foreign [Music] thank you [Music] foreign [Music] [Music] [Music] welcome everyone [Music] thank you hey trendys my trendsetters and my trendy tribe how are y'all doing I hope y'all are ready for our first Together live reaction I think it's going to be fun so hey Veronica Monroe I don't know if she came back in yet but hey early bird hey professor Damita Joe hi lovely Linda gamble hey Shan thank you for being here Shannon hey Miss Cheryl good to see you good to see you glad you are here I will go ahead and give a couple minutes to see how many people we can get in before we start because you know once we start it's live reaction so we'll just be going so the way I saw it going was I'm gonna play it this is a make it make sense this interview of Allison which is Drew sedora's sister and you know Courtney and Candy were speaking on Allison as well as I think uh Ralph at a different time was speaking on Allison so Allison actually got it mim's got an exclusive interview with Allison so we're gonna watch well technically we're listening to the interview because my gut told me don't play the video and audio so I have audio but it's clear audio hopefully stream yard does not boot me and I don't have to find where we stop but it's it's gonna be uh Crystal Clear audio and we're just gonna stop it and go over some things as it happens so we're not going to do the whole thing without stopping it so that way it'll be a true reaction and yeah we're just going to discuss some things that he and Allison talk about hey Veronica so that's how I see it going so thank you again to my trendy tribe we got Virgo lips coming up this Saturday for sketchy Saturday what else do we have going on let me see let me see um I need to catch up with Sean um let me that's something every time I'm on live that's when I think about it so I'm gonna do it now while I'm waiting to see who else come in here let me see if I have Sean's uh Instagram I haven't seen her in a while I don't think so unless she goes under a different name she might go into a different name okay well I wanted to verify with Sean first when she wanted to tell her story so if Sean and then Sylvia um they're gonna tell their stories so uh Sean was I think up next so I just wanted to be sure before um so if I don't if I don't hear from Sean we'll go ahead and do our normal free form Friday where we just talk about all the random things and trending topics and then we have our sketches Saturday and next Friday we'll see if we have somebody scheduled for to tell their story and share that story with us yes okay so let me go ahead and set us up here what we got is this it yeah I think that's it I was in there playing around in canva yeah okay we have some clips okay there we go oops all right so hey y'all welcome welcome so we are going to start on the reaction to Alice's interview and make it make sense we will stop and talk and chat uh and all the goodness so I will be looking at your comments as we play this but I definitely wanted to get first hand what she was saying uh in response to what was said about her all right so we're gonna get started stream yard don't boot me do not boot me stream yard so okay all of that beam footage I want this to be a fun interview right so we're gonna touch on some serious topics but overall I want this to be fun what I wanted from Allison from the beginning was an interview where Allison kind of talked about Allison because her story was extremely interesting to me and the fact like she doesn't like take anything from anybody was also very intriguing and then when I found out about how upfront she was um with her mental health and she was an advocate for other people to seek treatment if they feel that they need it I really connected with Allison um in the comments because y'all know I'm Shady but fair in the comments uh Allison actually reached out to me and said I had a point and then I was like okay I think it makes sense you made it yeah and I and I do I I think you know when you start talking about mental health and we I know we're going to get into it you know we have to make it as normal as possible we should not be ashamed and just not talk about it you know what I mean so I'm glad that you're authentic and we can get into it let's get into it all right so um we're gonna play the intro first because this is gonna be a fun interview uh so we're gonna play the intro first while the intro is playing if you're new to the channel like And subscribe I don't really ask anybody for any money but I definitely say please hit that like button it lets YouTube know we are live and it's gonna get Allison's word out so uh here we go Don't Laugh at My intro it's a mess make it make sense make it make sense I want to make it make one I'm gonna start off with a Hardball question because the people want to know and you know around here the Straight Shooters we're not going to gossip much are you Drew's mother you know what's so funny I see a lot of that like there's like this whole um site where they have this whole Theory and everybody's like yeah you know Drew came out of my mom was vagina okay she was pregnant matter of fact my mama would tell you I was mad when she got pregnant with Drew okay okay that was a question that I had can y'all hear me I didn't even I think y'all can hear me I better make sure though can y'all hear me [Music] I'm double checking let me know if you can okay okay she said she can hear me okay okay okay okay okay so yeah I was you know y'all did y'all hear that theory um before about Drew possibly being Allison's daughter because they came from such a religious family and they look so so much alike which of course siblings can look alike too but that was a a strong theory that was out there especially how many years apart they are hey CDW welcome welcome so did y'all hear about that and did y'all think Drew possibly could have been her daughter I heard about it I was like I don't know I mean like anything in life is possible I don't know but okay he did okay Mills me I'm starting off strong that's a good question because a lot of people did have that question oh okay all right I'm gonna keep it going and for anybody that just came in we're we're technically listening but I called it watch along we're listening to Mims and Allison's interview to get Allison's stance on what was said about her that's Drew sedora's sister my aunt had a baby when my cousin was 25. oh Lord got your all right y'all here we go because I was I just saw my whole life being a babysitter so I was like are you y'all wait a minute y'all still doing it first of all and then you're pregnant yeah you know and I was like I'm not gonna babysit and I didn't even talk to my mom a lot when she was pregnant with Drew because it was kind of like yucky you know being like 20 something years old and your mom's like we were like is that a oopsie you know but no Drew and I have the same mother and we have the same father it's five of us and actually we would have had a younger brother after drew his name was Emil but he died in uh childbirth so and we have a younger sister named edela so we're like a b c d e Allison Brian Krista Drew edela and it would have been Emil so now I'm not her mother although I'm old enough to be her mother because some people were like she oh I am very old and old enough to be her mother um my sisters are like older than me one is technically old enough to be my mom and she doesn't let me forget it I am I changed her diaper I always tell Drew am I saying to her when she be trying to try me I'll be like I lived your life then I lived it again I lived it twice that's how old I am I'm twice your age so no no who does say that you do have more of a motherly like business role than sisterly role with her she mentioned that on the show yeah well she lived with me I was in LA I went out to Los Angeles um when I was young in my 20s and she came out there because she was you know a young actor and she lived with me matter of fact I took her to a bunch of parties she was working learning how to work the room and network so she's been with me since she was nine nine years old she came out to live but my mom would come pop in stay a month or two and leave you know but okay yeah cause you know Allison has been Drew's manager since you like a child actress she's been uh Drew's manager and I don't know if all of y'all knew about Allison's background and I'm I'm almost sure memes will go over her background but she's definitely been in the entertainment industry strong she was working on like The Rock was it it was not the rock she was working on a show called Rock um she had a lot of shows I didn't keep the list hey Charlie do not call me Dominique call me Charlie hey I can see that though it's not uncommon even now I was in the military when my youngest brother was born oh saying I thought we I thought me and my brother were far apart we're not you know in comparison to a lot of people we're only six years apart but Godly I was like y'all waited too long that's crazy at least he and I did get to grow up together so okay all right going back to the interview pretty much she was a work she's been a working actor since she was a little girl and I've been managing her what I don't think the average rhoa fan knows about Allison is she has an extensive resume so before we get into the mess Allison was like oh I don't want to really make this about me Allison doesn't really have a choice Allison run down of us like you have done some major things in the business oh I don't even know let's see um I just I started you know My Life um an entertainment industry in Chicago working for my mentor who is Sasha Dalton who who actually created the gospel festival and so I learned from her working on damir Washington how to do events so I did a lot of that in Chicago before going to Hollywood and working for Johnny Carson Productions I don't know what your crowd is but Johnny Carson Productions had an overall deal with NBC and on a show called amen with Sherman Hemsley and oh there and um yeah and so like Clifton uh Davis is like my uncle he's very good friends with my mom and my dad and we really went out there for my God brother's wedding and then I got hired on the show and like everybody I started off as a production assistant and I worked my way I worked my way up and then I worked on a show called Rock uh with Charles Dutton um that's one of my mom's favorite shows I I like to think about with the amen show I used to watch reruns I could think about the last part that shot was it Shine On Me Shine On Me she's so accomplished Sylvia she sure is and we will not let oh bobblehead Courtney reduce her to um having things that many people have as far as mental health um instances that they're dealing with she will not be reduced I'm so glad Mims interviewed her it's on 2B it's a uh a man's on TV yes that was one of them oh my gosh I oh I stayed on those channels uh I'm not trying to say anything because I'm getting to the point where people people are saying the same thing about stuff I grew up watching but the channels that like my parents like they would watch the TV land type channels and stuff I stayed over there lived over there that's why I love some Golden Girls to this day although now the theme song of course is I can't remember his name I should because everybody does give him his credit which I preach which I appreciate but um the new now it's the new Golden Girls theme not the old song but I like both but I love his rendition but yes I love me some Golden Girls yes amen is also on cozy TV I like that name I like that channel name cozy TV yes yeah and see I knew about Sherman him Hensley Hensley on Amen and then I went back and saw that he was on uh moving on up what is the uh dang what is this show called friend Allison was inserting herself though she kept running up on Courtney oh see here's the thing I'm not gonna lie to you I probably will run up on Courtney on behalf of my sibling too I ain't gonna lie to you Shan oh I ain't gonna lie to you oh I can look look Sam holy biased against Courtney holy bias tell me that now I have no Grace for Courtney I don't I'm sorry I don't I don't hey Leo's sister live laugh love how are you doing we just started going through her resume through Allison's resume right now The Jeffersons yeah moving on up to the east side I guess The Jeffersons oh because see I never got to see all in the family I didn't see that one I didn't see that one but was he a spin-off from All in the Family because a lot of good shows came from spin-offs like I heard Family Matters came from the show that one of my Golden Girls was on I don't know that show name I'm sorry but that but Family Matters was a spin-off to follow Harriet and then a lot of good shows like Frasier spun off of Cheers I love a good spin-off when they just seemed like they should have been their own show the whole time I loved amen too chance that I wouldn't as the mother gotcha to me just say hey live laugh love hey yes Jackson was a spin-off that's crazy okay I'm gonna play a little bit more see what else she got for her resume is such a good guy yep Ella Joyce Rocky Carroll uh the funny story is is that before there was a rocky Carol I'll give you a little inside a kid by the name of Jamie Foxx was on the original pilot and the show was originally called Rock and Reggie uh actor by the name of Reggie Cathy who uh actually when we did the table read it didn't kind of work out and Jamie was too funny and so they had to go back into the room and come back out and they're like okay everybody turn over your scripts this is now a show called Rock and um and that's the evolution of and I think Jamie came back and then Jamie lived with me on my floor because he has spent all his money and he didn't have any more money and so he lived with me he came back to rock oh that's crazy oh that's crazy I'ma let you finish but what Allison that's crazy first of all they didn't pick Jamie Foxx up because he was making him laugh too much that's crazy that's how I'm interpreting what she said and then um he had he lived with her for a while Jamie Foxx like that's crazy Drew running around lying and all kind of other stuff I wouldn't assert myself without knowing the whole picture the younger siblings they playing victim trust me I yeah yeah I just don't like Courtney though Shane that's what it takes me back to see this is where it gets me in trouble because I just don't like Courtney though I don't like Courtney so I'd be like well I was already on ready anyway thank you for giving me half a reason I don't I don't like her I don't like Courtney saying you bringing reasoning logic into this I want to be illogical Shin General Hospital and I think the Bold and the Beautiful still come on don't call me Dominique call me oh yeah okay okay so um yeah which was stop coming on because I thought all the I thought As the World Turns was still coming on and um I always wondered why they kept bowling abuse for only 30 minutes that was like dang like a soap opera should not be 30 minutes my little brother would have me fighting all the time in my being that's fair hey Joyce how you doing Joyce miles Shannon I want to watch it from the beginning oh you want to start and just see them I like doing that too like let me go back and see how you like evolve age the character grows you change who switches out to play the same name character that's a whole different person I do like stuff like that no it's only about three quarters still coming on wow wow wow wow okay so it's a little a little over 30 that's right this is like a weird 40 minute I don't know but yeah that's weird both the beautiful is always weird and lit to me my mom would always make me record it for her while she was at work that was too funny okay I'm Gonna Keep playing but that Jamie Foxx thing is crazy later on when it was Rock live and so he became a staple on the show yep this was pre and live in color oh yeah