On March 6th, 2025, what started as just a little back and forth inside a college dorm went off the rails fast. A so-called chill argument flipped into straight up chaos, fueled by booze and bottled up tension. Stick around for the full video cuz the twist proves how fast things can flip when pressure hits. >> What's going on today? >> Um, so me and my boyfriend got into the kitchen last night. >> Okay. >> And basically what happened was, um, he went out, didn't tell me. I was really upset. He came home plastered. Um I put him to bed and then I started drinking and I got really drunk and then um we went upstairs to my room and I was really really mad and I did >> he um smacked me in the face multiple times. I don't really like kind of blacked out during that. >> Okay. >> Um basically here I have pictures. Um, >> this is what my face looked like. My lip was like swollen, my eyes still like a little bruised, and my nose was bleeding everywhere. >> Okay. >> Um, but yeah, that's pretty much what happened. And then >> came to safety was called and they came and took him back to his room. And I said I didn't want to press charges originally. Um, but I would like to now. I just don't I don't want him to get like arrested or anything. >> Okay. Well, that's we'll get to that later on. Do you have your ID? >> Yes, I do. >> I >> All right. So, what time did this take place yesterday? >> Um, around 2:45 2:30 >> in the morning. >> In the morning. >> Okay. So, like this morning. >> Yeah. >> So, 2:45 a.m. >> Yes. >> Okay. And so, he was out >> he went he was out during the day, came home super drunk, and then I started drinking. And this is in whose? In his room. >> That it started in his room and then we went up to my room. The altercation happened in my room. >> Okay. What's his room? >> Um Oh, yeah. First, but that was earlier. >> What time was that? >> I would say that. What time would you say I was at's room? >> Like 12, >> I would say. 11. I would say >> like when did I come upstairs? >> Um I was in the week prior. I would say >> off campus at this time I would say it was about 11:50. >> Yeah. So like 11 you came to the dorm. >> Yeah. >> No later than like 12:30. >> Okay. So you were in his room. Okay. And then how long were you guys in his room? >> Um we had been in there I had been in there from I want to say around 7:00 p.m. till then. >> The both of you guys >> he was sleeping. Yeah he was in the room too. He was asleep and then he came up to my room. >> Give me one second. >> Okay. >> Hey, I'm 25 on a call. Can I call you back? >> All right. Bye. >> So, okay. What time did he get back from drinking? >> Um, like 7:00 p.m. >> Okay. So, what happened at 7:00 p.m.? >> So, at 7:00 p.m., we went to his room. He went I put him in his bed. He went to sleep. Okay. >> I went and started drinking >> in the room. >> In the room. >> Okay. >> This scene had all the chaos of a romcom gone sideways. Hearts turned to fists, tears turned to accusations, and the cops were stuck in the middle of a mess they didn't sign up for. She played the part like a pro, flipping between sobbing and scheming, leaving everyone wondering if this was a true confession or just Oscar level performance art. >> All right. And then how long did you drink for? probably um like two or three hours. >> Okay. And then what happened from there? >> And then I went up to my room and wait five. I went up to my room >> at like >> at like 12. But like what? Yeah. I went up to my room. I was I was very drunk and people were like his roommates were trying to help me. Um, I don't quite really remember what happened in between, but I went up to my room. His name is He ended up coming up to my room. >> Was there any arguing while he like in his room while or he just went to sleep? What? >> I mean, I was yelling at him. I was saying like I was obviously very upset. >> This is before he went to bed. >> Yeah. And then he wasn't even like conscious to listen to me though. Like he was knocked out. >> Okay. Okay. So, you stay in his room until about midnight. >> Okay. And then you go up to your room. >> Mhm. >> Okay. And then what happened from there? >> And then he ended up coming to my room, too. And around the same time. And >> so he followed you up there. >> Did he he came? No, he came up after I was already up there, right? >> He came up. You were in the room. So I like >> maybe like shy from two until you >> The owner advised they're going to handle them. Someone walked into the room. 10 minutes from that you were screaming. >> Okay. So like probably around 2 he came to the room. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. So around 2:00 a.m. he came to my room. >> He wasn't in there for long though. It was like 10 minutes and then once you started screaming we came down. He was already gone. >> Okay. >> So after everything >> Okay. So 2:00 a.m. he comes up to your room. What happens from there? So that's when we started arguing and like screaming at each other and my roommate said that she heard us screaming. They came down. Um and this I had already we had already like hit each other by then >> and I was bleeding. There was blood everywhere. >> So then we kept arguing. I was still very drunk at this point. Um he was still coming down from his drunk. We just kept arguing. and kept arguing and then he just smacked me and I don't quite remember like how it really went from there but all I know is he kept smacking me who like I got hit multiple times >> okay >> and then that's when they came in the room and like get out they called campus safety campus safety showed up they took um to his room and yeah and then I was dealing with campus safety from then till like 4:00 So, you were smacked in the face several times? >> Yes. >> She didn't stop yapping for a second, spilling every chaotic detail like it was hot gossip. Victim vibes were strong, but the cop wasn't about to fall for a onewoman soba show. Her emotions bounced harder than a pingpong ball, forcing the officer to hit pause and dissect every sketchy twist in her story. >> I hit him more than once, too, I'm pretty sure. Okay. And so then campus safety comes in. Who who called them? >> Okay. So they get there and he goes down to his room. >> Yes. >> Okay. >> Have you talked to him since? >> Yes. >> Okay. What did What did he say? Um, basically he came to my room this morning. He apologized and then we like were kind of okay and then um I've been talking with my dad all morning. He my dad I called my dad in the com like in the middle of the um altercation and he wants me to press charges and um also my friends do as well. So, I told him that I was pressing charges and then um he's just been blowing up my phone like begging me to talk to him. >> How long have you guys been dating? >> Um we've been technically together for like almost it started not last November but the November before that. So, November 2023. >> So, like a year and a half. >> Yeah. >> Okay. What's his first name? >> What's his last name? >> Arriio. O R E C. O R R E C C H I O. >> What's his date of birth? Is Do you know where he is right now? >> Yes. >> Is he in the room? >> He's in the room. >> Okay. >> What's your name? driving. >> Can I talk to you over here for a second? >> Yeah. >> All right. So, what is your recollection of the incident? >> My recollection of the incident is Hold on. I have time stamps. So, last night I came in from my friend's dorm probably around I have my location. Let me see. Actually, not important, but I came in probably like 4:12, like 11:30 or something like that. 11. Came into the door, saw sitting on the couch. She looked perfectly fine. Like her face was good. >> She was balling her eyes out and I was like, "Okay, Mel." Like, she was getting really upset. Um, she was calling like everyone, yelling at them, and whatever. Finally, she's standing outside the door with this guy that she knows and their friends, and they were just going back and forth. She was like, "Let me go to He was like, "No." Basically, we get her inside. She doesn't go see him. We get her food, water. I literally put her in bed. I turn off the lights. She's in bed. She's good. >> This is in her room. >> In her room. >> Okay. >> She babbled on with her endless tails, but the real test was spotting if she was straight up honest or just flexing the victim card for points. Meanwhile, the cop was out here reading her like a book. Her body was spilling the real story faster than her mouth ever could. >> Hasn't seen him for like maybe an hour or two, whatever. And then um it was me, my roommate, and her boyfriend who doesn't live on campus. We're all just chitchatting before we put her to bed, whatever. >> And then put her to bed. I'm like, "All right, I'm going upstairs." I go upstairs. I lay down for like 10, 15 minutes. I hear little faint screams, like tiny screams, and I'm like, "All right, I'm like imagining something." And then I heard a big one, and I was like, "No way." And then I heard a like a loud scream. Like I was like, "What the hell is going on downstairs?" And I opened up my dorm and same with my roommate. We both rushed downstairs at the same time like crisscross appsauce with her head like in her hand. She doesn't have even though she we put her in on before bed. Her face is like all I see she's like he gave me a