on January 9th 2023 at approximately 11:05 a.m. a man arrived at a police station in Georgia to report a domestic dispute hello good how are you did you call I didn't call anybody but I talked to her right what happened so uh my name is uh can I yeah my name is Nate Al I don't so this morning um I have an incident with my wife I'm inan the military I'm St and I already talked to the MPS and I talked to my leadership my first life supervisor about the incident that happened this morning M and pretty much my wife and I were going through some disagreement right now and she was she was hitting me okay I know uh um I I I'm here because I have an idea of what I want to do but I'm kind of worried about the consequences so I don't want to can like lose my career or put myself on a position where where my career is going to be your I already talked to my first s too M and he said that he can put me on a baron and all this stuff which is what I'm trying to Avo when I talk to them MP they told me the same thing even if if I'm a victim they have pretty much the law um favor the the spouse this kid I don't know if you're from either uh we with that far though what I'm here is just you know we we uh we starting through the weekend mhm um um result of that um she was she was at the house she came home yesterday from she's in the reserve so she come she came home yesterday from South Carolina I wasn't talking to her I was just I clean the whole house minding my own business and this morning morning um I was getting ready to take my kids to to daker on post and both of them and I put them all in the car and I guess she was thinking that we were cool she was like I we going to the gym in the afternoon and I didn't I didn't told her anything so she kind like went away inside of the house and Clos the garage so I was just getting ready to live and she opened the garage back and started talking to me arguing and then she start pushing me and me in the face and then she start gaslighting me mhm and maybe I was saying things that I was gaslighting her to like what like ignoring her because I wasn't talking to her about she was asking about she was like uh um I got it on video but I'm not going to show you until we we finally talk me then I would just what do you have on video I'm sure I don't know if you've been through this before or years I don't want to like mess up career or like right now I said right now she's at work and she think like I said she think that I'm bling about this but I was telling her like I'm not going to keep pooring the behavior that you're doing which is pretty much right now out of social media she's been talking to other guys well but be married to me and the reason why I went to social work uh before and we've been through it it's because while I was Dey she she was cheating in there so can you turn side for me thank so this is the first one that I can like it was working out Year huh you can't just make it easy why do you have to be so difficult why do it be so difficult want to make it easy for I'm not it could be easy for everybody you just want to make my life miserable because you have this Persona in your head thinking that I'm cheating on everybody and if I am I like to see Pro because there's nothing there's nothing there's nothing and that's what's funny I'm not intimidated by you anymore I'm not scared by you there's nothing that you can do that intimidate you nothing you think that you can just ignore me when I'm trying to talk to you about my huh I'm not afraid of you I'm sick of you I'm always trying to intimidate you I'm not afraid of you I'm not afraid of you you to the next relationship um right my wife where is she the white car the truck yeah okay cuz I'm I'm sure she can tell that I'm I'm she's texting me calling me okay and she uh does she know you're here yeah because she see my location well okay stay in here for just minute okay 25 can I get another unit with me I've got the other party showing up here at headquarters 25 hello are you Kelly yes can I talk to you for just a minute [Music] okay hey I'm officer Maran um what's going on with your husband I mean I'm sure you know his side of the story yeah and I want to get yours so yeah it's probably true what he said what what what do you think he told me like I'm I'm just trying to get your side okay we've been going through this for 3 years it's just it hasn't gone this this far um I don't know I'm sure he told you everything um he's really good at building cases building cases against me he's a very smart man okay so what what from your perspective what happened he knows how to push me past my limits and manipulate me mhm to the point to where I finally break and then he he does stuff like this okay so I understand what you're saying like in general that this is like an ongoing thing but what about today how did he do that today trying to threaten that he's going to have full custody of our children okay not say that exactly but don't worry about it I got it you the words that he says I don't even know how to put it in word for word right now okay so you feel like he was provoking you of course he always does okay so how dides the argument start he accuses me of stuff that's not true okay and I just he sees tiny parts of little stories or little stuff that goes on and then he makes this own story in his mind as if every as if it's true and it's not and I don't know how much longer or I mean I can't even plead my case because he will bring up another thing on top of that can we talk privately out yeah yeah we can um we can step off to the side here we can't go inside right now I'm not trying to have you put all your business out there um so he was accusing you of things right is not true and I'm just sick of it yeah so and then what happened after that so you guys were arguing I don't I'm sure you've seen videos and stuff can you again I'm I'm trying to get your perspective because it's not fair for me to only get one side of the story when there at least two sides in the story I know my side I'm just I'm sick of I was for so long a stayed on mom living in his shadow and I finally just am becoming okay stay right here for just one second okay I want to hear what you have to say but give me one minute okay so like I said there are at least two sides in every story right and it's not fair for me to only have one person's side okay um I understand you guys have ongoing isues can you tell me what's going on after this I am investigating a domestic violence incident that's what's going on okay and what's happening right at this moment is I'm trying to get your side okay I don't know I don't really have a side he I there's nowhere I can go he's trying to kick me out