I actually introduced them to um Kian Ivy Wayne and like back in the day um in Hollywood hold on I'm sorry y'all she didn't even want to tell y'all now Allison oh my gosh y'all you know that sent off a whole culture and he met Kenan through Allison that's crazy Allison is a key key player I knew she was when they just kind of slid across her resume but this is crazy this is crazy okay okay sorry I want to be very clear when I started in Hollywood and and I'm going to tell my age I'll be 57 um in January and the the black people you see now were up and coming they were they were about to struggle you know uh you see Spike Lee and and and uh Jamie Foxx and you know all these cats we were out there trying to make make it and you know we all like would eat together and like you can bring the potatoes you bring the meat because we were dreamers and before Shonda Rhimes came about you know there wasn't a lot of us being represented in the network I don't know how old the crowd is but there were networks called the WB and the CW and the UPN which had created sort of this platform for all minority and black programming to sort of be housed because the major networks weren't really looking at color uh for us and then when Shonda Rhimes came about with the this beautiful brown woman you know in Scandal you know they started taking a look at these numbers and then like all this come on WB heck yeah and I love me some Scandal my husband don't even talk to me while scandals on do not talk to me don't come in the same room while the show is on Scandal was my show I'm so sorry I know she was problematic and I don't care it was it was the drama of it all oh man but yeah I thought you said uh Shan you said I've heard a lot of the stories about how the black actors would all hang together back in the day yes because even when I watched the Maya Angelou documentary and I saw who all she was hanging with I'm like damn y'all really was out here knowing each other like that is that is so cool to me um I think people like Allison sometimes are so humble but we I really love that Six Degrees of Separation tell us who you know and how they got connected to this and this and this reality stuff and how we're producing and show running this stuff right now is so amazing to someone who has been in the business a long time and seen the hey pn2 Ross I don't know if I said it out loud hey pn2 Ross glad you're here transformation in Hollywood so I have to give kudos to you know a lot of the networks that are taking heat to thing we have a voice and saying you know that we have something to say you know so black Hollywood basically really stuck together because you're not the first person that I heard say that Jamie Foxx was on the come up and he was hit like his Spirit was kind of like it attracted you and people helped him along the way uh guy Tori like we can sit here all day and I can tell you stories of like us being like you know meeting at restaurants and like uh Dolores Robinson who's Holly Robinson Pete's mom was managing what a guy by the name of Wesley Snipes you know and um a lot of these people were you know just starting out managing like Iran Wesley Snipes company for several years um that was before he went to jail I don't know why he went there before anybody says anything uh but yeah he was a good guy and all these people were humble they were hungry they you know they had these dreams and they and they manifested them you know that's so inspiring uh Shannon said Drew has some nice movie roses a teenager step up in the game I remember I remember on the game and I swear I I watched the step UPS I gotta go back and watch and recognize the fact that I'm looking at Drew I I keep I forget her face for that movie I'm not gonna lie I know she had a major role with the really big ones I never heard about music but she did sing and stuff okay okay how to get away with murder I still got I gotta catch up on all the seasons live laugh love but how to get away with murder I do like it I do I just need to get all my seasons in and you know that Spanish girl she ended up being in a movie with Jamie Foxx Six Degrees of Separation they didn't move with Jamie Foxx a little vampire movie that he got out I ain't say little but it's on Netflix he went straight to Netflix um it's called day shift it's a good watch it's a good watch like it started out like I like oh I don't know if I can handle this movie because how it started out it's it's the one of the little little brother Frank Franco's is uh his co-star like or whatever but it's got Snoop Dogg in there um little black country cowboy type of vampire Hunter [Music] um I really like it but yeah yeah that was like the span the girl that spoke Spanish on how to do it with murder that you know was under annalize Keating um yeah she's she's the lead vampire in that movie it's really good I liked it so I'm very blessed to be a part of that sort of old school um evolution of it where you know things were done on paper we didn't have we didn't even have I worked at William Morris uh before you know we called it the Super Highway before you know when I was working with Wesley we were meeting with people who were telling us oh we're going to be able to you know shoot a photo and a video and upload this and I'm sitting there like never this is weird like to us it was just like that doesn't make sense what do you mean you know so um you know so we've come a long way a long way excuse me so if you you know it sounds like you were a mover and Shaker in Black Hollywood yeah well Kenya Moore was black Hollywood royalty so did you come in contact with her I didn't you know that Kenya Moore is like on a whole nother I mean she was like a beauty queen you know what I'm saying and she was a working actor as well um somehow when you work behind the scenes like I did I was not in front of the camera you you didn't really engage with people in front of the camera they were just like stars like oh okay give my team 12 her props for the time she was out there thank you Allison people be trying to downplay her resume Allison thank you drew makes me mad that she came on roller pretending and ruining what Allison helped her build yeah Drew's gonna have to go ahead and leave row and get back to just acting because when she played t-boss I was like let me put some respect back on Drew's name you know I really I like that biopic for TLC yes Charlie said she on season two of Scandal yes get all of them in Charlie I think I'm on season two or three of uh how to get away with murder I I do love it though I do 18 in the chat 15 likes please hit the like button yes thank you I've never heard of that movie it's called day shift and it's a cute play on words because uh Jamie Foxx's character you earn more money hunting vampires at night but because he he was breaking the rules they put him on day shift and then also the vampires some of the vampires can now be in the day so is this cute cute little play on words but yeah it's called day shift Sylvia said whatever y'all wouldn't leave me alone I'll be out here almost by myself talking out loud I think it's team 12 too when she be coming here friend bye come on Allison yes I ain't gonna get it nowhere else okay you see them but we were pretty much like no I need to go over talk to that agent or who's all I heard so-and-so got a deal I heard there's a script he just wrote you know you were just trying to make it and trying to get in in the door you know um when Drew was young she you know I was taking her all around and meeting people she was like I said work in the room and stuff and you know she was working early this girl has done many things uh since the age of nine she's been a working actor con you can go to IMDb continuously since the age of nine years old and that's be do in no small part to you know her abilities but your management I was her manager I was her acting coach um I was her uh I enter her or rubbed her feet you know we we you know we depended on each other you know we called ourselves two girls against the world and um so on the game um when she started on the game that was Mar Brock who had come to my mom's house and um was talking about going to Hollywood and so we kept in touch and all these like wow I okay the name she said Mara Brock says obviously before she got married because I know her as what Mara Brock Akil I think that's crazy the world be so small sometimes and I didn't like now here's the thing I didn't like Drew's character you know how sometimes the character takes on the the real person takes on their character because I didn't like um ah what is his name he played Ike Turner um I didn't like him again until he played uh um Morpheus in The Matrix because he did two dollar good a row and What's Love Got to Do With It When he played Ike Turner Lawrence Fishburne right is that his name Lawrence Fishburne I couldn't stand that man until he played Morpheus he did I loved it though I I mean yes Lawrence Fishburne yes so no that's that was how I was with Drew for a while I was like you made now this don't make no sense but I'm like I don't know how old I was teenager late teens early 20s I don't know but I was like you made Darwin sheet Drew sedora I was so mad at her these women who were like Trailblazers you know you bet Lee Bowser and you y'all gotta remember some of these women really paved the way I was I'm still in awe still have those relationships humble people who really did the work and got a lot of no's we got a lot of turn you know turndowns and passes but you just keep going so if anything you know the the differentiation between I say a star a famous person is persistence training and humility there's nothing else these people are just people you know speak a word Allison I'm a I'ma receive that Damita Joe this this piles on to what you sent me today um but yeah y'all I'm sorry I'm taking inspiration from Allison too because I believe she believes what she says and I just I feel her but yes persistence persistence because it's so crazy how sometimes it's just not your time yet and sometimes it's not your time till later in life and then you just things start happening I think they're just supposed to happen when when it's supposed to happen um and I'd rather not burn out myself so I definitely am hoping that if there are some things that are supposed to happen for me that it happens in this correct time but yes that is so inspiring and it's and it's on any level whether that's um you know at a career that you're pursuing and I mean like you know a long-term career or your passions outside of your career um a lot of opportunities that I've gotten is because I just turned out to be more dependable than the next person a lot of times there's people that are more talented but I I you know you just try not to give up on yourself and be be dependable and yeah so persistence persistence persistence that's a word for me well so really quickly real quick Point uh no I'm actually team twirl so that was not shade to Kenya I love kitty more well well well make it make sisters team twirl too well at least I got two in the room or three because Allison says she like Kenya too golly thank goodness there's somewhere here for me is really a sweet person and my mom loves her like when I met Tanya the first time when she handed my mom a bag it's like here mama and I'm like that's my mama she was like oh my God you're so beautiful your sister I'm like yeah we met we hugged you know and my mom you know Rosanna said if you guys were watching the shows you know praying with these these women and she was there before I came so um we're definitely going to touch on you not being there from the beginning um but I kind of wanted to give people your resume one thing that she has not mentioned that I'm gonna mention whether she wants me to or not this is my favorite City Allison worked for Martin yeah I actually um yeah I produced First Amendment Martin Lawrence we filmed it here at the Chicago Theater um that's on Stars Network and we had a over 60 Comedians and yeah Martin's wonderful guy Trailblazer you know I mean I literally every episode every character I was super excited to even meet brother man from the fifth floor okay he was in the restroom and Cole and all of them uh Tommy we didn't know if he had a job or not but um all and all of them were humble like you know you see them they didn't have Paparazzi you know back then it wasn't no social media remember so they were just regular walking in the stores and stuff like oh hey hey Martin how you doing or you know uh no pop no Entourage just you just see him walking down melroy's just shopping on Hollywood Boulevard so yeah so so I I had a good time I lived in La for a long time and I learned a lot about the business I kudos to some of my mentors there and um yeah okay so this was me forcing Allison to really give us uh the one two of her career because I think it's important she has the resume that a real housewife would need not only did she connected she's humble I wanted people to know Allison which was the point of this interview so let's move on a little bit to you had a very interesting relationship so Not only was she in the business she married a Chicago Bull I did I was a I was a real basketball wife she was she was a basketball wife before Basketball Wives were a thing technically you probably could have been on there with Tammy because Tammy was I believe married at the same time yeah well I and I and I do have to clear this up too because a lot of people mixed me up with Craig's first wife who tried to set him on fire her name is Carlita Hodges that's his first wife I'm the second wife so yeah we were married he he and I are still very good friends um I believe that when you marry someone or you date someone and there's honest love and you have a child together that you do whatever you have to do to maintain a civil relationship because at the end of the day these kids didn't ask to be here you know and we was getting down or whatever have it happened you know um that we owe that to him and we have an amazing son who is the kindest I mean when people meet my son Jordan and no his name's not Jordan Jordan is Jordan Hodges um he's just a pure soul and I think you have to keep the husband and the ex-husband around because if you fell in love with him for something they're going to be something was good you know and so you know so I mean I I guess what you're saying that a successful co-parent relationship you probably would not be feeding information to a fake cousin um yeah yeah hear memes come with us should not be feeding information to a fake cousin correct let's get into it okay I'm looking up Craig's pictures now I wanted to see what he looked like I'll put one up while she's uh talking until uh I don't know this problem might be stopping a lot but yeah yeah let's get into it sorry y'all I accidentally skipped the time back when we find it eat out you know we we you know we depended on each other thing that she has not mentioned that I'm going to mention whether she wants me to or not whatever haven't happened you know um that way and um so when we got together he wanted me to manage him so of course I was excited because I'm like he was a free agent he had been in the league 16 years he's got all these championship rings um no technical files in his entire career and I started making phone calls um to all the teams like okay you know he's gonna get a look I'm gonna negotiate this deal we're going to be great and no one called me back so I'm looking at him like are you who you told me you was because I'm like ain't nobody called me back let me Google you you know and um and I can say this openly because you can go to Wikipedia and and it's already we already filmed a documentary that's out and blah blah blah but a guy by the name of Phil McKinney Who was the player Personnel for the Philadelphia 76ers had called us at home he's like and he said look dude I have