bloody nose. So I'm like okay. So I'm like putting back her hair getting her things ready. All I see is a big busted lip and she's like her whole comforter is covered in blood. Everything is just soaked. She's like profusely crying. She's shaking. She cannot talk. And I'm like, "What? What happened?" He's like, "She He hit me." And I was like, "What?" And then before this, before I even went downstairs, um I called campus safety. >> Now, fast forward, I went downstairs. Um he walked back into the He walks back into the room. I don't know what that was, but he came back into the room and he was like, campus is here. Go wash your face in the sink. I'm like, "Did you like do this to her?" Mind you, like I've known for like since she first came to Lynn and I know everything about him. Sorry. So I was like, "Did you do this to her?" And he was like crazy. Go wash your face. I'm like, "If you didn't do this to her, why?" Cuz he didn't have a shirt on. And I go, "Why is there no scratches on you and there's blood on his knuckles?" I go, "Where'd you get that from?" Because if you just came into the room and you didn't touch her, where'd you get that from? He was like, "Oh no, like I'm going to wash my hands here." His shoes off campus. I give my campus's phone number to his boyfriends and I said, "Please go call this and tell them to come to this room." So they came back at this point. She is getting into the shower, lets her take a shower, wiping the blood off her face. Still in the dorm, but campus safety is there. And I'm like, "Please explore." Like I want to tell them literally what I'm telling you, but I don't want him in the room. >> And while she was trying to back up like a little bit, while she was trying to get in the shower, he tried to close the door with just him. Her face is she can't talk and she's accusing him of hitting her. He tried to close the door on us and he was like, >> I'm I didn't do this. Like this wasn't me. Like you can't be here right now. Like you need to like leave. Like leave. >> Did you see anything physical happen? Um, I saw him like shove like a little bit when campus was here like pretty aggressively like on the same side, but like I didn't see him hit her or nothing. And he said he said that she hit him. >> Campus safety rolled in just in time to keep things from erupting further. But let's be real, once violence starts, it simmers long before anyone shows up. Her bruises and breakdown were the raw receipts of what domestic mess really costs. Dude tried the apology move later, but fear and blame don't just vanish. >> But he didn't touch her and she did that to himself. >> And then he got exorted back to her room >> and that was that. He didn't come over and now he's trying to right now currently he's trying to guilt trip her like he's came to the dorm already. >> Okay. All right. Thank you. >> And there's another my other room. >> Okay. Yankee E34. Can I get a routine 94? Uh, >> a female if possible. >> I'll be in here. >> Okay. So, what I'm going to do is I'm going to have I'm going to have a partner come over and we're going to talk to him and then we're going to figure out what's going on. Okay. >> Okay. Um, he's not going to get arrested. >> I I don't know what's going to go. All right. Thank you. >> Yeah. I'm just waiting for somebody else to come and I'm going to go talk to the other half and then figure out what we're doing. >> Okay. >> So, I'll let you know. >> Okay. >> Like the tennis court. >> The cross from the tennis court. >> Yeah. >> I'm just going to stand by with you while he goes and talks to I guess your boyfriend. >> Thank you. >> Yeah. So, what happened? >> Um, so basically he >> call me after. >> Okay. I love you. Um, so basically we got into an argument last night. He went out and didn't tell me. He got really, really, really drunk. He came home around 7:00 p.m. Um, I was like yelling at him. We were like I was trying to like talk to him, but he was like unconscious, like very very drunk. He went to sleep. I put him in bed. He went to sleep and I started drinking and I got very drunk. And then around 12:00 p.m. I went up to my room and um about an hour or two later, he came to my room as well. And um and he we started arguing. I was very drunk, screaming at him, me and like started hitting me. And I can show you the picture of my face. That's what my face look like. Yeah, there was blood everywhere. Um, she heard the whole thing and then came down and helped me and called campus safety and campus safety removed him from the room. Um, and then I was just with them until about 4:00 a.m. >> Okay. How long have you two been dating? >> Like a year and a half. >> Yeah, we haven't technically been together for a little while, but >> it was a little while. um as of like Jul. >> Okay. So from August until now, were you just friends? Was there intimacy? Like would you consider it like an off andon relationship? >> Roommates and bystanders dropped their hot takes, each seeing the chaos through their own lens. Shock, confusion, and pain hung heavy, making it brutal to handle someone raw and wrecked. Contradictions flew from both sides, proving domestic spats don't play fair. Everyone grabs a piece of the story, but the full picture stays hazy. >> Um, yeah, like we were pretty like kind of off and on, but most likely we still see each other. He sleeps with me every night. Like we still like are practically together, but we're just not like there's no label. >> Okay. >> Is there a reason you guys don't label it if you're practically dating? >> Um, yeah. Basically, we like had a lot of issues last year and um we kind of like both cheated on each other and there's just a lot of trust issues in our relationship. So, we just haven't really like fixed it. I keep trying to fix it, but he's very hardheaded. >> What's going on, man? >> All right. So, I got called, I guess, about an incident that happened early this morning, late last night. >> Um, first, do you have your ID on you? >> Uh, yeah. I can >> want to sit or >> wherever you want, wherever you're comfortable. Yeah. >> Is uh is this your parents address or old address? Grandparents. What's the best address for you? Is it here or do you get mail somewhere else? >> Uh, I mean, that's like my grandparents address cuz I go to school out here. I'm trying to do like state collision, but >> Okay. >> I live in Connecticut. >> Okay. So, what's the best address like if we want to get in touch with you for this one? >> I I guess. Yeah. >> You're living here for now? >> Oh, you're saying like to not mail. >> No, no. Okay. >> My bad. That was >> No, you're good. >> All right. Um, so can you can you just explain what happened last night or this morning, I guess? >> Yeah, it was last or I don't know, like 2 a.m., whatever it was. Um, I was in Fort Lauderdale with my friend >> at the beach. I came back. >> Um, went to sleep and she went through my phone while I was >> Who is she? >> Um, >> okay. >> Went through my phone while I was sleeping. Um, I woke up to her hitting me. Like that's what I woke up to was a punch. >> Where? Where did this take place? >> In her room. >> Her room. Yeah. Okay. So, you were sleeping in her room? >> Yeah. So I originally got back, knocked out here for like a couple hours, went up to hers, knocked out, and then got woken up like that. >> So she punched you is how she woke you up. >> Yeah. And then we started arguing. Um she told me like she went through my phone. I was like, "Okay." It just kept escalating. I was just trying to go to bed. Like I just woke up and I got hit multiple multiple times. And um from there, like >> how many >> What are you asking? I guess estimate estimate how many Yeah. How many times did she did she hit you? >> All right. Yeah. So, the complete rundown. I woke up. She was It was escalating argument. She probably hit me like six, seven times, scratching me on my back. >> Do you have any marks? >> Yeah, I have like a couple scratches. >> Okay. >> Things got spicy when the cops finally caught both angles. Dude kept it simple, just a shrug, and admitted they argued. Meanwhile, she doubled down on the victim act, selling every sob and sigh like it was prime theater. The officer had to read between the lines trying to figure if honesty was finally peeking out or if she was still running full-on manipulation mode. >> Yeah. >> I'm not sure about my back. I don't know. >> Pull it up a little bit. >> Yeah. Okay. I mean >> it might be a little little mark there. Yeah. >> Um and then Yeah. So I had like pushed her off me and it's a small room. She tripped >> and fell into the side of the bed. >> Okay. Then we're just we were still arguing still arguing. She's hitting me. And then her room her her roommates came down. Campus safety came down. >> And then that was the end. I went to bed. But it just escalated so much. I was just like it hurt manually like trying to hurt me. I wasn't trying to hurt her or any of that. >> So and she lives in which uh >> she lives upstairs. >> You know the room number? >> 29. I I'm not sure. 29. It's the not the last one, but the one before >> before it. Okay. So, it's right up there. >> Okay. Um, how long have you guys been dating? >> Like a year and a half. I've gone to Greece with this girl. Like, >> okay. >> It's not like >> Was it like infidelity