of our house I cannot leave there's nowhere for me to go okay now he said you have like friends in the area I'm not I'm not kicking you out of your house just to be clear I'm talking to the police officer mom I know can I I'm talking to the police officer can I I have he has friends too we both have friends we both again I'm not taking size I know I don't have anywhere to go okay I have family that live on the west coast in California in Nevada okay so you guys are arguing okay and is this how it usually goes you guys argue and then it escalates no I mean we'll argue but we're quick to get over it it's just um I mean I see your prior service on Military as well I had I'm a reservist I had my drill weekend um I just graduated the jeel sergeant Academy in November and from day one I'm sure you know what were you this is actually law enforcement but okay well day one when I you know day Zero I'm sure you SE shark attacks and stuff that we had from day one when I was at the Academy he fought with me every day he doesn't like when I leave because of a history that we have right when I leave for mil so and that's got to be super stressful too yes I had my drill weekend this weekend and I stay on FaceTime with him I share my location I answer all his calls and all his text messages in the timely manner that he would like and I was at the gym and I wasn't answering them right fast enough for him that when were you not answering Saturday Saturday and I'm like he was at a funeral so I knew that we weren't going to be really talking on the phone anyways and he's calling and calling and calling and I answer and he hangs up answer and he's like check your text messages and then hangs up again and I see I wasn't responding to his text messages and answering his questions which was are you off for the day and I said yes I am everything okay what's going on and he's just like why aren't you answering my text messages you're leaving me un undelivered I don't know what reset the phone did cuz his phone did the same reset the red receipts are not on anymore and like the the sound changed for our phones for um like ringtones and stuff for some reason it was a weird reset maybe other stuff happened but those are the two that happened to both of our phones okay so I don't know why my red receipts were off his are off too now and so he was mad that my red receipts were off and so I still stayed on FaceTime with him stayed on video cuz he wants me to FaceTime him 24 seven when I'm away from him and and I was on FaceTime with him but it just still wasn't good enough for him and so it just started an argument from that day from that moment around 4:00 on Saturday on Saturday okay until midnight he was saying he was going to himself he had my kids with him I was gone and I just he's he's Loco and so um we argued that entire night and I'm just like like you know what I can't do this one of my drill sergeant leaders from the academy we follow each other on social media he swears that just because we're friends on social media that I'm him and it's not the case at all and I tell him because he's so crazy and he reaches out to every single guy that likes a picture on my social media like what are you doing what are your intentions with my wife why are you guys friends tell me like he's crazy and so I tell him if you think that like reach out to all these people at the end of the day I'm a reservist that Jo Sergeant leader is is a reservist he has a lot of connections who knows the networking that he and I can do in the future right so he can't have any male friends he doesn't I cannot have male friends he does not understand that and so it just one argument led to another and I'm just like I'm done and then he's telling me K he's kicking me out the house and all this stuff so I know how crazy he can get he has locked me he has emptied my bank account he knows any he he's taken professional hacking courses he knows how to hack into anything that I have I do not have any personal identity outside of him because he gets into everything he's a professional hacker in the military so one time he financially he tries to paralyze me like doing this in ways that I cannot overcome from he has he over a period of time would ask me my security questions of my phone like oh for example my name is Niel they called me that as a kid what did they call you and I was like oh they called me gobby boom my security question what is your childhood nickname what if oh my first car was this what was your first car I told him oh what color was it boom Another SC he's so smart yeah and I don't even know if I'm being tested sometimes or not because it could be just an Mutual conversation right so I so that makes you super paranoid I'm sure yes he has tried to kick me out multiple times he has empty my bank account taking my keys taking my phone put tracking devices on my car I hacks into anything of my phone my work phone anything my computers anything so you have no privacy I have no privacy I just am so angry that he's just he was trying to do that again to me this weekend and what specifically was he trying to do this weekend like he he plays mind games and I'm kind of catching on to how he plays he will make up a little scenario and play that scenario as if it's a real story as if something really happened as if he knows already like oh I already know you did this so why don't you just tell me and it's like it never happened but because you know of maybe a snippet that I know that person you know that where that person works and maybe I've been in the same location as that person he puts his own story together as if like already know this happened but it never happened but that's how he thinks that he can catch me and other people in lives it's just this morning he was playing mind games with me and with me like how was he doing that what what was he what was he doing that about um telling me he wanted me out of the house by time I was done with work that I'm not I'm not going to be living there anymore pretty much just trying to keep telling me like and I was trying to get the kids ready because we both mutually get them ready take the kids to school and everything but he wasn't letting me help get them ready and I was like okay well I made them breakfast what are we going to do like can I can I take the kids to school like what is the plan this morning cuz like I just don't worry about it I got it okay but like I mean we have an infant and I'm just like okay okay what's the plan when after work are you picking them up are we we usually go to the gym every day after work I said what's the plan like are you picking them up are we going don't worry about it I got it you're not in the picture