I have I have children to feed there's there's a memo out on you we we can't give you a look and we're like and I just remember Jordan was a little baby he was sitting on my desk rocking in this little chair and I looked at my husband and he had a little tear in his eye and he goes I gotta I got a family too man and um in a moment I was like okay this is this is a real stuff and he was the first NBA player to sue the NBA for collusion and they did not lose or he did not win they say a statue of limitation so Phil Jackson gave Craig a job and he ended up working six years with the Lakers and most people do not know because this man is so humble he sat in the locker room and didn't sit on the bench but he was responsible for some of those earlier he was um Kobe Bryant's shooting let's say Colby yeah rings with the Lakers as well so I look at it as like you know you look at Colin Kaepernick he was a cola Kaepernick I mean yeah he spoke against some of the players yeah when he went to the White House he you know handed Bush's Administration a letter and in that letter it pretty much stated look I come before you on behalf of the impoverishing that Indigent Community um I have a bigger role than just to put an orange ball in a net and sometimes we have to not speak up at least in some of these cultures um and so that's what happened and we taught our kid to speak up you know tell your truth um don't harm anybody don't hurt anybody and and that's what happened and unfortunately that's what happened and we're friends to this day and he's an amazing man he's an amazing father I have two-step bonus I don't say step bonus sons from Carlita and um yeah I have nothing negative to say about him the people are saying you're the real Hollywood Elite oh yeah Allison was out here out here um I forgot I can't add a picture while the video playing it's gonna take the video down so that was that was silly um but it sounds like Shan is am I getting this right that he was kind of benched and not put out to play because he was treated like how they're doing Colin Kaepernick now because he did pursue activism as well so they kind of were just you know blackballed him it seems like um that's crazy yeah okay he was blackballed okay okay all right I'll keep it going oh I can't I don't see your comments but thank you I mean um let me find that one yeah see Marie oh thank you I appreciate that so I thought it was important Allison didn't think it was important but I thought it was important that she kind of give us some of her background um because it's it's extensive and it is it's a lot more but yeah [Music] um do you want to kind of start touching on like your current marriage you want to move there um that's a whole part two um my second marriage yeah but I can say this Drew's not alone you know I empathize with her and so yeah through my little situation a little longer a lot longer oh so it sounds like Allison is married to a version of a Ralph he won the boycott the NBA with players like Michael Jordan allegedly wouldn't participate the way I hear how Michael Jordan was and kind of how I still see him now I believe it let me put my banner up I believe it he's he's pretty selfish I think he's even admitted how selfish he is Drew is a liar but Ralph is a horrible person Ralph Ralph to me Ralph was already a horrible person I don't think Drew changed him to a horrible person I don't Ralph stands on his own two feet being a horrible person um I I feel like I've seen now that some stuff has come out that Drew had may have blown some things in a different way but um no Ralph Ralph is not getting away no I stopped being a fan because MJ was not for the people he's definitely selfish I saw an old clip where Michael I think I think uh trinda right now showed it to me but he was they were like if he misses one shot he got to do like all these shots I don't even know if he was blindfolded or not but it was like if he misses just one shot everybody every kid in that crowd was gonna get Jordans he missed a shot and I was like you know what I think that's selfish I like come on especially when he never came out and spoke about how people were uh getting unalived over his shoes too that was a lot to me like I was like I got I hate it I hate it to not say anything okay I'll keep going but yeah I'm sorry that um Allison's going through it with her current husband I really am I want to put out I'm gonna scroll your banner because um not only does Allison have her own podcast she's actually going to be putting out a podcast with Drew that starts this Friday so I'm gonna have this Banner we don't know yet we don't know when it's starting oh okay so don't yeah are you gonna put that up I don't know I'll put her um your personal page okay yeah what is it the the brain truth is it www dot yeah www.thebraintruth.com mental health which is a pretty cool story how that all went down but um yeah okay so I'm going to scroll that Banner so that people know where they can find you um if I have a mod in the chat um please drop her Instagram Allison jordan411. actually Allison I think I can do it okay I think I can do it so do you want to give us a little bit of information on your current marriage and then we can kind of move into [Music] um well um yeah I can kind of tell you the story about the evolution of my mental health and how all that happened um so that I can like let you guys know you know a little bit about what mental health means and and why I say this so easily so in the pandemic um I had decided to start writing A Memoir of my life because everybody was locked in so why not and so I started just you know writing it like I'm gonna write a book you know about my life in Hollywood about everything and my family whatever and some things started to come up um you know sometimes we talk some things in our little secret places and so I was molested at 10 by family member then again at 12 by an adult and these were adult um friend family friend and I was in college I hate that that's so common that that is so so common um with adults having access to children and I I and I don't know with her mom and if she'll say or not she felt comfortable saying something but it's just ridiculous how adults feel so comfortable violating children she she should have been listening to this for real for real Shan seriously I told you I had to I'm cool on candy right now y'all I I am not feeling it she needs to know about mental health right right right right you can't not do the work but no but somebody either alerted you or something set something off to that it wasn't appropriate whether you think it was only Courtney or you and you don't do the work and then you go follow up to speak on it and then still not address your role in it like that's crazy to me that's crazy to me um someone put a little something in my slushie a friend of mine and took advantage of me and then I also was in an abusive relationship at 22 with a boyfriend who beat the crap out of me and put a gun in my head pulled the trigger bullet got lodged just a lot of stuff now my mom and dad did not know any of this because a lot of times we don't talk about it we are told like be quiet of course yeah candy definitely should have been listening to this let me see where I'm at 23 37 okay here's her website though but yeah candy should have definitely been listening to this like come on just take your time on answering back and clapping back or whatever you think you're doing and get educate yourself this will be willing to he'll be offering free education in the comments like it's ridiculous I feel like Allison I was also touched by a family member as a child I'm so sorry Linda I'm sorry to hear that it's way too common this is it's just ridiculous and it just and see that's the thing that's the thing people aren't going to go shouting at every time you meet them here's my trauma here's my trauma you gotta already come with some semblance of empathy and sympathy to just not don't let some things come out your mouth or if they happen to In the Heat of the Moment you need to be uh you need what am I trying to say I want it's almost like I'm trying to use the word repent but you gotta own up to it you have to be accountable after you've done the thing like that's just ridiculous 10 and there's an adult they're like don't talk don't tell nobody um so when all that stuff came up um I started ruminating ruminating means you just keep thinking about it like it won't leave your brain you're like oh my God you start having nightmares so I kept going to the emergency room without I was having a heart attack but what I was having was a panic attack because I had never had one and so on June 27th of 2020 the hospital where I kept going had looked in the computer and said Okay She's Not Gonna just keep coming up in here um they buy petition transferred me to a psychiatric hospital where I spent 19 days and in that hospital I think like nine days I was just gone because I remember the psychiatrist like okay so you ready to talk today and I'm like I've never met you before he's like I've been talking to you every day for nine days wow I immediately went on my knees and I'm like you know wow wow wow to not remember you've been speaking to somebody for over a week let me and you've met them repetitively as crazy not I'm not saying it's literally like that I mean that is so mind-boggling like I wonder if she has some type of uh disassociation and things like that that goes on um to cope you know what I mean um because I know for me daydreaming is definitely my disassociation like sometimes uh trending right now he'll he'll have to snap his fingers like hey come back hey hey because he he says he can see it as soon as it starts happening because I we here in my house we call it drifting like oh I was drifting but yeah like I always wonder what is it like for other people and was that a form of disassociating or was that you know is it a term she's gonna tell us what it is but that's crazy not she's crazy I'm saying the situation I gotta find another word especially for this time but obviously I am not saying that Allison is crazy I I have I use that word a lot for at abnormally High intense situations or out of the out of the realm of what I would have pictured situations and stuff like that but I'm gonna try to find another word for this because I just don't want it all to be like I'm not calling her that at all it's like that disassociation thing I wonder if that's what she had I'm very curious okay I'm gonna hit play God if you get me out of here and I used to not even be able to get through this story uh but if you get me out of here I'm going to commit my life to mental wellness and go on a search what happened to my brain you know and so when I came out of the hospital I was diagnosed at that time with PTSD uh panic disorder that's people who have panic attacks and uh social anxiety because I didn't want to leave the house I think we all had that during the covet pandemic and depression because a lot of times when you have anxiety depression is their best friend so they kind of go hand in hand anxiety and depression um so I came home my husband at who I'm still married to uh was here nursing me to health and then on August 21st of 2020 he literally got in a car drove away and um I thought he went to the store but he didn't and so um I've seen him one time recently and one other time in the last three so he just left I too my family member I didn't tell anyone my mom would have been in the clink clink I was ashamed thought it was my fault it's never that right it's never the person that was violated his fault but that is that's what and that's why they referred to as Predators because they prey on fear they prey on um your innocence your a vulnerability they they see all this stuff because definitely definitely is never ever it's never ever the father person that was violated like that at all and um yeah thank you all for sharing uh lady queen Linda I it's just too common it's it's too common and I'm glad I the only thing is I I'm glad in your mind you knew your mom would believe you but you just didn't want to see her possibly uh you know go go to jail um and I don't know did you ever get a chance to talk to your mom later about it lady queen but yeah I I just I hate that how they'll trick you into thinking either the person won't believe you or they'll trick into thinking that they're gonna harm the person you tell you know what I mean so yeah it's just it's ridiculous three years and so I believe I don't know I and again I forgive him I love him but sometimes you know people when they're confronted with someone else's trauma it's remind they're reminded of theirs and they don't want to deal with it a lot of people don't want to deal with the reality uh it's still death do you part though Allison that's the thing it's till death do you part it is and you know I'm praying that he gets you know Deliverance he's you know I I I'm like this my healing took on a whole Evolution and I truly believe that this is my assignment you can talk all day about my Hollywood stuff yeah okay before she continues first of all I can tell that's her passion I definitely uh I'm glad she's explaining how was her passion but I can tell that that mental health is her passion and I know she's not trying to tell her husband's story but do y'all think that it sounds like he may have been violated as a child because she said him her going through her own trauma could reactivate and him thinking about his own trauma um so now I'm like out and you know it's something that he obviously would he seems like he definitely would need professional help because just abandon your person because you realize that they've had a similar trauma or something reenacted in you because of their trauma means that you definitely have not been able to deal properly with your own trauma but that's what I'm wondering now that something happened to him as a child it's better I can talk with people who who have or are going through this yeah yes hey Karma girl how are you how training been listening background it happened to me as a child by a relative and I told both my parents and was not believed I go to counseling this day for PTSD I am so sorry Karma girl that they didn't believe you and I I don't understand I don't understand how parents don't believe the child I'm so glad you are in counseling and definitely there's going to be a circle of supporting women around you um you know in our YouTube family but also I know that you hopefully you have a healthy circle around you at home as well I don't understand how they don't believe the child and I know it's more it seems like it's more they just don't want to believe it was that person sometimes or some of them outright blame the child but some they just don't want to admit that the person that they love or admire is capable of that and it's like look you gotta protect the innocent his trauma could have been a sister or a mom being victimized as well true had if he was there for the aftermath of that Shin I could see that and with them not maybe knowing how to express themselves and he maybe had to kind of be the the caregiver slightly you know to them as well he may have not been able to go through it again that's fair yes this person went through the same thing but never apologized for any of his um um maybe someone in his family his sister brother Joyce yep y'all on the same page sending virtual hugs Karma Girl my parents did not believe me either they didn't believe you either Linda I'm so sorry I'm so sorry and just like that and see that's that's what it is too I don't I don't keep the statistics in my head but you know if it's a group of even five of us you know that there's like two or three in the group unfortunately that that story is a part of their real life you know what I mean like it's ridiculous I'm so sorry lady apologize for your parents I know like that's not that on top