He's very manipulative and controlling and I don't feel safe with him. He puts on a front like he's normal and he's not. He's very very mentally and psychologically abusive. He convinced her that I was delusional and paranoid. >> I don't know. It happened really fast, but he claims that I did it and it was assault. On August 30th, 2024, officers responded to a residence following a report of a woman claiming her husband assaulted her and stating she wanted to leave. >> Hello. >> What's going on? >> Um, we are going through a divorce. My husband hit me two weeks ago, but it it didn't leave a mark. And I have text messages proving that he's admitting to the incident and he's downplaying it. And I told him I was because we're going through a divorce and I'm just afraid he's very manipulative and controlling and so I'm just putting up with this stuff. But I told him I'm going to I'm just going to call the police because my therapist encouraged me to like a week ago, but I didn't. He also won't allow me to get my mail and I had to get a PO box cuz he said he didn't trust me and he looks very normal. But there's something wrong. >> Is he inside right now? he is with our son. I want to file charges against him. He threw water on himself and took a picture of it and said he's going to file charges against me cuz he said that I did it when I told him I was just going to go and tell them what happened. >> Do you have the text messages right now? >> What happened was we were in the kitchen and he was blaming me for >> Can I come in front of the vehicle so we're not standing in front of the door? >> Yeah. Okay. Yeah. >> Tell me what happened that day. I didn't do the dishes and he I'm expected to do that stuff because I don't make as much money. >> Okay. >> It's really messed up and that's why we're getting divorced. And he was the one that took the sippy cups, these dirty ones, and there were fruit flies, and he brought them downstairs and they were like attracting fruit flies, too. So, I took them and I dropped them right in front of his face. and he turned around and he hit me and then he's claiming that he just pushed me and that I got in the way. So that's all that I have him admitting to the incident and I don't feel safe with him and I want him away from me inside. >> Yeah, he's inside with our son. >> Is there any weapons in the home? >> No, but he's absolutely nuts. He's saying that I threw water on him and took a picture and said he's in a file on me first and that he was going to take our son. And I said, "You're not taking our son anywhere. I don't feel safe with you." Now, the police have been here um a few months ago when this whole divorce thing started, but we hadn't filed yet. And >> who were they here for? >> Because we were fighting. >> Okay. >> And my parents were sending wellness checks. But it's just gotten to the point where like I can't live with him any longer. He's just really He just puts on a front like he's normal and he's not. >> Yeah. >> He puts on a front like he's normal and he's not. He's very very mentally and psychologically abusive. >> Do you have your ID with you? >> It's If it's inside it's fine. >> Yeah, it's in my car. My whole family is in support of my divorce and they it's too I didn't want to have to call the police and I didn't want to have to go to them cuz I know I'm just I'm going to lease a house soon in like a month and I just have been like putting up with it. >> You don't have to apologize for calling us. That's why we >> It's not what I wanted to do like on my Friday. >> No, I get that. I just can't believe he did that and then took a picture of himself and said he was going to file a charges against me. >> So about the incident last week >> in the kitchen. >> Yeah. A couple weeks ago. >> Was it a couple weeks ago? Okay. So >> it hurt my mind and I even like looked at it like that. I thought maybe that would leave a mark because if it did I thought that then you would report it but it didn't. And I was like that hurt like you hit me. And he said that was just a reaction to throwing them at me. And I did. And I lifted three up and I went like this. Dropped it in front of his face. And I did that because it's like look at what you brought down. >> So he was in >> in reaction. He like he says it's in reaction, but in normal situation he wouldn't have it's because it was me. He wouldn't have done that around anybody else. Would I have dropped them in front of him? Yeah. because I'm gonna stick up for myself. I'm not just gonna >> And then what date was this? >> He um uses my mental health against me and I have my two psychiatrists and a therapist to back me that I my mental health is fine. He uses it against me. He's here. Let me find this. Can he seriously do charges against me for something that for throwing water at himself? >> We don't know what we've got right now. So, >> okay. I'm