issues? Did she find something on your phone or like what? >> She just found a couple texts of me flirting with the girl. Like, it wasn't like I didn't do anything. Yeah. >> But that's what caused the whole thing. Okay. So, she smacked you in the face, scratched you. Anything else? >> Like a punch. She was throwing my phone around, but like she scratched me, push me, punch me, hit me, whatever. >> Okay. >> I was just trying to deescalate it. I wasn't trying to hurt her out any of that. >> Did you like defend yourself at all? Did you strike her at all? >> No, I didn't strike at all. I just like cuz she was on top of me scratching. I just had to push her off and that's when she tripped into the the wooden thing on the side of the bed. >> Okay. >> And then Yeah. That's when like everybody came down cuz we were just kept yelling and yelling. So, >> okay. Are you willing to give me a sworn statement, >> which is >> I would just swear you in and you would tell the story again. >> Um, do I have to go in? Like >> I mean, I can't I can't force you to, but >> like I'm just trying to figure out the options cuz obviously I don't want to escalate anything into something. It's >> right. Like I said, I mean, I can't force you to, but part of that's just part of my job is to collect a sworn statement of the incident. So, >> like that's why I'm just trying like if I don't, does that affect me in a bad way? like >> uh just not no it's not I mean nothing's going to happen to you know it's not like I'm going to arrest you for not doing it so it's up to you if you want to that's fine if you don't >> I'm just trying to get best advice from you >> yeah I can't I can't unfortunately I can't give you advice you know you're you're an adult so yeah you got to make those decisions so >> call my mom real quick she'll pick up in two seconds >> just yes or no if >> I guess yeah >> you can call your mom that's fine >> I'm sorry I'm not trying to be >> No Like I'm not trying to start anything called I just have to back or >> so I mean you're not going anywhere. >> Oh >> so what I'm just writing it? >> No I would just swear you in. It's not I have a camera right here and you would just >> So what do I do? A sworn statement. >> The kicker. Dude was covered in marks. So if he's the villain somebody else left the receipts. She was definitely keeping secrets but messy truths don't stay hidden forever. The cop zeroed in knowing the real story had to surface. >> She's just saying if I should say yes or no on a sworn statement. and stuff. >> So, I mean, I'll explain at the end. Um, you're not under arrest. I'll tell you that. >> I'm not under arrest. So, should I just do a sworn statement or no? Yeah, I have to give a statement. You're right. I'm sorry. >> You'll do it. Okay. >> Yeah, that's fine. Okay. Let me let me call you. Let me call you. Sorry. >> Yankee 34. Can I have my case number, please? like he doesn't want >> he says he doesn't want a relationship and he like still comes back and sleeps with me and tells me he loves me [Music] and I >> guys >> I can tell you if you're not getting what you want >> he's getting what he wants So what is the point, right? Because if you have nothing to show for it, he's not with you, he can do whatever he wants, and then he comes and crawls back or does whatever >> and now you get into a physical altercation with one another. >> What just happened? >> Yeah. >> What is that for? >> Exactly. >> Because at the end of the day, if you both live here, if you're both students here, you're risking getting thrown out. You're risking all this stuff for what? Right? He's got to want to change. But why would I change if I know that I can just come hang out with you whenever I want to and I can still dangle the carrot theoretically. >> Exactly. >> And keep you around. >> So that's not going to elicit any change. >> Yeah. >> Set a boundary. Say what you want. If he can't give you that, on to the next one. >> Yeah, 100%. >> Do you know why they didn't call the police last night? >> Cuz I said I didn't want to press charges. and then I changed my mind. >> So just going forward when something like that happens, >> call the police, they don't they don't have any bearing here. So if you're going to if it escalates to a point enough where you're calling campus security, which that'll be said to them as well. um with injuries, there's no reason that you somebody shouldn't have been called and came here because like I said, so what if you didn't call us today? Then it just everything doesn't get documented. Nothing happens to anybody and you know, >> but just so that you're aware in the state of Florida, >> the female officer brought a whole mood of confusion. Her questions versus the chick's dodgy answers were a mess, and half the story was already peeking through, but the pressure she applied next level intense. This scene screamed how razor thin the line is between hunting for the truth and getting swallowed by straight up manipulation. >> When you're in a dating or domestic relationship, so dating is obviously you have some level of intimacy, right? Whether that's holding hands with one another or having you're in a dating relationship. Domestic is blood. So family, you share a child in common. You live with somebody as if you're a family. So stepparents, things like that. The victim loses the right to whether or not they want to press charges. So the state creates force separation >> meaning that we come out we determine who is the primary aggressor >> from that point whether or not the person who is considered the victim wants to press charges doesn't matter >> they still go to jail um or whatever obviously at that point whether it's uh it's pretty much for crimes like battery assault things like that um it creates a forced separation, forced cooling off period. The state of Florida does that because for those who are in true domestic violence situations where they're scared of their abuser, um they likely wouldn't ever press charges because of the fact that they're scared um and they don't want to be revictimized. They don't want their the husband or wherever to think that they're the ones pressing charges and getting them in trouble. So, just keep that in mind. >> Yeah. >> So, after this, after you like talk to him and decide whatever, if she decides that she's no longer pressing charges, >> she doesn't have a choice. >> She doesn't have a choice. Okay. >> We're already out here um at this point. And like I said, if we determine that you're in, like I said, some sort of dating relationship. If you told me we broke up in August, we haven't seen each other since. We've only acted as friends. I haven't seen him in six months. He came to my dorm last night and we got into an a argument and we went from there. It'd be something different >> because there again you're sleeping together, you're there's some level of whether you're boyfriend and girlfriend officially or not on paper, one would say that you're dating, right? Whether it's exclusively dating or not, >> that's what it is. >> Yeah, that's >> um so again Unfortunately, I will tell you that no matter what happens when you get into an argument with somebody, whether you're drunk, whether you're not, don't put your hands on anybody. >> This is Officer Smith of the Boer Tone Police Service Department. Today's date is March 6th. The time is now 5:37 p.m. The following is a tape statement with Ericio, is that correct? In reference to Bocertton Police Services Department case number. This statement is being taken at Lynn University, 3601 North Military Trail. Uh, raise your right hand. Do you solemnly swear that the statement you will give will be the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. So, help you God. >> The cop laid out Florida law and the whole primary aggressor hustle, mandatory separation, mandatory arrest, all meant to protect victims. This exposed the cracks. A victim's voice barely matters and the law only eyeballs the bruises, ignoring the tangled, twisted layers that actually make up the nightmare of a messed up relationship. >> Please state your full legal name. >> Okay. In your own uh words, can you tell me what happened in regards to the incident? Uh that was approximately 2:30 this morning. >> Um so I was in Fort Lauderdale with my friends. We were having fun. We were at the beach and stuff. I came home. I fell asleep in my room for a couple hours. Then I went upstairs to the girl I'm like like talking to. We used to date and now we're talking. >> Okay. But you've been intimate. Yeah. Okay. What's her name? >> Okay. >> And so I went back up to her room, fell asleep, I guess. Or she said she went through my phone. I woke up. The way I woke up was to a punch. I woke up. We started arguing about because she went through my phone. >> Um it just kept escalating for a while. like just kept getting hit, kept getting scratched, pushed, all that. She was on top of me at one point. So then I had pushed her off because she was like really scratching me, hitting me in my like neck and all that. I didn't strike or any of that. I just had push her off like as for protection. >> Mhm. >> And she had tripped cuz it's a very small room. She had tripped into the side of the wooden the side of the bed. It's like wooden. >> And then we had kept