of everything else Linda I hope you have someone to speak to as well even if it's not paid counseling just a support group or something um it's it's crazy how it it's the it's it it can really help when I was an adult I found out my mom knew and said there was nothing she could do about it oh no Karma Girl um I won't say the name because I don't want them to have to relive it if they play back play this back or whatever but um someone else had shared their story a few weeks ago and they were saying that uh the family was protecting the person that did it because they had a they got a government job and I'm like that's that's uh to this day my grants don't and can't stay with anyone but me lady queen I feel you I feel you I think that's if I had children I'd be the parent that they you would this I I'd be a fun mom but with but on that one I can't help you no overnight stays and all that I'm sorry and you'll thank me when you get older and realize why uh-uh when when somebody else in the family might unfortunately come tell you a story about somebody because it ain't it wouldn't have been it wouldn't have been you but yeah I I don't think I'd be an overnight stay parent either I don't think so thanks that was that was that's what counseling is for and I have a supportive husband oh I'm so glad your husband supports you 32 years I'm so glad Karma Girl Joyce said I'm so sorry hoping all have constant support yes I I concur ditto to that Joyce okay I'll keep Allison going see this is what I'm saying thank y'all that said yes you wanted to hear Allison's story um because that's how we're able to hear this and kind of comfort each other right now so thank y'all to say yeah you wanted to hear this story sorry y'all I gotta find the place it it went back on these Rings um no technical files in his entire career I have a mod in the chat today's I was just gone because I remember the psychiatric life and I don't think that I would have gotten the healing that I have if my husband was still in the house I mean we weren't in the greatest of places he you know Was a Serial cheater and he you know did some things that wasn't appropriate um and so I think we have to remove some of the dirt in order for us to see ourselves and and I've done my whole life um you know I ran my dad's Medical Practice I managed Drew for 30 years I ran his um company and I this is a season I've been in service to others yeah without even individual people pleaser and a lot of our our trauma is how we are uh sort of reacting in life you know I may not have known some of the things that I did back in the past because I did not know that I had these things tucked away I just wanted to say this too I was wondering if Allison is somebody that can fall under uh high functioning anxiety and when she said people pleasing I totally get that I I get so scared about offending um people and things like that that sometimes I bite my tongue when I really wish I hadn't you know or like just I don't know just do some things that I wouldn't have done if it was more about my self-care than than the other person being happy and stuff like that um but I now look back at anybody first of all anybody with a type A personality to me and I mean like in the sense of they just do a lot and they are on point on everything I worry about them now I never now just see a type A personality and you know who I'm talking about those over workers overachievers I don't see them now as being okay I'm always worried about them now because every time now it depends on when it's gonna come out but I it usually happens that they're not doing the best on the inside you know what I mean so I do worry about usually people that they're overachievers I worry about them I I I really do um the ones that they say check on your strong friends and uh oh how do you put it I just know that High performers don't always seem they don't so far so far I don't know if any High performers okay that's what I'm trying to say I don't know that's correct trending the constant working is usually a substitution for something yep Shan yep and and I definitely just when I was when I was still a supervisor the high performers were the ones I checked on the most one because that was me as well and I would do that and I feel like I still well I think I've gotten better in my current job I think I finally finally gotten better but it is so hard not to people please and not to do way more than is asked of you and and just be comfortable with just allowing some space for yourself hey talking out loud I was speaking about you earlier you are are you team twirl talking out loud I know we got some things that can get them done buys Me overall you team 12 but yeah I um High Achievers check on the high Achievers my husband is the reason why I told and yes this helps many people we don't know so thank you it feels good to talk to someone who really cares and supports that lifts you up flowers for all yeah yes lady queen couldn't have said it better that's the same my husband he you know he wasn't there for stuff that went on in my past but boy do I feel like I have plenty of support in my present because of it definitely I'm team twirl all day every day okay so it's me you Mills and Allison that's all we got right now talking out loud but no Alice has been really sharing and talking about how her passion turned in how she had a passion in mental health um she just was saying her husband um kind of left and you know I'm going to pick up some cigarettes type thing and then come back after he was kind of helping her after her mental uh recovery you know um so that's where she's kind of at and talking about how her passion developed and about some things that happened to her as a child and then in college and stuff like that yeah live laugh love I got four two two I got three virtual and me sitting here thank you all for liking the video by the way thank you you know and so you see some of these people a lot of people are I mean I'm gonna be honest there's 55 million people that have mental illness in this country and there's much more those are people that have gotten diagnosed to say what about the stigma that won't so you can see a lot of people they're like okay so she gonna need a mental health assessment you know and so that's where I am with that with my husband again I don't you know I haven't had a conversation with him I've been on this healing pattern again we can have a part two on that no definitely and also that's why you have a podcast talking about that's that's why I'm scrolling this Banner so people know where they can find you after the interview yeah so the podcast evolved from that the podcast was again came out of nowhere I was covering for a friend at I heart then this woman I this is like a real true story okay I covered for another man's podcast he's been on the air for 10 years very good pocket I was like I don't want to do it I don't even leave my house he was like you gonna do it and so he said uh you can interview your mom so my mom came with me and a couple of friends came the second week I felt comfortable but they said we love you we love you you're amazing they took me in a room the marketing people were like we want to offer you your own podcast I'm like no I have social anxiety we're in a pandemic I'm going back home I'm getting back in bed my husband left me new and they said well there's this man that kept coming up to the station from a psychiatric hospital who wants somebody to do a podcast on mental health and I was like oh well and something said what let me ask what's the hospital and they said the hospital I was in that was your mom look at God and I was like oh and I said it's me it's just me and they wanted to sponsor it guess what they are official partner and I'm gonna just give one more bit of transparency leading up to the Real Housewives thing so I started doing this podcast they're my partner we're rocking and rolling I have many shows go watch them they're amazing we talked about some really profound stuff I became um certified I'm QPR certified in suicide prevention and I'm a mental health Crusader and I sit on the board of the National Alliance on Mental Illness and so I'm deep in this stuff this stuff to me is is right here in my heart and I was triggered because it's you know mental health is not linear okay um I was triggered by some photos that this woman that my husband is currently talking to um had posted I guess she wanted me to see it I don't know and I kind of was like okay like uh and I kind of just played it off and I kept working luckily my producers on my podcast are psychiatrists psychologists you no my faith Mentor profit June you know and they kind of got together and was like did you get the email three in the morning I got one at four I got one and five you know they did a kind of like a mini and intervention on me and like okay I'm gonna let it rest I don't know why it's buffering at least it's pausing some on my end so hopefully if I let it rest for a minute it'll stop doing that um that's interesting uh that the doctor the psychiatrist came from the hospital she had to receive help from like that's that's very interesting and definitely Divine timing and you know reinforcing she's on the right track with her purpose like that is so um that's just a beautiful thing you know because sometimes we need more than one type of Confirmation and and things like that and I think that's beautiful stream yard yay stream yards I always I'm so tired of stream yard okay I ain't gonna say too much because I need y'all to keep going but let me get my time stamped too I try to write it down now when I pause because the Foolery is real over here with stream yards but yeah that's a beautiful beautiful thing okay let her go we don't think you're sleeping you know you're working a lot you know what's going on and that's when I just broke down and I didn't know that it had affected me in that way and so you know what I started like I felt myself I I felt myself going back like oh getting a little less teary-eyed and feeling depressed and like okay so I dealt with the past trauma but I didn't deal with the current trauma so I okay um how many okay first of all let me acknowledge Sylvia's comment because that this is a this is the truth memes is a good interviewer I this is the second interview I watched of his the first one I ever watched was when he interviewed Kiki um I actually said I sat through Kiki's interview I actually felt bad for saying you know she took a long time to get to points on other stuff but she did really well on his interview and I think that's also some credit to him the environment he sets um I'm glad of the questions that he has he seems prepared um yeah just it because you need a good interviewer as well to really get the quality out of the person being interviewed um now some people they're just good and they'll just take over and go um I think Allison Allison would probably just be she seems like I mean that's her thing like that's how she got probably to help Drew get her parts and things like that but will not take away from memes getting his flowers on this this is a really good interview um and I was gonna say when she was saying she didn't even realize she was going through it as she was in it that's a big thing too that look back is crazy when you're sitting there still doing the high functioning part you don't realize you were going through it until you just you can't anymore you kind of like she did you broke down in tears for her but you know it could be a different kind of manifestation in other ways for other people um you just and that look back that look back is crazy I love memes he's really good at what he does yes I appreciate I appreciate a good interview were I need I need to feel like you care when you're interviewing I do um whether you care because you know you're about to be entertained if it's that kind of tone or you care because this person is about to really get vulnerable with you I need you to I need you to be engaged in the interview um so yes Joy Sylvia yes I agree collect it I called now my friend who's the CEO of the hospital and I'm like I'm coming back and so I self-admitted and she gave me a private area and I spent 25 days in November of 2023 and when I came out Drew was like you know 2022 I mean 22 I'm sorry 2022 okay and um Drew called you know the family would meet you know Drew was I think filming at the time and you know she had to stop and see me in the hospital when she was coming on these family zooms it was a really hard time and to see me like that because you know I had a therapist who told me you know anxiety that whole don't like you and that depression that be with her they both thought you did and I was just like these holes they are really coming for me and so I was really struggling because I was really I was not leaving that hospital until I knew that I could deal with so many different adversities and when I was ready I stayed there I mean they were trying to kick me out after like 15 days but I was like I'm gonna go to Art therapy you know and it's not like what people think that it's not like you know One Flew Over Cuckoo's Nest we're not all in there walking around bouncing our head against the wall it looks just like a sterile it kind of looks like a college dorm sort of you have your own room you go to like a room you play you can play or you can do art therapy you can do music therapy and listen to music You Can Dance you can you know have talk it's important to say that everyone's struggles are not the same they're not everyone's struggles are not the same my my diagnosis is probably around 70 percent of most it you know I'm not bipolar or schizophrenic or bipolar too you know but we we have different departments there that for more of the extreme ones and things like that because we're going to talk talk about you know those comments about what's normal looking and all that you know the brain is in your body just like your heart your kidney your liver and brain health is just like physical health you know when you go see your doctor your C your PCP they should be doing brain assessments they should be doing you should get a brain scan like you get a heart scan like you get an EKG because your brain is it's the tower to the body and so when I came to Atlanta you know pretty much just to kick it with Drew you know and just to relax and be with my niece and nephews and my mom was there I ended up one night they were like well do you want to record since you're in the house and I said sure yeah I guess and so I told the story I just told now just like I told you on the couch with my mom and Drew and that was the first time that Drew had actually heard those details and my mom and those you know people are like those those are authentic scenes because they were authentic scenes you know we were we were really there and after that the producer came out and he was pretty much like wow you know thank you and and I felt like you know this is my opportunity I said that I wanted to normalize this conversation this is a platform and this is my chance to talk about it normally and that's what I've done that's what I'm gonna continue to do and continue to educate people who are ignorant about Mental Health foreign Courtney um for those of y'all that got to see that episode of Real Housewives of Atlanta when I get I know they only show I know they had to only show a snippet but um do y'all feel like they they showed um I don't I don't know how to describe it a fair part of her story you know in the grand scheme of how roller be you know they they show stuff did y'all get to see any part of her story in the episode um I just want to know how did they portray it because I I didn't get to watch the later episodes I was I've been trying to keep up on so many things I was like I just gotta I came back for the reunion but I didn't watch the episodes but I'm hoping the more and