just trying to gather as much information as I can so we can figure this out. See, you guys got cameras up here. Do you have cameras on the inside? >> No. He has one pointed at the computer, which is pin protected, and he won't allow me in it, and it's my things. And my lawyer told me I could take it down. >> Okay. >> And he claims that I said I was going to up the computer, but I never said that. It's just his excuse for he he was out of town and he didn't want me to be on the computer cuz I don't know what he has on there or why it's pin protected. He's just trying to he put like a hold on my on our money and the divorce and I just found out today and I was like really so I can't spend any of my money. I'm restricted which is what he wanted to do cuz he's controlling. And so I told him that came up about like I'm tired of being controlled. I'm tired of being quiet. Like I'm just controlled. Okay. Where was it? It was on a Saturday. So 3 weeks a 3 weeks from next two weeks from tomorrow, that's Saturday. But I can find it just to be sure because in it I think I said something. How do I go over? >> So would that have been the 17th? Go up a little bit. Just >> Yeah. How does it say the date? >> It'll be at the top of that day. So the 19th. That's a Monday. >> Okay. So it was the >> So that's the same day. Monday the 19th. >> Yeah, it was the Yeah, it wasn't on Monday. It was on the Saturday. >> So the 17th. >> Yeah, cuz I said pushing me across the kitchen on Saturday. I mean, it sounds petty to file a >> uh What was the result of the call we had here that one time a few months ago that you called you were telling me about? So you guys were arguing. >> The guy said >> just get a divorce already cuz they had come out like twice for welfare checks >> from your parents. >> Yeah. My parents >> twice. Once was my dad and he was staying out of it and he didn't know what was going on so he just sent one. >> Mhm. >> And then my mom came because he manipulated her which she would admit to cuz she's writing an affidavit for me about how manipulative he is. And I was so like worked up that he convinced her that I was delusional and paranoid and was having a manic episode when it was marital problems. >> Do me a favor. Just lean against the ego. Hang tight. I'll be back. Okay. >> Okay. So, we recorded everything. You can hear almost right there. >> Doing that for you. What is this? >> Oh, throwing water. >> She says that she threw the water at him. >> Get out of the house now. I'm calling >> water. >> I'm going to call him threw water. >> Call him cuz I threw water at you. And then and then she goes back and says, "You threw water at yourself like a minute later." >> Oh, you're ridiculous. >> You won't out of the house. >> Call my dad. >> Out of the house or I'll call your dad. >> You threw water at yourself. That's how nuts you are. >> So tell me about the incident today again. He I told him that I'm going to We got in a fight over my fiber because he said I can't be trusted to call them because that's always what he says is that I can't be trusted. And I told him that I'm just I don't know tired of being controlled, manipulated, told I can't do things. I don't know what I'm doing. And then you called us >> cuz he said he's going to file charges against me when I said you're the one that hit me the other week and you downplay your like your um your abuse and you try to tell me that um it was in reaction to me throwing sippy cups at you when I went like this in front of his face and I told him why. I just think he's nuts and I want him to leave. I should have I should have um like called and filed assert charges after the sippy cup incident. I just thought it was maybe like there was no mark on me. >> So I I haven't heard your side of things. Can you explain what happened today after the router situation? >> Um that's been going on for 3 weeks. >> Okay. >> And he won't let me. >> I said a after the router situation. >> Today. >> Yep. >> Sorry. I just can't believe this is Okay. So after the router situation and I said, "Why can't I call them?" And he said, "Because um because I don't trust you, you'll mess it up." And that's something that he always says, just like how he doesn't trust me to get my own mail. I had to get a PO box, which is a felony >> to not allow someone to get their own mail. And um he took a picture of himself with water on himself, said that I did it and he was going to file charges because I said, "You know what? I should have called the cops when you hit me the other weekend, which was an accident, but he acknowledged to doing it in text message." >> Yeah. >> Well, justifying it. So, he told me he was going to call the police. So, I just called you guys first cuz I want you to know we're going through a divorce. He threatens me with calling the police >> and he uses my mental health against me. >> Okay. >> I'm sure he