down the backstory like a podcast nobody asked for. Broken glasses, broken trust, and a ride straight to her mom's house. Pure cinematic timing. The officer patient enough for saintthood advised him on restraining orders like explaining fire safety to someone still holding the match. >> Hey man, you're supposed to. I I >> No, we had children involved. We had to All right, Courtney. So, unfortunately, I have some bad news, but we're going to make this quick and easy and as painless as possible. All right. I'm going to have to bring you in with us, >> right? You're going to be arrested and charged with simple assault. >> And we can't arrest him. >> No. >> No. >> Why? >> Because he kicked her. >> No. I mean, I got bruises all over my body. >> Okay. So the this this as I was saying before with all the rules and everything, the state wants us to we have to determine who the aggressor is in that situation. >> Find out who the aggressor is because I have a bunch of freaking paperwork upstairs. >> I get it. But I but for this course, hold on. Look, hear me. No, no, hold on. Hear me out real quick. I don't want to do this in front of your kids. If you want, I'm going to I want to go on the other side of the car with the car blocking it. >> I [ __ ] hate you. I know you do. >> I did. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. >> And Courtney, if you didn't if you've never been arrested before, you you're most likely going to be released, right, within an hour or two. And then we can even bring you back here. You can have your mom come pick you up, right? We're going to make this as quick and painless as possible. All right. And we'll I'll explain more when we get inside. All right. And I'm I'm not going to keep you in the dark with anything. All right. Just before you get in there. Tiny tiny wrists. >> Um freaking 90 lb. >> I appreciate you being cool and cooperative with me. You don't have any pockets, right? >> No. >> Just said just be cool with me, please. And we'll make this quick and easy. She doesn't want a restraining order or anything like that. If you wish to file for that restraining order, you're going to have to do so after county court. Okay. I'll explain all that to you when we get inside. All right. camera is going to be on. So, we don't have to do the the handle with care forms I was telling you about because it's summer. I completely forgot kids aren't in school. >> Um, so we don't have to do all that. I still do have to contact TCPMP. >> Um, even though the kids were inside, they were present essentially. Um, your mom even said one one of them popped out. You just in case we do the same. Then came the hard part, accountability. Officers had to decide who the primary aggressor was. A title no one wants, but someone always earns. The officers handled it with calm professionalism, though the air was thick with regret and fatigue. Surprisingly, Courtney kept the arrest drama-free. No wrestling, no shouting, just quiet acceptance of a chaotic day's final act. >> No, none that I can think of. >> Yeah. So the the reason why we had to make the decision to arrest you is like the collective events that took like you know all the circumstances that took place with you following him or going to his job and then following him back home and um I know the car is registered to you but he pays for it and there was paran pay for it. >> Huh? >> We both pay for it. >> There was some dings and dents on the car. Um his glasses were broken. >> What? >> Yeah. I broke it. >> I wasn't over there, you know. I sat with you the whole time. Um, >> if you have any questions going further, please feel free to reach out to us. We'll do our best to answer anything you got. I'm sorry you have to go through more stress and mayhem, but um yeah, hopefully uh like I was saying before, just if if there's any beef between you or even if it comes down to like you and your your parents or like the kids or anything, definitely definitely definitely do not lay hands on anybody >> that cuz that's where you messed up. >> I know. >> You know, >> I know. >> So, all righty. And and unfortunately the court doesn't like when we arrest both parties cuz like you were saying like he hit you too. >> But that's that's where we have to figure out who the aggressor is. And in this and like I was saying in this in this situation it it seems like you were kind of the one that amplified it a little bit. >> Look, I'm not saying that you're wrong in how you feel and I understand your situation's tough and it's shitty and I'm sorry. I wish I could do something do more to get you out of it, but unfortunately we can't. But I would just honestly if it's not working, it's not working. >> Yeah. No, >> I would also look into that whole him giving up the rights and child support and all that. I mean, I know you need the financial assistance, but >> um >> Craziest thing I've ever >> I wish you the best of luck. And like I said, if you need anything, please feel free to reach out. We'll come help. >> The officer gave the most patient dad lecture in history. calm, steady, and quietly disappointed. He spoke gently, part therapist, part bureaucrat, walking her through the poor choices that led here. Courtney listened, drained, nodding through the hard truths, leaving only exhaustion and quiet regret. By the end, the officer wrapped it up with empathy, not judgment. The female was charged with simple assault. If you enjoyed watching this video, make sure to like it and comment your thoughts below. Also, don't forget to subscribe to Mr. Famous body cam.