more I hear Allison's story I'm hoping that they showed some part that was a significant part for her yes candy definitely needed to watch this interview and since it came out after she did her recap of speak on it was it with her DJ A1 I don't know but with somebody I need her to watch this and come back again because you need to be educating yourself and understand because Alice I know is going to address her comments and Courtney's comments I need her to come back after this and say something yes Sylvia once Allison sat in her true truth and got the support she needed she became a real Overcomer and was destined by God to do what she is doing now good for her yes Joyce 18 likes 20 in the chat please like hit the like button thank y'all hey Miss main event thank you for joining us this has been a it was this is more of a healing moment than I thought it would be Miss Main Event in just a it's a safe place um and I'm just appreciating it and we're loving Allison's interview so far Miss Main Event you might have been in the bushes you might already been listening but I'm glad you came in the chat Miss Main Event it's good to see you okay y'all I'll keep playing I um I've actually when Allison and I talked I told her the the crazy part about this situation was I had just told my subscribers that YouTube can't be a business for me yet because I'm not there I'm in therapy and I'm working on myself yeah be my best self and recognize those things that I do because I haven't been diagnosed as a people pleaser um but I really do feed into other people sometimes at the detriment of myself oh I I swear y'all when I started getting into Mims This Channel I saw that in him and I don't know how much he carries it over to doing his Channel versus what he means in his actual physical life but I could tell by how Mims he is he he he is very fair and considerate and he tries his best to just give his take on something not trying to offend anyone and just trying to come from a place of honesty observance informed and I'm like I I I think mem struggles with people pleasing and I think it's because I see it in him because I know about it in me so I'm like oh but yes I memes memes said a word I am at work prepping one of my warehouses for a year in super cycle count in other words in the bushes yes this Main Event oh I've had some of those we never call this super psycho count but I've had some end of year inventory days oh my gosh Good Luck Good Luck Miss main event and you know I don't have that self-preservation tool no that does not mean that my charity work because that is really what feeds me I do I definitely get something from service to others yeah so Allison doesn't know this yet but next week I will be doing a fundraiser A friend of mine I can say it now okay A friend of mine who's a content creator his friend was murdered she's a black woman she had three children and I'm gonna be doing a fundraiser I've already started reaching out to some donors I have a goal um but I told Scotty let's not do it this week because he's still grieving the loss of his friend yeah but I will be doing a fundraiser next week um where we will be raising money for those three children um because I could lose your mother and it was of no fault of her own and there's DV in the situation and it wasn't even her DV it's deep it's heavy but this is not about that I just wanted to say Allison and I have some similarities and yeah we're talking we realized that and um and I appreciate your uh you're being authentic about it and again I I like clap clap commend because if you start that normalization that's what the people who are afraid that are sitting at home not not thinking that they can come out and say it because they've been shamed that's what it takes trust me I have people I do a lot for a lot of people I'm one of those people who is I'm more logical than I am emotional so what happens is people feel that energy and they utilize me but what happens is they're not asking me am I okay how did this exactly that's the problem there it goes asking the helpers are they okay for real for real um yeah even as a helper myself I have to remind myself to check on people that are helpers High Achievers and stuff because the person that's like that if you don't consciously think about it like time goes by and you don't realize that they needed something as well because they don't usually say it you got to kind of pry it out of them you know so yeah um and also I think why outside of this outside of how I am with y'all on YouTube I am more of a loner um because I'd rather just not let anybody down also not get taken advantage of so you just kind of just keep a super super small circle you know like actually like where you see somebody and I don't know how to put it but you like really know things beyond the surface about them and keep in contact and things like that yeah Joyce Joyce you were here yes check on your helper friends your strong friends your high achiever friends like just like you would check on the ones where they make they're more able to make it known that they need help so you're already checking on them because you already know they need help check on the ones that don't say anything and if you're the person that's not saying anything go back and refill yourself pull back take care of yourself um shoot like Melody says when you pull back and you're kind of Silent you kind of see how people you know act after you've gone silent you know hey Mary White I had a cousin who was touched and did more to my oh who touched and did more than my older sisters and cousins when they were younger and my oldest sister still has issues with it and when he passed away she was elated and that's sometimes death is the only thing and that's I'm so I'm sorry that happened to your sisters um and your and your other cousins Mary yeah sometimes man I'll I'll say this and then and let me tell you what's really really a mind if this is the mind if they act like nothing happened they just move on and act like nothing happened and that's that's is crazy to me and I mean the the Predators when I say the they that act like nothing happened and I I I'm like I don't understand how y'all how they function I don't get it but yeah thank you for coming into the chat Mary White okay I'll keep it going oh how to ask us so they don't and and here's the here's here's the gag the people that are in therapy like us are the person in the room that are the most alert I don't want to say saint but because we processed it because I know my boundaries you know because I'm assertive and no longer aggressive because I've been able to process it I have the tools to know how to ground myself or you know we're the person in the room that's more alert that can pay more attention you know and um that's what therapy means everybody I said I want a podcast get into therapy everybody it's not anything bad it's like somebody who don't give a crap about anything they're just there to help you with your brain help you process stuff they don't have nothing no nothing in the game here the game except to get you well and so people need that one person has no bias no nothing just sitting listening who are trained to say nope that wasn't right nope because we sometimes we do stuff and we think we're doing the right thing and we're not right we're saying the right stuff and we're not but it's not the right thing for Allison or I it's the right thing for everybody else around us but not necessarily us and that self-care self-love is very important love honey and you can feed off helping others but there needs to be a point where somebody picks up the phone and says brother or sister what do you need strong people check on us yeah look at all the suicide look at twitch don't say that word oh YouTube or YouTube we just say like on a live there's a couple words one alive on alive yes and we don't even say the word commit anymore just unalive they are they did not survive their mental illness so I you know yeah we can get into it the water let's get it not tequila well no I have some custom Migos and and I can yeah we're gonna get into that because Allison ain't no no dang on medication I'm trying to find out who got hold of my medical records to tell me or tell people what the heck I'm taking yellow okay I'm sorry go off Allison get in there behinds Allison I find myself falling back from people without saying a word I hate being around large crowds I hate attention being on me talking out loud that isn't that oh my gosh I wish I could help could tell you how I oh man I get you I get you I definitely get you there are times because I've had to adapt to large crowds that I'll function for a while because I've had to go you know you got your commanders calls you got mandatory events you got certain things to where it's like okay I think I you know I don't know and sometimes I feel like I want to I want to have a girlfriend's experience like the show girlfriends like I want to have that sometimes but more times than not I I'm very glad I almost just don't have that many people around me too because it it rarely seems like it turns out that way outside looking in looks really nice but self-preservation kicks back in so I want it then I don't want it you know but yes attention being on you I get that um I I bounce back and forth but not I don't I don't know how to explain it because sometimes I I do my there's certain things I like that naturally make you stand out but it's like I honestly like these things it's not that I need someone to tell me that they see me doing those things um but yeah that I I feel like I I have a portion of you and me talking out loud that's what I'm trying to say like I can definitely feel you oh you are a Leo too yes you are Leo too I gotta start remembering that yes and thank y'all for the support in the chat for each other please let's get in their behinds let's go let's go oh hold on I don't see my personality won't allow me I don't know why it's probably some hurt from somewhere Joyce burn me once you know not it's not saying fool me once but you know you get burned once you know once been twice shy all that stuff yes you may be triggered at any time any place person or someone speaking I'm a Loner too um to to this day and don't trust easily low day for me I needed to hear this I'm so glad you were here then lady queen I'm a Loner myself not like to be in a big group of people wow Karma Girl y'all yes both of my older sisters are Leos Joyce is a Leo too oh my gosh all right y'all I'll hit play I hope they're about to get into some behind no no no this is okay let's go I I kind of want to start when we're when we're when we're getting into this let's start with Courtney um I took Umbridge initially with this I'm gonna play it I'm not gonna show it okay um but we'll be able to hear you can react then um we're gonna get into some things people okay we have over 3 100 people in the chat definitely hit those like buttons um it helps everybody sorry about my background I tried to fix it my light is too bright it looks good you look good okay so I'm gonna share this so we are not going to see it but we are going to hear it hear it okay okay excellence I know that Ralph has a lot of the discovery what do you mean like when you're going through a divorce you have to provide evidence and it's called Discovery and I know that Ralph feels pretty confident about the discovery that he has put them on my phone but I wasn't going to say that on camera yeah now we see why now maybe that's somebody who should not be drinking right she say something about vodka yeah you shouldn't be leaving me in here with vodka this long maybe oh so we was drinking a lot of vodka okay maybe it was projection let me go ahead and put this allegedly banner up oh yeah maybe that's somebody who should not be drinking just my opinion allegedly yeah I she was pushing so hard for that adoption because she was like adopt this child so I can go be in my gay lover relationship and you pay the bills well I whoa who who you want me to start or do you want to start you whatever however you want to do it I do not ever think that anybody because your nephew is underage nobody should be putting that out into the universe first off just my opinion because I'm gonna call it like I see it your nephew does not want to be on camera he is now on camera because he is his parents are on a reality show part of their storyline is Ralph adopting him whatever Ralph's feelings may be to share that with Courtney and then Courtney to bring that to the cameras so that someday or maybe even now your nephew will hear that to me was absolutely disgusting disgusting and I said when I first heard it was this girl don't have no friends she don't have no real friends because if you had real friends they'll tell you to go sit down somewhere and shut up put facts where are her real friends because no they would have told you look have you not seen how the other women calling These reality shows don't be going on they're picking up nobody else mess standing your own mess if you have some like for instance uh was Courtney going through a divorce or she was divorced talk about that talk about your business but what she did was unnecessary but I obviously she did it because she wants the the peach she was she seemed like she was trying out you know like they were trying her out they gave her a lot of time um but yeah who are your and I know people like her even if they have real friends they they not go well if they have real friends that would talk to her straight they won't be around her alone because they'll see that she'll never listen to so yeah I don't know if she's ran off the real ones in her life the same question where are your real friends um okay I haven't heard this before y'all this is my first time so I don't know what's you know coming up next next so I'll hit play then we find this time stamp okay put the shovel down you know if you and she's on this like Roll tour of just running her mouth so let me just quickly because again I don't want to spend a lot of time on my nephew either because he's gonna see this and I don't want to have to perpetuate it but oh first of all uh Ralph he has his last name he always talked about adopting him he took his last name his name is Jose pivot you know and they even shared this story of the the thought there the birth father they put it on the show you know it was a touching story and they they gave their all to this so it was no question that he was going to adopt he started writing this so-called book that we can use I don't know it's toilet paper but yeah let's go ahead and get on to Ralston that's where she's going right now okay welcome back Professor Damita Joe um 23 likes 25 in the chat please hit the like button thank y'all um how do you and did y'all see the tweets that he was uh sending out sorry did y'all see the tweets he was sending out um talking about at one same same message he's like how can I adopt uh your son or Josiah however he said it if his actual father wants to be active in his life but then at the end he says respect the father in me or something weird Ralph put in his message um but then it's like yeah no no don't try to not claim our child when you wanted to go out and write a whole secret book but you didn't even tell me about about our sad child that's known you since they were three years old and and has your last name like just say you knew you were on your way out this marriage because for all intents and purposes as the mom of course I would think you're adopting our young son that really basically only knows you and he don't even know how to talk to the dad that's in prison it was awkward that one time I watched it I knew then Ralph was up to something drew should have took note and moved to court yes he at that time because you're using my child his oops his message was right if that was the case he switched he kept going he kept going it