arguing for a little while longer. Same situation. And Then her friends had come down. Campus safety had come to like talk about the noise complaint. >> Mhm. >> And from there I had gone to sleep. She had gone to sleep. We woke up. We talked. We said, "I'm sorry. It was good." I thought we were good. And now Yeah. Now we're here. >> Okay. So the the first physical thing was you waking up to a punch. >> Yeah. >> And then from there she scratched you and then >> my phone pushed me like it was going on for a while. >> Okay. So she hit you several times. >> Yeah. Like I was trying to leave. I couldn't. She wouldn't let me leave cuz she wanted me to sleep with her. But like it was just it was just escalating. >> Um and I know you said you had some marks on your rib there, some scratches. If you could just go ahead and pull your shirt up real quick. >> Okay. And that's from her scratching it. >> Okay. >> Okay. All right. Is there anything you else you'd like to add to the statement? >> Um just that like she's is very physical with me. Like very physical. She is like she's on prescribed meds for like brain stuff to like calm her down and I don't think she was on it at 2:30 in the morning. >> Okay. >> And like she's done this multiple times before with me and just I don't know. >> Okay. >> This is like she always she's hit me before that like multiple multiple times. >> Anything else you'd like to add? >> Um no. >> Okay. The statement will not conclude. Time is now 5:40 p.m. >> Has this happened before? >> No. So, I'm going to tell you, and I'm going to be very honest with you, >> and as her friend, I hope you listen. Um, >> it doesn't get better. Never does, okay? It only progressively gets worse. Um, so the minute that either you or him put your hands on one another, that's it. >> Your relationship, that's all it becomes, is that I'm okay with somebody putting their hands on me, and I don't expect anything more. Right? Being drunk isn't an excuse. I've met plenty of drunk big men who have never put their hands on a female. >> Her tale was straight up chaos. Fights escalating, trust shattered, booze fueling the fire. The wildest part, both through hands, but the law slapped the primary aggressor label on just one. It hammered how brutal it is to decode domestic blow-ups, especially in cramped dorms with heated emotions and repeat scraps. um >> when you set the precedent of behavior that you allow, they will continue to do that to you as her friend. I expect you, whether or not she's listening or not, to consistently remind her of that fact, right? So, >> she also has to remember though that we can't babysit her 24/7 when it's 6:00 a.m. night. >> Um but sometimes a little bit of tough love, that's where that comes in, right? you can you can enable in a little bit and you can hey you know I feel bad for you right um if this ever happens again my response as a friend would be like okay what do you expect >> and I'd go back in my room and I'd go to bed and unfortunately you'd probably be out of a friend sooner or later because that's not the kind of behavior I would tolerate so I'm not going to associate with you because ultimately just for shits and giggles if she if she's your friend and this guy knows that he can beat on you and oh well right and then Now, all the other boys in school or his friends know, oh, these two girls hang out with each other. They maybe it's it's the same with girls who cheat on their boyfriends and you don't want to associate with them because you know that people will think that you do it as well, right? I'm not going to associate with you. >> I'm not going to be your friend. I don't want to have anything to do with you because I don't want boys, men, whatever it is to think that that behavior is okay around me. >> Um, so take it for what it is, right? People can hold your hand. They could do whatever. If you're not going to listen, you're you're not going to listen, right? But when you end up with a broken eye socket, busted teeth, >> I don't know, broken neck, hit by a car. I've seen it. >> Nobody's going to be at your bedside wondering if you're okay when you >> cuz I did. >> When when you do that, right? If you need help, if you need resources, if you need therapy or somebody to talk to to kind of formulate better habits, things like that, ask your friends, right? Ask your friends to go have lunch with you. Or if you have, I feel like I'm going to talk to him again or whatever it is, we need to go somewhere or do something, do it, right? Because at the end of the day, I'm sure your friends will do whatever it takes to make sure that you stay away from him, right? But when you start bringing him back into your life and accepting unacceptable behavior, nobody's going to feel bad for you, unfortunately. And that's just the hard truth, right? I'm not going to sit here and I'm not going to tell you that she's going to be there every day to hold your hand and get you through this. Ultimately, it's like drugs. It's like with anything else, right? You have to make the decision to stop doing it for yourself. And when you're ready for that, >> it gets much easier. >> Think about Gretchen. She has no friends anymore. >> She has her 33year-old abusive boyfriend. Look at Look at her. Like, >> man, some relationships hit full-on toxic mode, and even the cops get pulled into giving lectures. That's exactly the mess unfolding here. Their drama was already at peak chaos, and the female officer tried to school the girl, but her own approach was all over the place. >> That's not >> You're in college. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Not some stupid boy who puts his hands on you, who goes and gets blackout drunk by 7 p.m. Because I don't know about you, but I couldn't tell you that finding a man blackout drunk would be any sort of attractive, right? So, start to see those things for what they are and view those things with a different lens. And hopefully, he just starts to give you the yick because I could tell you I don't even know what the guy looks like and I have the yick. So hopefully whatever it is that you keep going through, something clicks for you because I'd really rather not come out here and you're run over by a car or beat to a pulp and on a ventilator or dead. >> Doesn't get any better. >> What'll happen is you'll stay in this relationship for another 5 years. You're never going to get what you want, right? and then you're going to get out of college and you're going to get a job and you're going to go somewhere and then you're going to be in another guy and then that guy is going to be somebody who puts his hands on you, but because you're used to that behavior, it's going to be okay for you, right? And you're going to continue to do that and you may get married to that guy and he may pump you full of love bombs and flowers or whatever and then knock you the next night, right? And then you have kids and when you have kids then you're getting in front of your kids or you're allowing that behavior around your kids and you become weaker and weaker the longer you let it go. You don't get stronger. You don't wake up one day and get strong enough to leave. Right? It's >> behavior that you need to learn right now. >> This isn't okay. This is not what I'm going to allow. You go to you go to therapy. You which I I could tell you that if he's already doing this now, it ain't never going to get better. But in a more mature relationship, right, if you're talking about drinking or cheating or things like that, everybody's got their flaws. It doesn't mean they're a bad person. Um, those things can be ironed out, right? You can work with somebody, you can go to therapy, they can change their behavior if they truly want you around, right? But if he makes you mad enough to make a decision to put your hands on him, which then elicits a response from somebody who's intoxicated to punch you back, right? You would hope that people have enough reservation and, you know, self-control that they're not going to hit a girl regardless of you slapping him or whatever. But some people aren't built like that. And unfortunately, one day he'll be way much much bigger than you and it's not going to end the way that you want it to. >> And you're right. It's just not worth it. It's not worth the pain and all this. It's just crazy. So he's >> you don't deserve that and you need to be like that. >> Yeah, you have flaws too, but you don't deserve any of us. And also after all of this, he has such an explosive personality. Came in the dorm room with me, Marissa, her boyfriend, who always there and was like, I do not trust you. I don't believe anything you're saying. Get out. Like, >> here's the wild part. The female cop basically put the girl on a pedestal like she was the only one who got hurt. Seriously, how do you hear one side and just call the dude the bad guy? That's straight up insane. One-sided tales always twist the whole scene, and Justice ends up suffocating when it only gets half the story. >> Think is it only going to stop at you or is it going to keep going? Not only for your safety, think about everyone else around you that is actively trying to help you and putting themselves in the middle of a very toxic situation. >> Like you don't know where that could lead >> and that's also