neglect yes go put the cigarette in your mouth if you want to keep smoking it yes Robert we're going to go we'll talk to him we're going to go over here to the car can I finish myette please give one more big drag can I please come on we this is your second cigarette we've been here for way too long let's just get this over with give it a good drag come on all right drop it there you go drop it so am I going to be able to say anything to my children or my husband we'll let you talk to Robert in a second all right but not my children not right now no