he can't have it both ways in the same message you got to read his tweet Shan I'm liking this interview that I really don't like drew around oh we don't neither well I don't talking out loud I don't I don't I really don't like Ralph Drew and I'm pretty sure how to finish up the episodes I'd even more probably not care for Drew either um but yeah Drew Drew been catching up in too many lies herself you cannot attempt adoption and write that oh are you Shane are you saying like if he's going to be writing a book like that he should be attempting adoption like it would make sense for him to attempt adoption I want to make sure I understand Courtney is Ralph's side chick it's a strong possibility I said at the least Linda this is where I stand with it at the very least um she's attracted to Ralph because they're not related by blood from the way they explained it it's like they're related by marriage as cousins I think she's attracted to Ralph if they haven't actually done anything Courtney's ready to stop up any words Ralph says like a biscuit because I I feel like she's attracted to Ralph and if Ralph isn't Ralph maybe also attracts the Courtney and I'll take that away but if not he at least knows he can use her as the mouthpiece because she is ready and willing to be a mouthpiece talking about I don't like them either I didn't finish my sentence the second comment was the rest of it oh okay yeah that's what I was saying okay Courtney is not Ralph's side chick she's trying to earn a spot um I both can be true now I'm not saying she is the side chick I don't know that far I just don't know but I do think Courtney thinks Ralph is an attractive guy and it's maybe easier to buy into what he said I feel like it's something there I ain't saying they went anywhere with it but did you notice Drew's mother's face during that episode when Ralph was talking about the adoption oh in this season I I didn't notice and I I multitask a lot so even when I am watching my eyes aren't always watching too though that's the problem I agree he's using her for a mouthpiece yeah because she's a good one to have she wants she wants the attention and she already of course you know she's it's weird to side with Ralph because if Ralph and Drew separate separate her divorce Drew is the housewife Ralph can go so it's like I mean I guess that's why she butted up to uh Marlo helping her clear her record and stuff that'll be I guess her whoever to stay I don't know I don't know okay let me see I'm not taking her outside but Drew was letting him do too much on national TV without making any moves I agree with that Drew a lot a lot she allowed a lot as well there were so many red flags if you just look at the the red flags related to the child there was a lot of red flags um I don't know Drew I don't know girl okay going back to the hit play if they haven't done the business it won't be long oh talking out loud you think it's coming hey Louisiana chick 318 hey I look Louisiana chick 318 that's that's uh well that's not only Shreveport but I know about that area code though yes Barksdale Air Force Base go I believe cousin Courtney and Ralph are kissing cousins I won't be surprised if she and Ralph come back as a couple next oh God on my thumb in my mouth where's the throw up emoji Joyce said Shan I agree Linda Linda agrees is talking out loud it's coming oh I'm gonna throw up in my mouth oh guys no oh I said I at least believe it's a possibility I'm not completely convinced but I am convinced that Courtney would be open to it and Ralph I mean he's dirty dog he probably open to it too oh Louisiana chicks say hey love Shan hey Louisiana chick I can't see Ralph choosing her though she doesn't have money Ralph wants Limelight too though so he might trade her not having that much money for if she can keep the Limelight going okay let me keep it going y'all cause this interview still got some time and I don't know how long y'all gonna be willing to stick with me so I'm Gonna Keep it going another cold slopping Martel situation dang Mary okay here y'all go anyway uh he was writing his book and so for her to have this Insight information she don't got nothing I'm gonna be real first let me just say Courtney Rose keep my nephew's mouth name out of your mouth or any child that's below the belt it is representing the character of who you are and as we were talking about mental health you can go to the braintube.com I have all kinds of resources and maybe you just may just need to talk somebody or get some type of evaluation because that can't be a sane person to talk the way you're talking about a child and about anything that has to do with his life disgusting when when when Ralph talked about adopting him then he recanted that so her and Drew has money she don't need nobody to be adopting her child for nobody's money Drew's been working since the age of eight like I said earlier nine she doesn't need it they're called residual she continues to work she's got a movie coming out right now with Lil Wayne's um daughter um she's got a television series she's getting ready to work on I mean the woman works and the past was good I watched it oh in the past yeah my sister's an amazing actor she was trained on stage I trained her she's had many other coaches and trainers so we don't need Ralph's money okay and okay okay y'all put in some stuff some hot stuff in this chat okay talking about loud said Ralph has money I thought I thought Drew was a broke actress I thought Ralph was was broke ain't gonna lie to you I thought we were still trying to pin his job down like Tommy talking out loud I ain't gonna hold you I didn't think Ralph was the one that had money I I'm not gonna lie to you honestly Drew made her son a storyline so the adoption is open game now the adoption may be open game for the show because Drew did talk about it but I'm inclined to believe Ralph did push for adoption and all of a sudden pulled back I don't know if he actually pulled back because he spoke to the dad that's in prison or what but I do believe Ralph initially was pushing for adoption I don't think Drew has money and why is Courtney getting all the smoke when she wouldn't be saying this stuff if Ralph didn't tell her that's the thing that's why you can't be going and speaking for people because who do we keep seeing we keep seeing Courtney okay that's why I'm Ralph still needs is is in my mouth still being held accountable Courtney needs to sit back stop being his mouthpiece because you you can't go along and say these things if Drew has money why don't she pay people well who else didn't she pay besides that Chef slash nanny because I don't know what was going on with that but does Drew not be paying people like charae Drew has a long list of credits she's not broke okay okay Ralph never spoke to that man we need to ask for phone calls from prison if they can get these so-called phone calls that Ralph had with that Dad Ralph has been doing some pillow talking with Courtney allegedly allegedly allegedly I think Drew was pushing for the adoption I'm sure she definitely would have been enthusiastic about it happening but I I feel like he pulled the rug off from under her I don't know I just I and I with the way I see Drew and I really really see her again this time because the first time when she was calling who she calling Jezebel spirit and all that stuff I I know now that Drew does put 20 on 10 but I feel like Ralph was I don't know I feel like he pushed it too okay Ralph been texting Marlo to say see I don't see it with Ralph and Marlo although they've been texting um and again I said a piece of me thinks that there's space for it that's I think there's space for it Rafa's pillow talking with the side mouth Courtney I'm leaving space that that's possible but I think I think I know Cody's being his mouthpiece and I it it's not to me it's not just a cousin Connection in the sense of like sharing how you say you're your cousins gospel gossip because you grew up with your cousins if I'm not mistaken I don't know if you meet a cousin in a year and y'all just start gossiping about each other stuff I don't know I don't know is it Courtney from Florida and that's where Ralph went and got loose oh Lord I think Drew wants the adoption to make it seem like she is perfect in my opinion dang talking a lot and I you know I love your your thoughts talking out loud because I do think you're a very thoughtful person um I've sought out and Drew on my own anyway I just I definitely just don't like Ralph for sure that's that's why I'll be so heavy on Ralph Courtney is the coleslaw of Rolla um about money so I doubt Ralph is banging mark thank you yes you are you are so and oh oh oh okay talking a lot as a content creator y'all be getting so caught up talk out loud as a content creator if Live Laugh Love is in here she's also a content creator um so yes they had oh and and talking out loud be putting it in with with Martel and and you she calls coleslaw yuck mouth oh my gosh oh I love it I love it okay all right y'all and she has some coleslaw popsicle sticks one time on her image which was hilarious I didn't necessarily grow up with them I was away in the military and other places so they talked to me because they usually want me to say or do something gotcha Shan got you gotcha but you okay I know you didn't grow with them fine okay let me stop cause I'm gonna tell you what Courtney's night I I just I got a lot of smoke for Courtney like I got for Ralph Ralph Is Not Innocent in my eyes um and I don't know Courtney's just I don't I don't for whatever reason she's so gung-ho to do it she is and I don't like her and I don't like it okay let me see where we're at okay I'm keep going so that statement alone um was idiotic um and I do want to say this Ralph is coaching her because he was trying to coach me when I was in Atlanta he was trying to coach me to turn against my own sister can I drop this mic foreign I believe it I believe it Ralph seemed like he'd be coaching people to get them to say what he wants and he'd be testing them out to see if they gonna do it um yeah yeah so let me just say this to you um we have a good time my issue because I've already told Allison when I do my reviews even my favorites you know I'm judging what I see on screen and I don't care I'm gonna say it I did not like Drew because of Ralph I always felt like there were from the moment that we found out that Ralph was in Tampa and nobody in his family knew I was thinking either this is the worst way to start your Housewives career or you are really married to a trash box this is just my opinion and so I technically did not really start giving drew a chance till um it was announced that Ralph was going to be gone that's my God's honest truth because I I just I'm not a fan of rap IST Ralph is sharing Ralph is Sharon you know I think he has like an apron line or something like that I never really gave your sister a chance because I did not like Ralph it oh so she got hated by default huh well let me tell you something you know and this is ah I mean I my sister and I we have worked together for 30 years she has fired me many times and I have quit like you know I'm not saying stuff because I'm her sister I'm saying things because it is true and when I think about their relationship I think about my mom has said something um to us as as girls because they you know my parents and and the reason I'm really talking to because as you know my father just passed away which you know is very hard because our father was literally like we all were Daddy's Girls Andrew's having a tough time I mean we're grieving as a family and then we have to deal with this stuff um on top of what she's going through and and thank you God for having me go through it first so that I can stand for her and so with regard to to Ralph and all the stuff about [Music] um whatever this person knows or doesn't know um Drew and Ralph it I can't talk a lot I don't want to say a lot about the marriage because you know they're going through a divorce right now but I can say this my sister protects her husband and that's what you're supposed to do right my parents have been married for 61 years my mom has said we've been married for 60 something years I think 61-62 and that means we've been through some stuff well she said the other word before she was Pastor we've been through some so ain't nobody out here been through anything more than what my parents have been through I I mean I'm not gonna sit here and say the stuff that rap is on but you keep you know I come from a generation you keep your stuff in your household and you try to work it through you're in counseling you're in prayer my mom is in there staying at the house praying with you and when he went to Tampa I was on the actual phone with Drew and my mom was at the house this is not for show this wasn't anything that we they planned you know it really happened and it really was hurtful so she was like I think he left where did he go and you know and he didn't come back and so she you know she has kept a lot of things close to her heart close to her chest which a wife does you know what I'm saying you know with her marriage but as stuff started coming out and he started getting on camera saying God knows whatever and just whatever it was like after a while and then people started saying you know I don't know if we want to get into you know why people have this disdain for her um she lies I'm trying to figure out where's the lie I don't know can anybody tell me where any lies are like I heard people saying she didn't really break her leg she really did she really got injured I was managing her when somebody knocked her down on stage and she had her Achilles then she broke the other one on camera I was uh when he went to Tampa that wasn't a lie my mental health she wasn't using me to exploit me let me get this straight I was on first season boo-boos I had filmed with Drew first season I was actually on some of the FaceTime stuff with her I was making phone calls but I wasn't in a mental state at the time to really put my mental health story out so they actually deleted me out of the first season so I was there she didn't have to exploit me she was concerned about me she was like look you're not this ain't sounding right this is not gonna work for you and so she was with me for three years in my mental health she doesn't need to exploit me I'm a grown woman I am here to tell my own truth and so where's the lies though give me give me one just give me one give me one so I feel like this is probably the only part when she said where's the lies that you know because the juice that's some lying oh man Drew has done some lying but it's good to know that uh she's been withdrew since her first season hey live laugh love we was dropping your name in here um Live Laugh Love talk out loud to Leo too you probably already knew that and I know she's told me before but my memory be just whatever you know but um yeah Drew juice Drew be lying Drew do lie I like I like Allison though it's hard to believe her about Drew now she's got the big sister slash big sister mom eyes for Drew though Drew is not gonna ever do no wrong and probably Allison's eyes you know what I mean it's hard to keep track of Drew's lies yes I keep getting phone calls I got you speaking of phone calls live laugh love we gotta listen to the next uh phone calls from prison for Cheryl strawberry husband uh they dropped another one live laugh love so we gotta go we gotta listen to that Drew lied about dating the the king I was out the door then there and then there's the I kissed the girl I didn't kiss the girl oh here we go she ain't gonna listen she's not listening okay okay maybe Allison considers it fabrication instead of Lies Joyce and that's at best Joyce I'm telling you she might not even see Drew lying period like not lying I feel like Allison that's her baby that's her baby um and you know how it is when somebody baby they just you