anymore and it's just like it's the mind games like like I want to be just as involved but again the what he accuses me of is what he's doing I'm trying to play this perfect narrative to everybody else but he's trying to play the perfect narrative mhm so what what did he accuse you of today if anything oh having with multiple men over the weekend entertaining other men in my DMs people tell me I get my stuff is really locked down I added people that I went to the academy with I was with them every day for nine weeks straight I have a right to have them as a friend if they come if they heart one of my stuff or if they call me pretty like it sucks but I mean I'm not saying okay let's go on a date let's like it's just like thank you and then that's it if they try to go further I don't let them but none of them have yeah but just because I don't stop them when they tell me I'm pretty nothing has gone further than a compliment but because I don't stop them when they tell me I'm pretty and say you need to respect that I'm married don't tell me I'm pretty he has a problem with it okay I mean that sounds exhausting and toxic and I'm sure it pushes you beyond your limit would you say that's accurate of course yeah I mean I can't imagine dealing with that and it's extra hard when you have kids yeah and that makes it that much worse yeah so has it ever gotten physical with you guys multiple times okay what what has happened I should have filed domestic on him before he did me what happened in the other times he's locked me in my closet I have that one on video he's locked me in my closet I mean physical abuse um he won't let me leave so he'll grab me pull me up against the he tries to confine me into corners and closets how does he do that by grabbing me he's strong he's held me down multiple times when when did that happen it was a while ago it was like 2020 2021 mhm what else happened I mean I put my hand on him I'm sure there's no way out of that like I'm sure he his video I saw our security camera do you put your hands on him today maybe Kelly I mean I'm sure you guys saw videos I'm sure you guys have proof but again I need your side you're hearing my side okay but here's the thing if if the there's just a video of you going up and hitting somebody I'm not in your mind at that moment I'm not hearing what's going on with your thoughts okay I I'm not just always he tries he he tries to make me fearful of him he tries to intimidate me he's manipulative he plays psychological games with me and I don't know how to combat them the proper way and that's when I turned physical yes he he He blesses with me so much and yeah threatens that he's going to make sure that I'm so financially mentally psychologically paralyzed that I will never be able to overcome our separation because I've been W I want to leave so he's going to make sure he does anything possible to get any documents on me to hurt me so bad that at the end of the day he's the winner and it doesn't even need to be a winner or a loser no it shouldn't be that a win or lose situation it's not a game but I I know you're saying that's his perspective so when when he when he acts like that when when he makes you feel like you couldn't be independent we have done counseling and we've they've said if you feel like it gets to that if you're going to probably put your hands on them if you're going to if it's going to get violent you need to be able to walk away and I used I used to be able to leave but he made it to where he would take my car keys he would take my cell phone take my debit card would make it to where I couldn't leave yeah did that happen today did he take any your no but that's just his pattern like he's smart he got me good today he he made he set it up perfectly to where it was right in front of our cameras he's he's so smart he so so did you put your hands on him today I mean if the answer is yes I I want to hear the because there is no because it's it's not right there's no reason why I mean I'm not justifying it but at the same time you can only be pushed so far to do lose your coal you said in the past you've been able to walk away I've a times until he made it to where until he made it to where I wouldn't be able to take my I'm sorry you I didn't mean to interrupt it go ahead no he's done it I've done I've I've been able to walk but I have nowhere to go yeah my friends have spouses mhm their own lives like yeah I have nowhere to go so you feel trapped of course did you feel trapped today it's not even that I felt trapped today it was just like I hate that he wants to get the last word and and I don't care about letting him it's not about getting the last word or not it's just about him telling me him always threatening me with the children or with just life yeah finances and stuff did he do that today of course what specifically did he threaten you with um that he was going to ruin my military career um that he was going to which he's done already in the past contacted my CH Comm in before he was going to mess up my career mess up the guys careers that follow me in like my my Instagram stories and my posts yeah and I don't even I'm not sexualized or anything right so assuming it did get physical today what happened just prior to it getting physical I just want him to know that I'm I'm not going to continue to live in fear of him I'm not afraid of him I'm sick of him thinking that that I am going to live in fear of him so you just wanted to show him that you're not scared of him okay and that's why you put your hands on him can you just tell me what's going to happen well I've I have to finish investigating what was alleged okay and then we'll make that determination I'm not trying to like play mind games with you or dance around things but at the same time I'm not going to tell you something that's not going to happen Okay so hang out right here for just a minute let me talk to my partner over here okay so what's your plan for going forward in this relationship I want a I've been asking for for a divorce for 2 years but he got what stops you from filing money I've been contacting people all morning I had a feeling he would do something like this like I I mean I don't even know the first steps I mean I don't have support I don't have family I don't have anything okay I'm going to have you step down here okay put your phone down turn around and put your hand behind your back right now you're you're under arrest for um simple battery under the domestic violence act okay put your hands towards each other like they're like you're praying yeah like you're praying based on the evidence she was arrested and charged with two counts of simple battery under the domestic violence Act [Music]