said bipolar. >> So again with the water situation, can you tell me what happened? Cuz you just said he threw water on him or you're you're sorry. You're saying that he threw water on himself, but that's all you're saying. >> Yeah, there was a water bottle and it like it got on him and he said that I did it and he's going to file charge just takes his phone out and starts taking pictures of himself. How would the water got in on him? >> Because I picked it up off the counter and he like grabbed it and then um like it got on him because we were like, "So, should I leave? Should he leave?" >> Did you both reach for the water bottle at the same time? >> Was that a plastic bottle or >> something? It was a plastic bottle. I reached for it. He like tried to stop it. It like went in the air. He claims that I did it. I didn't freaking >> So, if you got a if you had a grip on the bottle, how did the bottle end up in the air? >> I don't know. It happened really fast. I don't know. He like blocked it, but by blocking it, it like went on him. I don't know what I was like trying to I was like picking it up. >> Why would he have had to block it? >> Because I like lifted it up and we like both I don't know. It happened really fast, but he claims that I did it and it was assault. Were you threatening him with the bottle? >> No. Is he saying I'm threatening him with the bottle? >> No. I'm trying to figure out why he felt that he needed to put his arms to avoid the bottle if the bottle was not in play. >> Cuz I was like I think I picked it up just because I was upset because once again I'm told that I can't be trusted. >> Okay. >> He's the one that freaking it ended up on himself because he hid it. >> So he hit the bottle off of your hand. >> I don't know. I didn't. >> We're just trying to figure out how it all went down. >> He claims that I did it and immediately starts taking pictures of himself of his wet shirt because I said, "I'm tired of being controlled and I should have called the cops before." He's like in the kitchen and there's at least like the island, not quite between them, but like that distance between them and he's he's like, "I've been doing something at the fridge or whatever." and she's ranting about whatever and then I just turn and she run water on there and there's a plastic water bottle on the side. >> So there was no distance for him to reach for the bottle. >> No, he's like no didn't touch it. So I mean it it's definitely just generic simple but >> All right. >> All right, man. So based on what we have so far, are you listening to me right now? >> Yeah. What I first told you was but I'm just kind of like I can't believe this is happening again and I just want to be separated from him but my lease doesn't start for a month. >> Okay. >> And he acts like I throw fits and I do because I'm being controlled. >> Okay. Well, we're only here about today's incident. >> I know. I know. >> So, >> okay. But based on what we have right now, we have enough for the charges. So whenever you do No, it's for you. So I need you to turn around. Put your hands behind your back. >> For me? >> Put your hands behind your back. >> But I didn't even >> Put your hands behind your back. >> I didn't even throw I didn't even Please listen to me. I have medication I need to take. Can you get my medication? >> They won't let you have it at the jail. They will give you the medication there. You'll be able medications that you need. >> Hit me. She slammed the baby. >> I'm going to double lock these. Make sure they don't get any tighter than that. Okay. >> Can you call my parents over here? >> No, I asked them to, but my lawyer said that they need to stay out of it. >> I got you. >> Can you call them? My dad will come over. He'll tell you about him. >> Okay. >> All right. Is that your phone? Do >> you want to take your phone with you? >> Yeah, I would like to. going to go back to the back of my vehicle. >> I'm really getting arrested. Am I going to lose my job cuz I got arrested? >> I don't know about that, man. >> Can we call my dad before? Cuz my dad will talk to you. >> It won't change the facts. So, she's going to charge you real quick. >> But what about him? >> Ma'am, do you have anything on your person? Anything illegal? >> No. I was afraid. That's why I didn't do it. And I threatened to do it. Why can't I file them on him? Will you talk to me? Wait. Can I file the wrong? >> All right. Take a seat. So, you're not going to talk. Will you Will you have Tyler bring it out and at least send that out with me? >> The jail will still not let you have it, ma'am. >> When will I get out? >> Well, you'll see the judge in the morning, but right now, we need you to put your foot inside. >> I have to have my MS. >> The jail will provide you with the medication. >> They will. >> Take a left right here. The woman was charged with DV, first offense and endangerment.