just don't see them you just like no no that's not what it is exactly that's why I don't believe her I'm going live at seven to discuss the oh live laugh love okay you know I'm gonna try to join if you still on when I'm off you know I'll be trying to be over there okay dang um I wonder if they'll let us do reactions like let us play the call as long as we break it up and stuff because that's how I really want to do it she's not going to put Drew on blast no not at all okay y'all keep going Godly little left you know I want to be there no this is not Allison saying this this is how the Straight Shooters do it okay I feel like there was a push from Ralph to secure this spot on the show and they came in as a team the problem was in my opinion Ralph diverged well I mean she she wanted to support her husband that's just it drew if you really really know Drew and and and there's she's got real friends and her family Drew is one of the sweetest people like it is like a lot it took a lot from being attacked constantly you know anybody that knows it's in Hollywood who have worked with us they love us I mean the brand for our for some stuff we're doing they used to call us two girls against the world we were just me and her we get on the set we pray before we eat we and you know we pray in our trailer we keep to ourselves we get out there they call her to take drew that she does it the first time the second one's for safety you know what I'm saying she's professional we were just on a meeting with a network the other day and they were just like oh my God we love you guys but this show and and you can see me on there it gets you to places you didn't know you could get to and having your household you know and your husband going rogue and saying stuff on camera and just doing stuff privately and leaving and you're still dealing with real life though like you know you're saying one minute but we're dealing with 24 hours or however long and so unfortunately these people that are saying well she's alive she's this or that you know a lot of stuff wasn't planned it was okay we're together we love each other you know we're going to do this together it's about family you know we didn't know he's going to go to Tampa and not tell nobody we still don't know what that nigrange was you know what I'm saying do you know what Ralph does for a living um I know that he okay before she answers that question what do y'all think Ralph does for a living talking out loud said she caping yeah she casing for her baby talking out loud is he serious what do y'all think somebody said something in Tech that's all I can hear he do something in Tech oh my gosh what does Ralph do and she's about to say all I know which means it's still a little sketch sketch he's like Tommy from Martin exactly exactly he doesn't have a job okay let me keep going he uh worked for um Google was it Google I know he's in the tech business I know that I know that he works in the tech business I know he does some really strategic stuff where he has to sell to corporations about the advancement of Technology like it's not like a Tommy situation he does have a legitimate job you know I've seen him in meetings on Zoom meetings and stuff he he really is like working his butt off like he does something it's just too advanced it's above my paper I don't know a lot about technology Allison you just ran down a whole resume um one thing that I always picked up on this is just me this is not Allison speaking was when Drew would say he's in Tech he's in Tech typically you know if you're like an investor like um Tanya's forever fiance or you know like you know um Candy's husband he initially worked in production then we found out after they got married he was the OLG was his brainchild uh Kenny Moore's husband on the restaurant um and you could find it right I found it very interesting that once Drew was actually away from Ralph she was like I technically can't tell you what he does that to me was that to me was a sign I I look at things I connect the dots and you know I'm always a person who if I feel like you're a fast talker right off the bat I have my boundaries up and you know Ralph could not work okay so he does have a legitimate job again Drew is a wife you know she is and the Bible says she's something Miss up to her husband and that was in order and so a lot of things because he lives and works in a corporate environment you know some of the stuff that he was doing in the reality space you know he probably you know it just doesn't work I have family members that don't want to be on the show because they work in Corporate America and so there's a little different kind of vibration than if you work in the entertainment industry so a lot of things that Drew would do is just to protect him and she and he has had a lot of different jobs but it's always been in Tech and it's always been in sales we just don't really know honestly and not not to say that he doesn't really have a job you know he we just don't know I mean and me personally I don't really care okay yeah you know I it was always taking care of his children as long as he's taking care of my sister and treating her well that's where I that's where I do my litmus um I don't have to know your resume I don't have no idea I gotta know who your boss is but are you uh of Sandu and and doing what you're supposed to do as a husband and as a father I don't think feeding Courtney I we were supposed to go another route and we were going to end with route but since we're here with Ralph my from my vantage point just as a viewer because I'm not in your family I felt like Ralph State now that I know or now that I personally think Ralph has fed Courtney a lot of the ins and outs of his marriage and divorce and everything allegedly allegedly um I feel like what happened was he stayed in the marriage fed adversaries everything that he wanted them to know about Drew then after the season was over and everything was filled filmed he filed for divorce that's just my opinion no he had all talked about divorce way before they started talking about on the show he told me I remember being somewhere and I was crying like don't divorce so he's been talking about it we he he's a very strategic dude you know he does stuff I remember calling Drew when she was on the set oh no see that's that's the thing that's the thing Allison if they want to leave let them leave time I don't divorce no Drew bounced back she could have bounced back uh-uh uh uh let them go if they want to go she was trying to protect him he's a kept man that's why Marlo says she in Tech like oh no yes I'll let him go Allison I wonder which time was that that he tried to leave oh no he could have gone okay I'm keep going because I'm trying to make up some time doing the past and telling her that and I shouldn't have but I was in the house and I was just seeing things that I did not like and that was like what he said he banned me from the house or whatever is because I saw him day one I see you we see each other you know and so I was there like oh hold on now horseshoe and he had moved out of the bedroom like it was like for no reason they'd have a fight nothing it was like bye babe see you later because he's strategic for whatever reason um and so I called her and told her I was like girl you know moved out the bedroom she was about to do a scene and she was like okay I gotta deal with this you know what I'm saying and I'm like oh I'm so sorry I felt so bad you know but it was just stuff that he was just doing and tagonize and just bully and you know it'd just be like it's it's insane like I've not seen that I mean narcissism behavior and it's just I'm just gonna protect whoever it whether it's my sister or anybody um specifically you don't know anything that you particularly said to get you banned from your system you're a narcissist and you control them dude and chill like whatever and he just didn't like it or me protecting my sister way before there was an Atlanta housewives you know they've been together nine years you know they would live in a Chicago not far from me and I come over there and and speak my mind and so that's just who I am and that's who I'm gonna be you're not disrespectful because I think somebody said that I slammed the door in his house you ain't gonna be slamming no door I didn't I didn't even slam a door I don't even have that many doors but you know okay Sylvia good question why try to convince your sister to stay in a bad marriage I think they must war with their super religious background because isn't their mom like a pastor or something I think they war with that to the to the Desmond of their own excuse me care I think I don't know maybe his ways came out more later I don't know because she's definitely like not here for Ralph but there's times that she was like stay stay now I wasn't starting to get on my nerves oh no but it was due to fail he is not the average ninja I know I know I know I know I was respectful but I mean we're family we should be able to talk and say look you know I didn't like the way you said that or I don't like the way you did that that one cool bro you know I got I got Brothers I got uncles I got cousins you know what I'm saying every my whole family witnessed it my sister they all have something to say I'm just saying it here because things needed to be addressed now I do want to talk about this Courtney really quick because I don't know how much time we have but we're on your time is not his cousin and I don't know when they cook this up or how they cooked it up but um she is a unverifiable fake cousin Courtney we're gonna stop calling her cousin Courtney she's unverifiable fake cousin Courtney I met her when I got to Atlanta hold on I didn't know that we were just going with fake cousin Courtney I thought it was through a marriage or something I know we just we can't trace it period oh snap okay she's gonna talk about how she actually met her the first time okay and my mom we went out with Drew and she said she wants us to meet Ralph's cousin because that's what he told her and so we like hey cousin you know and we we're at this club she was you know like I'm like you know she was telling me she was already a housewife she was telling people that was sitting next to them that was asking for pictures from Drew um you know oh my God your juice take a picture she was like I'm on the housewife too who says that so I'm like oh my gosh she's a housewife so we were trying to introduce her to this dude I don't want to say who that is but he had no interest in her because he probably saw something to Glow I don't know and so we kicking it we kicking it we kicking it we thinking she's cousin Courtney and so after we leave there that's all we know and then I didn't see this broad again until like I don't know another event I don't even know like I think the peach social or something I don't know I ain't never been around her that many times and so all I know is we went down to Yuji which is North Carolina where Ralph grew up where they claimed first because the stories has changed the evolution of the cousin tree um that they were cousins so man Drew specifically me went around to all the cousins hey nice meeting you also y'all know cousin Courtney and I showed a picture we don't know her who is she she was she who her peoples you know and they trying to go through the lineage and asking all these questions nobody listen to me he lives in his little bitty town where everybody walks with no shoes and they go from house to house how don't nobody know you okay and that's where you say you work so that was the first red flag this when we met at the club she was telling me she knew all these people in Chicago like I have a lot of friends that are owners of this and this and that and she was like oh my God girl I know her oh my God girl that's my family so we were like jamming like oh my God you know my friend Melody you know my friend Charmaine you know my friend it I was going down the list of all the bad bees in in Chicago like you you in my circle like oh my God so I was texting Melody Winston who she said she knew and she said I could say her name who her daddy married because she showed me a picture and I I was like okay I was texting her and she goes no don't tell her yet I don't want her to know because you know I'm just I don't want anybody to know oh red flag red flag red flag oh my gosh oh this is hitting too close to home on this part wow wow wow wow oh I don't like Courtney oh my gosh um what did we okay I know they said a lot they said a lot in there okay oh and I was thinking Courtney's story changed on how they were cousins just like kimi's story change on how she met Maurice that's what I was thinking when she said the story changes yeah oh man the family's going through the lineage and can't nobody can't nobody come up with the connection okay okay that's your family it's your girl okay so I just stopped went on about my business now it wasn't until she called Drew or we found out about the that she said Drew us and then I asked her and she said so people who are listening and watching as I heard some comments too that well everybody calls everybody a and then Ralph said well you you you called her a first of all now y'all know if I called my sister a the opportunist would have already said that a long time ago Mr train Mr out there want to run his mouth would have said that because his whole goal is to break up me Andrew's relationship that was a goal from the beginning we're too close and he was I was in the way it's a lifetime movie and so uh no but my point is when she called her that and then she said she didn't and then all this drama and all this she started coming after monetta at the My Health retreat um that's when I started looking at her little side at that's when we me and Drew were like hmm that's something a little weird about this and we saw piecing stuff together I started calling everybody in Chicago and I started being like okay so do you know this girl and so they would go to their Instagram go through and say like nope don't know I never seen her okay check next check is the same thing candy did before she was even on the season don't nobody know how unverifiable fake cousin Courtney so that's what she is so her talking all this smack about oh me and my mental health and she was gonna stay away from me and uh girl stay away from me again I have therapy I have tools I can help you like I need to stay away from anybody that will speak on anybody's child anybody's husband we need to stay away from you and I particularly don't want to stand next to you because somebody gonna throw some at you and it may miss you and hit me so that's what the real gag because you have a problem you're not his cousin and and speaking on somebody's marriage I've known um what was the other one she said did we play that I can I can play that one hold on yeah we got to get that correct um rap basically Drew brought up the whole conversation about the and Raph basically said well plenty of people don't call you a so once again true Ralph picking up but for you morning because I have been a better friend to Ralph in these last six months and June has been alive in eight years period and I stand on that I stand on that standing on that she's done to him and try to make him seem like this horrible narcissistic husband when she's just this whole victim role May all make trying to intentionally create these storylines that make him look horrible like that's not okay you could tell at that point that candy was uncomfortable like you could tell candy was uncomfortable with that because Cousin Faith had came on here and said something I'm sorry I'm sorry I mean because okay for those of y'all that saw the candy interview do y'all think candy was uncomfortable at that moment I'm I'm already kind of upset about the other things so I didn't colored how I'd have seen the interview it's too late for me do y'all