not fair to you or people around you. >> You're right. Especially like it's just not fair. It's not something that like I should be surrounded by all my friends. >> I just can't let this be my life anymore. >> I agree. At this point, I don't think he should be in the >> I don't want to see his face. >> Um, this is considered dating violence. Okay. I've determined that she was the primary aggressor of the incident. Okay. Um, with that being said, she is going to have to go to jail tonight. Okay. I have a couple forms here. This is a victim rights to confidentiality form. Obviously, she knows who you are. So, but this is more so if somebody tries to get the report, uh certain information will be redacted. And this is a victim notification form, meaning that you'll get notified from the >> So, what is going on right now? She's going to jail right now. >> Yes. >> And Okay. >> So, I have two forms. If you want to fill them out, you can. You don't have to. Again, this is a victim's right to confidentiality form. If you want to read it, you can. It's just saying if someone were to try to pull the report, some of your information would be redacted. >> Uh, yeah. >> What? This is like to get my >> So, it's just it's just protecting your protecting your information. Yep. So, if you want to go ahead and print, sign, and date, and I'll take care of the rest. >> This is just so >> I don't really have a signature. >> That's fine. And then just date. It's the the 6th >> March right. >> All right. And then this is a victim notification form. I will fill this out if you uh want me to. It is just saying that you'll get a call that when she's getting released from jail. So if you need to like make any kind of arrangements or anything like that >> if she wants to call me. She >> No. No. It's not for her to call you. It's just for you to get notified and like because Right. Because technically you're a victim of of dating violence right now. >> It's It's okay. >> Okay. Do you want me to to Okay. Okay. So, you're going to So, this just says I I choose not to be notified when the arresty is released. Do you want me to to wave that for you? >> Uh, yeah, that's fine. >> Okay. So, you don't need to be called. Okay, I'll take care of this one then. >> Okay. >> All right. All right. Do you have any questions for me? Do you want the Do you want the case number? >> Yeah. >> Okay. What the? >> And just so you know, um, when it comes, >> so what were the charges like what was the first like alig like allegations like what was said like >> so I mean if you want to see all that I can you can get the report the there's instructions on here how to get it. Um, but so just to let you know in the state of Florida when it comes to dating violence and domestic violence. >> Finally the boyfriend dropped his side and just like that the whole scene flipped. Turns out he was the real victim stuck in her little drama trap. Once the truth landed, her fake victim act crumbled fast. Lies can shine for a hot second, but when reality rolls in, it shuts the whole charade down without mercy. >> Um, there's no discretion. So, if there's a physical incident, we have to determine who the primary aggressor is, and that person has to go to jail. We don't have a choice. It doesn't matter if somebody wants to press charges or not. So, this was going to happen regardless. Okay? So, I just want you to know that. So now is there still more stuff that I have to like >> So at some point the state attorney is probably going to contact you. Um so that's just kind of stuff on the back end. But so pretty much what happened is I talked to her first. >> I'm saying so is this now completely done or like can I still like get charged with some like something? I don't know charges on me. >> No. So the way it works so she she called and >> obviously I think that was probably her prerogative. Um, but when police come out, we talk to all parties involved. Um, was there anybody that witnessed the physical incident last night? >> No, it was just we were like I was sleeping. >> Okay. So, it was just the two of you in the room and they had come down after. >> So, pretty much is we talk to anybody that's there. Obviously, if there's any independent witnesses, that helps us. Right now, I got her story, I got your story, and what I'm deeming is that she started the physical violence. Okay? Meaning, you were the victim of a battery. So, she's going to get charged with simple battery dating violence. Do I have to charge her with that? >> That's what I was explaining. So, in the state of Florida, there's no discretion for us when it is domestic or dating violence. She has to go. That's to protect victims regardless of of you not wanting to. I have to take her up there today. Okay. >> Um, so that's what I was trying to explain to you. It doesn't matter whether like statement if you want to press charges, anything, that was still going to happen. So, it's not like you're making this happen. I just want you to know >> she knows that I I just don't. >> So, my my suggestion is cease contact. This is obviously not a good relationship, you know, especially if this is not the first time. Um, if you want to, you can get a you can go to the courthouse and get a protection order if you feel you need to. My suggestion, >> as long as I'm gonna block her out, >> I would I would seize contact block. You know, obviously this is not like you never know if it escalates more. Obviously, we don't The last thing we want is somebody to get hurt. Okay. You have any questions for me? All right. Thank you. I appreciate your time. All right. Take care. Over here. >> Yeah. Can you just put your phone on top of the car? >> All right. Put your hands behind your back. Okay. I'm going to explain what's going on. >> What? >> All right. I'm going to explain what's going on. >> What's going on? >> I'm going to tell you in a second. So, hold on. >> What's going on? >> All right. So, you're being placed under arrest for simple battery dating violence. Okay. >> Is he getting arrested? >> No, he's not. Okay. >> Why? So, I'm going to explain. So, based on your story and his, I determined that you're the primary aggressor and you started the physical violence. Okay? So, that's why you're going to be arrested today. If you have any questions, let me know. I'll try to explain it. But that's what's happening. Okay? >> I'll explain it to you. >> The boyfriend stayed ice cold calm, cooperative the whole time. Mad respect for that energy. He actually helped the cop untangle the mess and spill all the real tea. His act proved patience, and keeping it 100 always hits harder than screaming, crying, or tossing out excuses. >> Like I told you before, the victim loses the right to press charges when the investigation happens. If you're determined to be the primary aggressor, which you initiate the physical contact, it's you go to jail. Um, so you don't go call my dad, please. >> Yeah. Give me a second. Oh no. I will say again that this is one of the other reasons that we leave the relationships when they turn out like this because nobody's saying how he retaliated against you was okay. Call file. Please call some call my dad. >> Give me a second. If she doesn't have the number, if you give me the code, I'll get it out of your phone and give it to her so she can call. Okay. >> Wait a second. Just in case he has >> My vape is in my pocket. >> Okay, we'll take care. She's going to search you and we'll take care of all that. >> Anything that you have on, she's your roommate, right? She lives there. Would you rather leave your jewelry and stuff with her to bring back because it all has to come off. So, your vape, things like that, your phone and the cards in there will go with you. Everything else I'll put in a bag and then that'll go with her. Okay. >> You don't have anything on you? I want to read the number back to you when you're done. >> Please call five. >> Please put him on speaker. >> Hold on one second because if he has questions, she's not going to be able to explain. >> I'll let you get it on the phone. >> How do you take off? >> How do you take the bracelet off? >> This thing, right? >> Do you pull it? I don't. Okay. So, push it. Okay. 34. I'm going to have a white female 105. >> What the? >> This is why I didn't want to do this, bro. Everyone pushed me to do this. This is why I didn't want to do this. I need to talk to my dad. >> Listen. Just take a breath. >> Take a breath. Breathe. Breathe. >> You're going to be fine. It's a misdemeanor. >> Like I said, it's forced separation. Um, my other earrings don't come out. >> Which one? >> Um, the top one and that one. Yeah, they're locked in place. I don't know how to get it out. >> What about I just have a question. What about if there's like past history where like he was the original aggressor? It would be too late to like >> right right now. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. That that's not going to change. >> Bring it up to in court. >> Yeah. That's not what's going to that's not going to change what's happening. Unfortunately, >> your nose rings. I'll leave that in. You have a belly ring or anything. >> By this point, her emotional theatrics were straight up pointless. No pity, no pass, nothing coming her way. Who thought a fake soba story would slide? Nope. Not happening. The aftermath was harsh. And those crocodile tears didn't save her. They just turned the whole scene uglier. Proving drama alone won't beat the law. >> Probably going to ask you when you get there if you could take it out. So when they take the handcuffs off of you, we'll see if you can unlock it. Just face the car. You don't have anything on you that's going to poke me, prick me, anything like that. No money in your brawl or anything like that? No. [Music] to park for me. >> Here, I'm going to >> I'm going to give you that. Okay. From here, you go to our temporary facility where he just has to type paperwork up. So, you'll sit down. >> As long as that's done, I'll explain to your dad what's going on. When he gets back there, when he's done with his stuff before you leave, as long as you play cucumber, we'll have he'll probably be nice enough just to let you call your dad and talk to you, right? But the biggest thing right now is going to be just as fast as we can. we want to get you up there so that we we can get you processed and out. Um, so she'll she'll call your dad and let him know. I'll explain to him why it happened and that he should be expecting hopefully a phone call from you within the next 30 minutes to an hour. Okay. Um, but like I said, we just want to expedite the process. Um, when she gets back there, if you want to see when she's on handcuff that she can unscrew like her nose ring and stuff, then I would bring that. But I just I think about taking her meds today. What meds does she take? >> Um, she I don't know. She um she has I think she's bipolar and another thing. It's like different personality disorders. One bottle was empty. >> Just her going. >> Yeah, she's Yeah, she's gone. >> Okay. The other guy is not The guy isn't going. >> He's not being arrested now. >> Okay. >> Did you take your medicine today? >> Okay. Uh when are you due? Do you take it at night or >> in the morning? I didn't take it today. >> Okay. You I'm okay with that. >> You'll be out >> tomorrow. So you'll be able >> Well, you'll be out by the time to take your meds. Okay. >> So, you you should be fine. >> So, will I be out today? >> Um I just I don't know how they do um at at the jail. So, you come back to our facility, but then you go to Palm Beach County Jail. It's for temporary Yeah, it's for temporary holding. So, I don't know the schedule cuz I think now they changed it. You have to like see a judge. If you've never been in trouble before, they give you a court date and they send you on your way. I just don't know the time frame. So, I don't know if it's going to be tonight. Um, it could be tonight. I I don't know. I don't want to give you misinformation. >> Picking the primary aggressor is never simple. Even a tiny shove or swing can land someone in cuffs, no matter who escalated later. The law isn't here for feelings or context. It checks boxes. Even when the real story is a hot, messy tangle that makes zero sense on paper. But >> when you get up there, they should be able to tell you better stuff because they work with the jail. >> Okay. Um, do you need anything else? I'll make sure she calls dad and lets him know and then I'll talk to campus security. >> Okay. Yeah, I gave him a case number. >> Okay. Yep. Um, [Music] yeah. So, I mean, like I was explaining beforeh when you're in that domestic relationship, whether or not you want to press charges is one thing, right? We have to come out and the biggest thing is determining who started the altercation, right? So even though she has injuries, even though he hit her back, if he did initiate the physical violence and she did, which she admitted to, and he's saying the same thing, even though, like I said, it's not right that he hit her back, as far as the state is concerned, if we find out who's primary, they go. Um, when they go, it's a formality. Uh, it's not because he wants to press charges. It that's >> unfortunately that's just how it goes. anything that happened prior can be documented. So if she has pictures, things like that, I would say like the civil process of a restraining order, that helps for that. It's just when you start to to document like crimes that have dated a month, two months, 3 months out, it's kind of hard to legitimately file those because how do I know that she got those bruises from that? >> Um, and if I talk to him and he says, "I didn't hit her. I've never hit her." What what do we have? >> So even if her his injuries like I saw him yesterday a little scratch right here doesn't matter. >> It's not the level of injury like I said it's the primary aggressor. So who initiates >> solely what it's based on >> solely who initiates it. if you can't determine that. So, right, if they get into a boxing match, she's got injuries and he doesn't like let's just say he doesn't even have a scratch on him and we go out there and she's like, "No, I didn't hit him first. Like, he just pummeled me and he's like, "Well, no, I didn't hit her first. Like, she attacked me." But he's got nothing to show for it, then yes, you go based on injury. However, she admitted to touching him first. >> Um, so if he refuted that and said, "Well, no, I pushed her first." Okay, >> that would probably be a situation where they would both go. >> Um, so it's we want to avoid arresting the victim. >> So the person who was punched first, hit first, who we want to avoid that at all costs. However, there are in this >> there are situations where that doesn't happen. So, if they both have injuries, if they're both saying the other person started it, there's conflicting statements, we don't have any witnesses, they're both banged up, we would take them both. >> So, he's just like good to go. Like, no charges will be on whatsoever. >> Um, it she initiated it. So, again, it becomes self-defense at that point. Whether or not we agree that the level of self-defense, we don't we unfortunately, we don't get to argue that, right? We don't get to say >> at the end of it all, the blame landed squarely on her. If she'd just been straight and kept things on a chill path, this whole mess could have been avoided. One honest word might have saved her, but nope. One wrong move and she detonated the entire situation, leaving chaos in her wake. >> I can choose whether or not we want to do anything. So, what happens 99% of the time is I don't want to press charges or I do and then the other person does and neither one of you wants to go to jail. So, you both just decide not to press charges. Um, it's just different when it comes to dating and domestic. >> Unfortunately, this is what happens a lot of the time. People don't understand the law. They're not familiar with it. >> They think they're doing the right thing. Their friends think that, oh, well, she's got a black eye or whatever. He's obviously going to go to jail. And that's not how it works. Um, and then you get situations like this where she is I'm I'm not negating that she's probably a victim of plenty of other incidents. However, in this incident, she's not. >> I understand. So, what happens from here? She goes to the holding. >> She goes to our police department, which is downtown. Yep. And then she he does the paperwork. So, probably within the hour, everything will be done and she'll be transported up to Palm Beach County Jail, which is off of Southern Boulevard and I 95. So, it's literally right off of Southern >> It's Palm Beach County Jail. If you look it up, it's off Gun Club >> County Jail. Okay. Oh, I already I overheard that. I have that written down. >> Yeah. So, >> okay. Hi, this is um roommate. >> Yeah, of course. So, basically the cops came out and talked talked to me and talked to in the state of Florida, they basically since it's a dating incident. Um they look at who is the aggressor in the situation and the cops the cops thought that is the aggressor. So right now she is in handcuffs and she is heading to a holding cell in Bokeh and basically that they're going to process her and after that she's going she's going to go to Palm Beach jail and since she doesn't have any previous offenses, she should look to get out by tomorrow morning. >> How could they how could they think that? >> I don't know. I'm with I'm with the cop now. If you would like to speak to her. >> Yes. There you go. Hello, this is Officer Ricardi. >> Hi. What's going on? I mean, my my daughter's getting beat on and you're arresting her. >> Yeah. So, in the state of Florida, we have to determine who the primary aggressor is. Your daughter admitted to putting her hands on him first. So, she initiated the physical altercation. Um, he did not refute that. So, he said, "Yep, she hit me first." Um, obviously nobody agrees with, you know, a personal preference. I don't agree with anybody hitting anybody back. Um, however, >> so in Florida, Florida, a guy can beat on a girl because she she reached out to him first. >> She didn't reach out, she didn't reach out to him. She admitted that she slapped him multiple times first and then he initiated physical contact back. So, it becomes self. >> That's that's the law. You're allowed to defend yourself whether or not you agree with it or the level that he hit her or whatever. Unfortunately, it it's considered self-defense when somebody else hits you, whether or not you're a man or a