think candy looks uncomfortable there I hate the b word and don't ever call me that it's not funny yeah I don't um I'm trying to recall I don't really feel like anybody really says that to me I'm probably situational but we I don't know I don't know I don't think I like it and I'm probably you know what if I let it pass it was the people pleaser in me probably let's be honest that's probably but I just can't recall the last time someone may have tried to do it I think I'm always on guard to please ask somebody like let's not do that because then when you get mad I don't know now you you know so let's just not even but I don't remember if anybody has done that like I don't know I don't know I can't recall but yeah trending candy wasn't uncomfortable and I don't travel any Circle I just see a lot of Courtney videos gotcha gotcha gotcha you know I'm messing with you Shan I got smoke for Ralph I don't you know how you be telling me to breathe about Ross I got the same smoke for Ralph I promise you I promise you I do it's not Courtney standing alone over here on this side I'll tell you that much oh Courtney thumbnails guys you gotcha it's circling around with Ralph right now but it's more the adoption side of it probably but yeah it's circling on Ralph it's circling back to him y'all said no not at all I got you I know I don't go around saying it to people either like that um yeah I don't say it to other people either but I can't remember and I think if I let it slide it's probably the people pleaser in me all right we'll keep going but yeah I was like I didn't see candy necessarily looking uncomfortable to me I mean cousin Courtney because like Courtney we ain't calling her cousin Courtney no more we changing that cousin Courtney stop calling her cousin Courtney ain't nobody's cousin we changing that she's we we don't even know if she Courtney like we got to keep doing research I don't know she ain't cousin Courtney sorry uh I was uncomfortable with that because they share a child even if they're in the midst can I say this too here's the thing too although Ralph is putting the battery in Courtney's back she didn't have to let the battery work and here's the thing she is unfortunately being the face out here um saying it you know what I mean that's the other reason it's like on that platform she's the one that keeps saying it out there too so it's smoke for both of them but I think it's like oh line of sight here you go I'm going after you right now in general that's what I think what's going on with Courtney they not good if they don't know who she is I wouldn't I know Shannon Sharon I was trying not to say nothing but I'm like see what's gonna happen is you gonna be in a rabbit hole again that's what's gonna happen of a divorce they share a child and for me personally I'm I'm more logical than I am emotional I'm working on that logical although I'm not a crisis manager for me personally the statement that she made and multiple other statements that she made she would in my opinion tell her clients not to say that so the fact that she was there so flippantly saying such derogatory things it was like a PR nightmare like who does that you were in again no because you don't know who she is she could be an alien I don't know I mean who says I've been more of a friend to your husband my that's her at the end of the day whether he's a narcissist a jerk whatever that is her husband that is the father of her children and you ain't nobody's nothing I never seen you at no barbecues you ain't said no flowers to my mama and my father died you ain't uh send no condolences where where who hires you with more of a friend Ralph was at the funeral we didn't see his friend where his friend was you weren't there he was holding our hands while we cry we grieved over my father you're you know you don't my kid my niece and nephews don't know you don't nobody know you so but who would say that who would say you know what and I stand on that you're standing on that oh oh baby you're gonna fall because that's not solid standing that's shameful shameful shameful and and Candy if you're feeling uncomfortable um I would have never posted it because I heard it was posted and then it was taken down if you were already there and you heard it I would have just not posted it or deleted it or edited thank you okay I was waiting to see yes yes that part the last part towards candy exactly um but she doesn't see she did anything wrong that's why she need to go back and watch Allison's first what 30 45 minutes part of it she's go back and watch that um there were so many times oh my gosh so many times candy I oh and then also then striking at least one YouTuber's channel that we know of which is you know that y'all that really really got to me on that one that's my opinion about that there were some comments made that you wanted to address regarding your mental health yeah and alcohol she said something like I was drinking tequila where and first of all let's just get it straight on any medication that interacts without alcohol secondly 70 I think 73 of Americans that get their prescription drugs either OTC over-the-counter or from a doctor you shouldn't be drinking alcohol you shouldn't drink alcohol with an aspirin with an ibuprofen every every alcohol is not good for nobody but I don't have anything that's going to interact that's going to make me go crazy manic you know or anything like that you have no place to tell anybody or spread that kind of dialogue about people and mental health what is mental health and alcohol have to do with anything there are people who are really struggling with alcoholism it's a real situation I was not diagnosed with alcohol I don't even drink like that so for somebody to say that I saw it and then she said something like I tried to stay away from her for what like I'm some kind of disease crazy zombie and a stray jacket that's the problem and that is why some of us cannot speak openly about mental health why there's a stigma that's rapidly growing not only did I make a statement but the National Alliance on Mental Illness which is the largest Grassroots organization in the country made a statement about you Courtney that we're going to post and because when you talk about numbers and how many people watch this and how many people on Candy's platform or whatever this platform is bigger and more important than any other platform we're talking about people who are struggling with suicidal ideation if this was two years ago or three years ago and I had to be confronted with this nonsense I might have relapsed you know it may have had a negative effect on me some people use alcohol as a coping mechanism I did I never use alcohol as a coping mechanism I use the Bible I use my family therapy walking meditation you know and so service to others yeah we have to be careful when we say these things and we stigmatize people and we label people that they're not that might not be their thing but it could be someone else's thing and so when they hear that they're like oh God that's my thing oh God I'm not going to talk I'm not going to say you know you you're reckless you're reckless so yeah that's my point on that I the alcohol thing what got me about it was she said that someone from Drew's Camp had told her that they got you basically liquored up and sent you to get her and I'm like you don't know wait a minute it was liquored up to send me where to send you after her like at the reunion like she her specific quote was that um someone from Drew's Camp had told her that you know you were drinking the tequila and they sent you after Courtney and she did not want to be seen fighting the mentally ill and that's why I was like oh lady you've gone too far all the routes I've never even heard that one first of all um this was like in the morning secondly nobody said Allison nowhere nobody had to send me anywhere I was leaving off the stage I think Drew had just went back on stage and I walked with her or something and I was walking back and that's when I see uh unverifiable fake cousin Courtney come out of her little dressing room and walk into Ralph's dressing room now remind you Ralph wanted to come on the show we really didn't know why he was there we we were hoping and praying as a family that he was coming there to make amends to make apology make things right um for those who don't know this is Ralph yeah never come out of her room into Ralph's room and like hug him and it was just a weird like Eerie type I feel like I needed theme music I don't know and I'm just standing in like the what Boom Chicka Boom Boom like more like a haunted house or something no [Music] no is in there like the cameras are like in the room over to the side I guess they were about to do a scene I guess you know their whole purpose of being there was all about Drew thank you drew you know my storyline Drew you know because that's their whole thing is how we're gonna get together and get more camera time I guess I'm gonna be your cousin but she picked the wrong team she should have just stayed true stayed the cousin been with Drew should have been friend of the show we could have kicked it but she went on the on the the male Peach holder you know that's my part now I know Allison going hard for Drew but I still think that's a weird strategy that Courtney's going more on the side of Ralph than sticking with the one that may actually keep keep a peach and that Courtney may want Drew's Peach but it's just weird the husband ain't gonna have no Peach so that's weird I'm saying so somebody's picking up your catchphrase unverified everybody ufcc oh see something I don't know but anyway so I just was walking by and the person that I am I can't sugarcoat nothing I was just like what the hell is going on here like this don't look great and she went to try to close the door and I was like don't you slam this door on me and then she called me a b and then it just got I don't I can't account for what happened after that I don't know that wasn't planned nobody sent me to do nothing I didn't even know the girl was there I just saw this weirdness in the room and I had something to say if my mom tried to shut the door in your face yes because I don't know if from what I understand she said that they were getting ready to film and they told her to I don't know I didn't see the cat all I saw all my eyes were pointing to was Boo Boo one and Booboo two that's it and I'm like why are y'all in here why are y'all hugging that doesn't make sense to me they're about to film what they would want was the confrontation that's why that confrontation made it to air I didn't even make it because I Andy had to come out and push me I was like I was in a blur I was like oh my God I think I messed up I hope I didn't get my sister fight you know I felt kind of I felt kind of bad I had to call my mom I had to call and I feel like oh my God you know because like this is real life this isn't you know I'm not trained to be no reality star or nothing I'm just sister looking at my brother-in-law and his fake cousin Courtney chick who called my sister a who at the time I didn't know all the other stuff she keep doing hugging and cooking up something what is happening here that's what happened I told I believe she did see red when she saw that I definitely believe uh it's real to you Allison not those other people right right Allison was feeling her real feelings for real and and yes talk about loud Destiny Junior yes and I if you are you talking about Courtney's Destiny Jr because that's who I was thinking let me know because I was like yes Destiny Junior okay it's almost done it's almost over when I hear them wrap it up I'll cut it off from there um but yeah they're almost done now oh yes good yes Destiny Junior Courtney yes y'all I'm a good judge of character and I told y'all that Allison Jordan was this I said it I said it on the shade I think on neighborhood talk and everybody agreed with me don't Buck cause if I knock then we're gonna have a problem Allison was about that life we do have almost 4 000 people in here while she's getting her lights set up let's see where we are on likes people yeah questions or okay Alice is getting talk up in here okay okay so they're talking about me what they doing okay I'll stop it there there wasn't many questions but y'all can go back so you can see his the original video easily if you want to go back and hear the questions that they asked uh sad Drew then drag her sister into that mess yeah and you can see both Drew and Allison both were still hoping Ralph was gonna come and apologize I'm like that's all it would take he could apologize and y'all still would be it on board with round I'm telling you that's that that's that submissive um but um okay y'all lesson learned so next time I do a watch along I'm gonna have them stand up 1.25 to 1.5 uh so thank y'all for sticking with me through the normal pace of it all this was our this is my first why I cannot get my words out this is my first live watch along where I had not seen the footage before and we got to talk about it in real time I enjoyed it um they are delusional delusional rappers trash right there's nothing to wait for him to come back to do no it's it we're done we're done let him go but yes so now the reunion films after they file for divorce I think so I was gonna say did they run after the reunion but uh um yeah y'all thank you I think this was so good thank you for being vulnerable in the chat for sending encouraging words to the ones that got vulnerable in the chat um this was really good I pinned Allison's website in the chat in case y'all wanted to see her website and her upcoming podcast looks like she'll be having um but Mims shout out to Mims great interview making makes sense great great interview um yes it was really good yes I would I definitely uh want to do more of these not always an interview It won't always be as uh you know a serious topic but this was like a test run I enjoyed it thank y'all for interacting with me um so it wasn't just kind of dead over here but yes shout out to a great interview Allison gonna ride with her sister um but yeah thank you Allison for coming out and speaking your truth yeah but I enjoyed y'all we gotta hop over I'm gonna hop over to live laugh Love's channel to see her talk about these phone calls from prison that'll be the next one for the lunch time tomorrow unless something really really pops off we might be listening to the phone calls from prison with Cheryl strawberry and her husband uh because the last two I see Steve Harvey name in the title so we can do those and and yeah get back on schedule tomorrow because I don't have to go in the office tomorrow so I can have my lunch at home all right y'all so Allison definitely rolled for Drew as she should thank you Sharon I know right yes I know I know she ain't gonna cause the truth but you see she right for her sister really enjoy oh thank you Joyce and thank you you stay from beginning to end Joyce yes thank y'all Professor Damita Jones listening to me in the car thank you Linda and Shan talking out loud thank you for coming in and giving us your really thoughtful insights uh Miss Cheryl tough I know you started out with me uh lady queen thank you so much Mary White thank y'all uh Linda thank y'all for being vulnerable Karma girl thank you for being vulnerable and allowing us to show some support to y'all but yeah everybody that uh either came in the chat or just watched I appreciate y'all really enjoyed this definitely would be doing something like this again but I will I'll speed them up next time just to just slightly speed them up just a little bit all right y'all I'm gonna play the music so we can go over there to live laugh love and uh see what you guys say about these calls and I'll see y'all tomorrow for lunch break live bye y'all [Music] all right [Music] hello [Music] welcome to do [Music] thank you [Music] [Music] yourself [Music] foreign [Music] [Music]