woman. If you put your hands on somebody first, and we can determine that, you become the primary aggressor. Um, as she was explaining before, because it's a dating relationship and it's not friend-on friend, the victim, so him in this case, L and even her and I guess there's previous incidents she never reported. Um, >> friends always walk a fine line, ready to help, but the law doesn't let them run wild. The system piles the weight on personal responsibility and who's watching, which isn't always reliable. Sometimes even your crew can't step in without consequences, leaving the rules as the only referee in a mess that's bigger than anyone's good intentions. >> The victim doesn't have the right to choose whether or not they want to prosecute. So even if he was, I don't want to prosecute, the state of Florida automatically picks up the charges because it's domestic or dating violence related, it's to protect the victim of obviously a different circumstance when you're in a relationship with an abuser and you're scared of the abuser and you don't want to press charges because you're scared of retaliation. It it pretty much takes that right away from the victim. So the person that's determined to be the primary aggressor always goes to jail. Um it creates force separation. Then from there obviously I was explaining to her if she has documentation or things like that from previous incidents and she explains it to the judge or whatever court proceedings. Now what happens after the initial arrest if he says he doesn't want to be involved in any sort of court case the charges would ultimately get dropped. It's just like I said the initial arrest and forced separation he doesn't have any choice in just like she wouldn't have any choice in. Um I explained to your daughter in length prior to when the other officer was talking to I guess the male half that we don't put our hands on people right so whether a and at the very least I told her that unfortunately in situations like this sometimes the guilty party and the party that everybody knows is at fault whether it has to do with his previous abuse or things like that they sometimes get get away with things like this because they entice you or you get to a point where you're still letting them in your life and then you act out and you don't act like you should and then now you're on the hook for things. Um, trust me there there's I explained it to her. She understands that her friends, everybody has the best interest as far as trying to create, but ultimately it's up to her. So she shouldn't I I told her it doesn't get better. It only gets worse. So, you know, I hope that at some point it resonates with her and that she obviously has no further contact with this person because she called the police so out of out of fear for herself because he broke her lip and gave her a black eye. And the state of Florida is encouraging men to hit women by doing this. It's not really I understand your position, but this is this is really bad to send a young girl to to a holding cell into Palm Beach jail when she was beat on by a male. As a woman, I can't believe that you can even like that's a really really tough position. >> It's but it's but it's not because unfortunately the st the statue out outlines it very very clearly. It's the person who initiates the physical contact. So it has nothing to do with gender whether it's socially right or wrong. At the end of the day, you still as a female should not be putting your hands on a male. I there's no justification for his retaliation. I don't condone it either way, but you cannot also hide behind the guys that you're a female and that you can get away with hitting a man just because he's a man either. So, you know, I I explained it to her. She's aware of it. Um, >> since this wasn't just a random scrap, but a full-on dating mess, the law came down different. Victims can't just shrug and walk. Florida makes the state run these cases. The rules exist to protect anyone too scared to speak up. And the deal is clear. The primary aggressor, straight to jail, no debate, no second chances. >> She's she's okay. We're we're going to get her up there as quickly as possible. Hopefully at the very latest, she would be out by first thing in the morning. Um they give her a court date. Like I said, the state attorney would contact him. if he wants nothing to do with criminal charges, then what happens is the case just gets dropped. She goes on her merry way and hopefully she never speaks to him again. Um, I made her friends very aware that if she starts to go back to whatever sort of cycle that he's involved in that they need to put their foot down too because we at some point we have to realize that, >> you know, as her dad, I encourage her to call the police to look out for her and this is what I get. I I'm going to have a very long talk with campus safety, too, because if there were other incidents that she claims there were where she had a busted eye or >> she should have reported it. She should have called. She should have because this could have been a totally avoidable situation and sometimes we don't make those decisions because we care for the other person and we're blinded and we we misjudge and then it gets to a point where hey, this has already happened and you're dead, right? So, I know that this has happened one, two, three times before. So, now, yeah, call the police. >> I'm also the dad that convinced her when she didn't want to call. I made her call the police and now she's going to jail. >> Ultimately, it's nobody's we're everybody's an adult here, right? We make decisions whether drunk, whether not. um just going forward anytime some like I I hope that this has gotten at least enough ingrained in her head that when you start something like a relationship and >> look your your point is well taken and I understand it and I I I appreciate you doing a good job to explain it but the bottom line is as a dad when a girl's getting beat on the first thing that a child like okay she's an adult but she's still a kid right so the first thing you think of is regardless if there's if this type of physical altercation's coming down and I as a father encourage her to call the police, putting her in a holding cell because of this is like is it it's insane. It really is. >> And unfortunately, it's just most people until it happens, they're ignorant to like the law and what is required or what isn't required by statute. And most people don't realize throwing drinks on people is battery or poking somebody is battery until they're in a situation where the law is explained in entirety to them. So, um I told her friend to expect a call or whatever. If the friend can go get her, if she has Uber, whatever, um she's aware and then like I said, we'll talk to to campus safety going forward. I would just have her take whatever other picture she has and I would try and push her to get a restraining order. Um uh so that it obviously it forces again him to leave her alone. >> Nobody could have her call me before they put her in the car. >> No, she's the other officer want like I said wants to get her back to the police department so we can start the paperwork. >> At the end the cops had to huddle up, trade notes and piece the chaos together. But one thing was crystal clear. The case wasn't fading and she wasn't about to slide out untouched. Her energy screamed that she already knew the storm was coming. Bracing for way more drama than anyone around even imagined. >> But she will call you. He said as long as he gets back there and can do this quick, he'll let her use the phone to give you a call before she goes. >> Unbelievable. All right, I understand. But I I don't I can't tell you I'm real thrilled about it. It encourages people not to call the police. >> And sometimes that's the case. But unfortunately, I hope that if she's ever in this situation again, she knows that she should call the police immediately if a man puts her the hands on her and she doesn't stay and then avoid calling multiple times. And then now we're in this situation. >> Yeah, it's a pretty it's a pretty backward system, but I mean, I get it. >> Okay. Well, here's the friend. I don't know if you have any questions for her, but it's her phone. So, >> all right. Hello. >> Do you need anything or No, >> you already gave the case. I think he said he already gave it. You need a different >> Hey, did you get like all the case numbers? >> I don't know. Do you have a case number just in just in case you don't have it? >> We just want to double check. I don't know if you had a guy or >> so at least legal. >> 42. Can I have the case number out here, please? >> You getting ready to go home? >> Nope. [Music] I don't know >> the procedure here. All I will say is this. I don't know if he explained it to the the other >> whatever it is. >> I would just make it crystal clear to whoever works here and is employed here. If she comes with injuries because it was reported to campus safety, but she decided she didn't want to press charges, always call us because they don't have the right and nobody expects everybody to know what they're allowed or not allowed to do, right? Even if somebody says, "I don't want to press charges." is we'd much prefer you to call us, us come out and determine what happened last night and then we go from there because we would hate it wouldn't have changed anything. She still would have gone to jail. Um but in other situations where let's say she avoids calling and then now she's getting beat up for a second day in a row and and something like that. So if you're called if somebody has injuries, whatever it is, just cover yourself because if I was a parent, I'd be coming down on why did nobody call last night. So just make sure everybody knows. just call us. We'll come out. We don't mind. It's not a big deal. >> All right, cool. >> So, um that's like she's just >> Yeah. Uh I mean, unfortunately, she's probably going to be mad that everybody >> kind of forced her hand to to report as I tried to explain to dad. I I don't >> Unfortunately, I have to see this with very clear lenses and I can't My personal opinion on whether or not a man should hit a woman has to go out the door. Um because it doesn't matter, right? Yeah. >> As a girl, do I think you should hit a guy? Absolutely not. It's unless you if you're ready to get punched in the face, you shouldn't put your hands on somebody either. That's just plain and simple, right? Do I think it's justification for somebody else retaliating to that? Absolutely not. Because I'm sure that he could have grabbed her and controlled her in a better manner versus hitting her in the face, right? If we're drunk, if we're not. >> Here's the kicker. She was the one who dialed the cops on her boyfriend, thinking he'd catch the cuffs. But the tables slammed hard and suddenly she's the one behind bars, totally blindsided. One minute you're throwing accusations, the next you're tasting the consequences yourself. >> Slap, right? >> Her face is really [ __ ] up. >> But whatever it is, right, whether he punches her, whether he slaps her, none of that would be justification when you could restrain somebody else. But in that instance, how we defend ourselves, I I don't know, right? Because I could tell you that if somebody feels comfortable enough doing that and that's their first instinct, but if you're already an abuser and you're already somebody who likes to hit people >> and you now give me the opportunity to hit you, why would I not hit you back? >> Yeah. >> We can't expect him to act the way a normal man would act if he's acting that way. Right. >> I'm sure this guy will tell you, "I'd never hit a woman." >> Yeah. And then if somebody punches him, his first instinct isn't like she's a girl and punch her in the face, right? He's probably going to restrain her and act accordingly because that's not who he is. He's already shown you the type of person he is on multiple instances >> and then we instigate it and we hit him. We can't expect him to act any other way than he's already acted. Okay? >> It's not justification. It doesn't mean it's right or wrong. He has some serious lessons that need to come his way, but we don't avoid calling the police two, three, four times when he's the one that actually hits us and initiates it, has marks and bruises all over her that we can then prosecute him for. >> Because unfortunately then it does I've I've seen it plenty of times. Yeah. >> That we come out to these things and the real victim is the one getting arrested. >> Yeah. >> Because of the one instance they decide to call the police. >> Mhm. So when she's there, will she be able to make phone calls? How does that >> If it's a local number, um she should be able to >> like a local like instate >> like a Yeah. Like in the jail the dial out, she won't be able to call dad from the jail phone. If it's a 561 >> calling any of us, >> if it's a 561954 number, I don't even think it works. Miami >> zip like area codes. So >> no. Um I don't to my knowledge, I don't think so. >> Okay. Um, >> and then how does she get back from the jail? >> We shut her phone off so she saves battery. >> All her property gets put into like their jail property stuff and then when she gets out she can turn her phone on. She can let you know, hey, listen, I'm I've been released, whatever. This is where I'm at and somebody can pick her up who has a car or if she has Uber, she can Uber back, you know, at that. >> Did you tell her dad that part of it? >> Um, the other No, the other officer can explain to her she has questions. Um, but >> do what you can as far as being her friend to avoid this in the future. I would cease whatever contact anybody in your friend group has with this guy. And >> but that's what I just and if she decides to do this to herself, >> at some point you have to realize that you're not going to be able to intervene and you can stay friends with people, but when she comes to you and she's all black and blue, I'm not taking the pictures for you. I'm not walking you down to campus safety. You're on your own. >> What made zero sense was the female cop grinding to explain the rules to the suspect's friend until the very last second. If they'd known the law earlier, maybe they could have coached her and avoided the full meltdown. This whole scene screamed how cluelessness can turn a small drama into a total disaster in no time flat. >> Okay? >> Because at what point do we learn, right? If I continue to enable your your behavior, you're never going to do what's actually right for you. And sometimes making that decision on your own is what she needs to be able to push herself out. So you or the dad or the friend saying we need to go, we need to go and her being like okay fine and coming here >> she still may not be ready to let him go. She may get out of jail and go over there and talk to him about it. >> So I hope that's not the case. But >> restraining order, everything like that is done through the county um courthouse which is off of Atlantic and Delray. Yeah. >> So if she gets out, she wants to take the pictures, videos, >> anything like that. >> Are they going to believe her though when she was the one being arrested? >> Yeah. So it depends on the circumstance. Um >> like this circumstance after this she says, "I want a restraining order." >> You have to be able to prove. So documentation, images, text messages, things like that. You they'll work you'll work with a victim advocate who will exy process. It's not just I want a restraining order. Like you have to show proof. You have to write down specific instances. On this day, I was sucker punched in the face. That correlates with this picture and then he texted me 2 days later and apologized for hitting me. You know, whatever. If you have things like that, I hope the court would still put something in place. >> Um, but again, even then, it shows that she had injuries resulting from this. So even though she's the primary aggressor, it's not to say that it will completely negate >> anything that she tries to do in the future. It's just a little bit more of a lengthy process. >> All right. Well, thank you so much. >> I have a question. >> Yeah. Go ahead. >> Charges on. >> So So the way it works in Florida is because you guys are in a relationship that that qualifies as dating/domemestic violence. So it doesn't matter like uh we have no discretion when it comes to these situations. So even if a person says they don't want to press charges, we we yeah we still have to make an arrest and that's just more for safety of victims. And then if like in case they say oh no they don't want to do it because they're scared. So it had like in these situations it doesn't matter what the the people ask to do. We just have to affect a physical arrest. overnight. >> So, right now we're going to our police station and I'm going to have to fill out some paperwork. Um, that should maybe be an hour and a half, hopefully quicker. Um, from there I'm going to take you up to West Palm Beach, the Palm Beach County Jail. Um, you'll probably be there uh till the morning when there's Yeah. when there's first appearance. I'm not I'm not positive, but you're going to be okay. All right. Just breathe for me. >> Yeah. So I once I get you in there, I got to do my paperwork, but after I'll let you call him. Okay. >> Cops made it clear friends can't keep cleaning up her mess forever. Even after jail, she might circle back to the same toxic dude. Restraining orders needed receipts, pics, texts, full receipts of the chaos. Sure, she got hurt, but being labeled the primary aggressor threw everything into chaos. The real question, how do you even balance justice when the victim and aggressor are rocking the same face at the same time? A dating violence incident unfolded in which one partner reported being awakened and struck multiple times during a dispute. The reporter initially hesitated to press charges, but later decided to move forward. Upon investigation, officers identified the reporter as the primary aggressor and arrested them for simple battery. So, in the end, if you enjoyed the video, hit that like button and drop your thoughts in the comments. Let's see who stands out the most. The best comment gets pinned. And hey, don't forget to share this video with your friends and family so they don't miss out on the fun. And now, here's a challenge for you. On your screen, you're seeing the four best playlists. Click on anyone and I promise you won't regret it. You'll definitely enjoy this one. 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